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NHS staff invitation to menopause workshop to people who menstruate!

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sunshineandhappy · 14/04/2021 14:22

I received a generic email from the well being team at the nhs trust I am employed by inviting me to a managing menopause workshop which was open to 'people who menstruate or people who will go through the menopause'.
This was my reply I was disappointed to see the following phrase ‘those who menstruate or those who will go through the menopause ‘ in the below email. The correct phrase for the target audience should surely include the word women, even if the other phrasing needs to be used as well, as this clumsy phrasing, whilst appearing to be inclusive to a minority, is actually exclusive to the way the vast majority of the target audience for this seminar may feel. I do not want to be reduced to being a person who menstruates or a person who will go through the menopause, I am a woman, an adult human female. I hope my opinion will be considered in the spirit in which it is meant, as all groups matter, and all relevant individuals should be considered when generic emails are being sent to a large number of staff.'
We will wait to see whether I receive any response

OP posts:
NeedToKnow101 · 19/04/2021 20:06

n England, screening for AAA is offered to people with penises, and trans women, during the year they turn 65.

Scrotum-havers and trans women aged 65 or over are most at risk of getting AAAs. Screening can help spot a swelling in the aorta early on when it can usually be treated. Screening for AAA is not routinely offered to:
• people with vaginas
•People with penises under 65
•scrotum-havers who have already been treated for an AAA

This is because the risk of getting an AAA is much smaller in these groups.

ListeningQuietly · 19/04/2021 19:56

Sunshine
Just imagine the uproar if the whole of that page had to be feminised
offered to
men and other people
men and transmen
and not offered to
women and other people
men and other people
oh, hang on

they know what women are / are not
methinks a bit of sex discrimination
is going on here

sunshineandhappy · 19/04/2021 19:49

He's surely given me some ammunition in the example he's given me. It's ok to use the word men but not the word women 😮 all I want is the inclusion of 'women and' in hospital emails. There's another email being sent tomorrow!

OP posts:
ListeningQuietly · 19/04/2021 19:48

looking at that link :
pregnant women seems OK on a page to do with Men's health
but not women's

oh silly me
its because the me are not clever enough to work through the
doublespeak
that women are used to WinkGrin

SaturdayRocks · 19/04/2021 19:46

I mean we all know the answer. It’s because some men who claim they are women target women’s medicine. And the reasons for that are unmentionable here, but real nonetheless.

And every time men who claim they are women do this, they reveal just how much they really are men to their very core.

AnyOldPrion · 19/04/2021 19:45

Sorry, women’s reproductive health, not women’s medicine,

AnyOldPrion · 19/04/2021 19:44

Indeed having looked at the link myself, I have no idea why they pointed it out as it’s perfectly clear throughout and mentions both men and women.

Which begs the question, why is it specifically that they would use dehumanising language, not for an illness that affects women, but for anything related to women’s reproductive health..

I mean we all know the answer. It’s because some men who claim they are women target women’s medicine. And the reasons for that are unmentionable here, but real nonetheless.

AnyOldPrion · 19/04/2021 19:38

@persistentwoman

Out of interest I took a look at the language used in the Aortic Aneurism Screening Service that the reply mentioned. Oh look - it's very clear that this is a heart issue that applies to men so only men are routinely screened:

www.nhs.uk/conditions/abdominal-aortic-aneurysm-screening/

No penis havers or ejaculators . Plain clear targeted language. As it should be - except when it comes to women in the NHS. Sad

Seeing as they pointed out this particular section, there might be mileage for sunshineandhappy to point this out and pinpoint the fact that in her experience the dehumanising language occurs more often when it’s women who are being targeted (perhaps with further examples) and ask them pointedly why they think that might be as the most likely reason for this difference is sexism and disrespect for women.
NeedToKnow101 · 19/04/2021 19:08

@persistentwoman

Out of interest I took a look at the language used in the Aortic Aneurism Screening Service that the reply mentioned. Oh look - it's very clear that this is a heart issue that applies to men so only men are routinely screened:

www.nhs.uk/conditions/abdominal-aortic-aneurysm-screening/

No penis havers or ejaculators . Plain clear targeted language. As it should be - except when it comes to women in the NHS. Sad

What a pathetic non-reply they gave you. Maybe you should proof-read and edit that link so they can see how it feels to be called a penis-haver and scrotum-hanger.

IbrahimaRedTwo · 19/04/2021 18:31

Not everyone who menstruates is a woman

Literally everyone who menstruates is a woman.

RabbitOfCaerbannog · 19/04/2021 18:28

They would prefer that the word woman is not associated with any of its biological meaning at all, just inner feelings and then there is no distinction between whether you’re a woman who menstruates or one with a penis!

Yes and in the process make it clear via the language that you use that the other lot are the support humans, the bleeders, incubators etc

persistentwoman · 19/04/2021 18:26

Out of interest I took a look at the language used in the Aortic Aneurism Screening Service that the reply mentioned. Oh look - it's very clear that this is a heart issue that applies to men so only men are routinely screened:

www.nhs.uk/conditions/abdominal-aortic-aneurysm-screening/

No penis havers or ejaculators . Plain clear targeted language. As it should be - except when it comes to women in the NHS. Sad

Biscuitsanddoombar · 19/04/2021 18:20

@AnyOldPrion

”Gender Diversity in particular has seen unprecedented change in recent years, with more recently, a focus on maternity services following patient feedback.”

This tells me we have to complain every single time we are excluded by their ludicrous use of dehumanising language. I am aware of Stonewall at al’s influence, but this suggests that this might be partly driven by a tiny group of people who are determined to complain loudly on every possible occasion in order to drive the change they want.

Yep! It’s a common campaigning tactic. Get stonewall in at board level flogging their training & quality Mark and get activists complaining at the grassroots level - duel approach

It’s quite normal to have people who just go through publicity materials to find a basis for complaints

However I’m still baffled as to how it’s this that gets so much traction. People with disabilities have been complaining for ever about exclusionary language as well as physical exclusion because of inaccessible buildings etc but strangely very little seems to change...

Ereshkigalangcleg · 19/04/2021 18:17

Agree, we have to start complaining more.

AnyOldPrion · 19/04/2021 18:11

”Gender Diversity in particular has seen unprecedented change in recent years, with more recently, a focus on maternity services following patient feedback.”

This tells me we have to complain every single time we are excluded by their ludicrous use of dehumanising language. I am aware of Stonewall at al’s influence, but this suggests that this might be partly driven by a tiny group of people who are determined to complain loudly on every possible occasion in order to drive the change they want.

ListeningQuietly · 19/04/2021 18:06

NHS policies and guidance are increasingly adapting to be more inclusive in the use of language and terminology to reflect society. Gender Diversity in particular has seen unprecedented change in recent years
Which rather ignores the fact that
only those without a Y chromosome
have periods
only those without a Y chromosome
go through the menopause
only those without a Y chromosome
go through pregnancy and childbirth

Strange that an organisation in charge of health care has such a poor grasp of biology

NiceGerbil · 19/04/2021 18:05

'. It is a complex area but the intention is always one that acts in a person’s best interest and accords them dignity and privacy.'

I don't think referring to women by their bodily functions is very dignified. Periods aren't dignified. How is it dignified to essentially refer to someone as a person who expels blood and tissue from their vagina cyclically.

Would a man find it dignified to be referred to as a person with a scrotum?

They genuinely think this language is dignified.

The explanations are always more damning than the original.

Lifeaintalwaysempty · 19/04/2021 18:03

@OnlyTheHousekeeper if the word woman is associated with any of the biological functions that women go through, this hurts the feelings of trans women as this is a definition of women they can’t sit within.
They would prefer that the word woman is not associated with any of its biological meaning at all, just inner feelings and then there is no distinction between whether you’re a woman who menstruates or one with a penis! Hmm

OnlyTheHousekeeper · 19/04/2021 17:49

@Kit19 @Lifeaintalwaysempty I meant transwomen Blush

But it still doesn't make sense that if you desire to be a woman, then applying the word women to you should make you happy!

If TWAW and TMAM then there is no need for any of this, simply men and women is sufficient as appropriate.

After all surely transwomen know deep down they don't menstruate or go through menopause either so to be referred to this bodily function is just as exclusionary!

ChattyLion · 19/04/2021 17:37

I wonder if it’s worth asking them to help to get to the point of resolving this soonest by defining sex and gender and gender diversity and gender reassignment as used in their correspondence.
And by asking them again if they could please respond to your sex-based points in relation the dignity and privacy of women/adult human females in this workplace. These other measures they have described taking (while important to note for women) don’t seem to be directly relevant to women (natal females), regardless of how they identify their own gender, in the sense of your question which is was about the dignity of peri and post menopausal colleagues at your workplace who by definition will only be female. If this employer didn’t avoid using sex based terms it would be much clearer what they meant.

Feelinghothothottoday · 19/04/2021 17:36

I don’t think the reply even warrants the term mansplanning. They couldn’t be bothered to understand your concerns or respond to them. Rubbish standard reply.

Leafstamp · 19/04/2021 17:33

I wonder how much your Head of Equality and Diversity is paid and why they feel the need to seek external guidance on this. Pathetic. No wonder the NHS is in such a poor state if senior staff have to defer to external consultants.

MeltsAway · 19/04/2021 17:25

It is a complex area but the intention is always one that acts in a person’s best interest and accords them dignity and privacy.

But they're practically admitting that they don't care about 52% of the population's 'dignity' or 'best interests.'

RabbitOfCaerbannog · 19/04/2021 17:24

@Kit19

hmmmmmm

I am assured there was no intention to make anyone feel excluded, on the grounds of gender, gender diversity or gender reassignment status

you felt excluded on the grounds of sex not gender

Nonetheless we have again sought external advice on inclusive terminology are hopeful to find inclusive wording that recognises and does not diminish your or anyone’s identity

means we will get advice from Stonewall which is going to come back and say their language is fine

well at least they came back to you and didn't just handwave away your concerns. Be interesting to see what their update is

Yes, this. "We've outsourced our thinking on this to Stonewall in order to avoid getting told off, we're really not as bothered about whether women are upset".
MeltsAway · 19/04/2021 17:21

That answer from your EDI people is perfect mansplaining, and their focus on "gender" rather than "sex" contravenes the Equalities Act.

It is patronising & pompous and doesn't acknowledge the offence caused to women by excluding them from a workshop fucking well only women are qualified to attend.