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NHS staff invitation to menopause workshop to people who menstruate!

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sunshineandhappy · 14/04/2021 14:22

I received a generic email from the well being team at the nhs trust I am employed by inviting me to a managing menopause workshop which was open to 'people who menstruate or people who will go through the menopause'.
This was my reply I was disappointed to see the following phrase ‘those who menstruate or those who will go through the menopause ‘ in the below email. The correct phrase for the target audience should surely include the word women, even if the other phrasing needs to be used as well, as this clumsy phrasing, whilst appearing to be inclusive to a minority, is actually exclusive to the way the vast majority of the target audience for this seminar may feel. I do not want to be reduced to being a person who menstruates or a person who will go through the menopause, I am a woman, an adult human female. I hope my opinion will be considered in the spirit in which it is meant, as all groups matter, and all relevant individuals should be considered when generic emails are being sent to a large number of staff.'
We will wait to see whether I receive any response

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QuarantineQueen · 15/04/2021 17:31

@EastWestWhosBest last thread I was on they were a science teacher.

EastWestWhosBest · 15/04/2021 17:28

@CovidCorvid

I’d like to know if anyone they ran it past is actually a transman? Or are they just asking non trans, woke individuals what they think a transman might like.

Because I can’t imagine transmen would like being referred to in this way either.

It’s not the transmen they are worried about. It’s the women who have never menstruated due to not having the correct biology.
EastWestWhosBest · 15/04/2021 17:26

Does that mean trans women can come to these classes if it says women?

Well only if they are in complete denial about themselves or are being bellends and wanting to wind up women.

I’ve never known someone who works along side the NHS with so much free time on their hands...

CovidCorvid · 15/04/2021 17:00

I’d like to know if anyone they ran it past is actually a transman? Or are they just asking non trans, woke individuals what they think a transman might like.

Because I can’t imagine transmen would like being referred to in this way either.

Waitwhat23 · 15/04/2021 16:51

@JellySlice

Here we go - the deletions have begun. The people who fear women's speech have found this thread.
Indeed, my post was factual and politely worded. It contained no slurs or generalisations and didn't name any poster. It's difficult to see which talk guideline it broke. But still it was deleted.

The self appointed monitors of this board are deliberately making this space a place where women cannot discuss their own concerns and lived experiences. There is a reason for that.

EastWestWhosBest · 15/04/2021 16:50

@AssassinatedBeauty

What on earth is wrong with saying that the workshop is for women and others who menstruate and/or will go through menopause?
Exactly this.
Walkingtheplank · 15/04/2021 16:45

Only just seen this thread.

Well done OP for sticking your head above the parapet on this. And some great advice from other wise owls too.

RufustheSniggeringReindeer · 15/04/2021 16:45

@RabbitOfCaerbannog

if women can tolerate 'women and TM/NB/OFAB/any other titles people would prefer and find respectful and inclusive' then everyone else can tolerate female people who want to use the word woman for themselves alongside their own chosen words.

Yes

Yep
RabbitOfCaerbannog · 15/04/2021 16:40

if women can tolerate 'women and TM/NB/OFAB/any other titles people would prefer and find respectful and inclusive' then everyone else can tolerate female people who want to use the word woman for themselves alongside their own chosen words.

Yes

MichelleofzeResistance · 15/04/2021 16:38

If people would cover it and everyone should put up and shut up, then woman would equally well cover it. But the fact is that some people prefer not to call themselves a woman.

It's not difficult. Apply your own standards equally and it'll work just fine: if women can tolerate 'women and TM/NB/OFAB/any other titles people would prefer and find respectful and inclusive' then everyone else can tolerate female people who want to use the word woman for themselves alongside their own chosen words.

JellySlice · 15/04/2021 16:37

Here we go - the deletions have begun. The people who fear women's speech have found this thread.

Waitwhat23 · 15/04/2021 16:33

The fact my last post was deleted entirely proves my point.

RufustheSniggeringReindeer · 15/04/2021 16:21

women, and anyone female at birth.” Done

Yes that’s another good way of saying it

GCAcademic · 15/04/2021 16:15

Yes, off to walk the dog now. Sorry, I mean penis-owning canine, of course.

GCAcademic · 15/04/2021 16:12

You want trans women to have the right to be called women.

But you want to call women "people".

Oh, only trans women are allowed to be called women.

transbadger · 15/04/2021 16:12

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Waitwhat23 · 15/04/2021 16:11

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 15/04/2021 16:07

@ASugarr

But using the term 'people' includes all. It isn't excluding half.
This is awfully like 'I don't see colour' and 'All Lives Matter', isn't it? Would you debate with a group of people from ethnic minorities and tell them that their specific issues don't need to be considered separately from white people's issues? Would you go into a group of people with a visual impairment and tell them that they can't describe themselves as blind because some other people have decided for them that it's offensive?

You see, ASugarr, there are many issues that affect women - adult human females - and we need that word left as it is, clearly understood by every English speaker, so that we have a name for our group.

WeeBisom · 15/04/2021 16:05

Considering the trans activist side accuses gender critical feminists of “reducing women to their body parts” I’m astonished that they support this objectifying, dehumanising language like “people with a cervix” which LITERALLY describes women by their body parts! As women have said countless times there is a very easy compromise here : you can say “women, and anyone female at birth.” Done.

EyesOpening · 15/04/2021 16:05

I’d just like to point something else in the NHS guidelines so helpfully posted for us, posted under

  1. Make sure everyone can use the service

Make sure people with different physical, mental health, social, cultural or learning needs can use your service, whether it's for the public or staff.

Also people who do not have access to the internet or lack the skills or confidence to use it.

Why it's important

NHS services are for everyone. We have a duty to consider everyone’s needs when we’re designing and delivering services.

“Inclusive, accessible services are better for everyone. For example, using simple words helps people who are sick or stressed as well as people who have a learning disability. ”

service-manual.nhs.uk/service-standard/5-make-sure-everyone-can-use-the-service

I think words such as “woman” and “man” fit this description, as well as being more recognisable for those for whom English is not their first language. On the other hand, words such as (people with/who etc) “cervix” “menstruate” “menopause” are probably not so easily understood nor recognised.

transbadger · 15/04/2021 16:02

@ASugarr

But using the term 'people' includes all. It isn't excluding half.

You want trans women to have the right to be called women.

But you want to call women "people".

Help me out here @ASugarr !!

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transbadger · 15/04/2021 15:58

@applesaucespoon

But women are people with a cervix so

Don’t some women have penises?

Badass Badger Award for you!

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applesaucespoon · 15/04/2021 15:56

But women are people with a cervix so

Don’t some women have penises?

Sophoclesthefox · 15/04/2021 15:55

Women who’ve had total hysterectomies don’t have a cervix. They do, however go through menopause.

A workshop aimed at “people with cervices experiencing the menopause” specifically excludes women who have had total hysterectomies.

Let’s just be clear about who matters here and who, clearly, doesn’t.

Wrongsideofhistorymyarse · 15/04/2021 15:55

And non binary people.

Non-binary people of the female sex are included in the word 'woman'. It's a word that encompasses half of the human race.

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