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Anyone fancy co-parenting with LOJ?

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AdHominemNonSequitur · 03/04/2021 17:56

Owen Jones wants a baby, and would like a lesbian couple to impregnate. Any takers on mumsnet? He could be quite a catch for someone looking for a sperm donor and a co-parent to raise a well balanced child.
He got a bit of flack, so is doubling down on the the "anti-trans cult" and calling everyone homophobic.

Anyone fancy co-parenting with LOJ?
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NiceGerbil · 04/04/2021 22:50

The idea that to grow a baby you just need a womb is an extremely misogynist view shared by anti abortion types.

It's woman as vessel. You'll note that anti abortion pics always show the foetus floating in space. The woman is invisible, not relevant. Oh why not just give it up for adoption they say. As if carrying a baby to term, childbirth are nothing.

What happened with formula was an example of this. Oh breast milk is just something women do. All mammals do it. Science can do better, obviously.

But they keep finding new stuff about how it works, what's in it etc

The arrogance of it.

This idea oh just get a human womb and put it anywhere fine. The idea that women's bodies interact with, nourish, react to the foetus is just. Not of interest.

The interest in improving things for pregnant and birthing women is, where? Not much in evidence.

The interest in growing babies without women has been interesting forever. For men especially. The one thing they really need us for.

yourhairiswinterfire · 04/04/2021 22:48

suppression of testosterone

I was wondering about this. When I started losing my hair (initially started as female pattern hair loss/Androgenetic alopecia) I was looking into possible treatments and Spironolactone came up. A testosterone blocker. It's believed that FPHL is caused by the hair follicles being very sensitive to the tiny, normal amount of androgens women produce.

I assume transwomen take testosterone suppressants? (Someone please correct me if I'm wrong). It was stressed so much that you absolutely should not get pregnant when on Spironolactone, because it causes birth defects in baby boys. I think their penis doesn't develop properly, amongst other risks. You have to come off the medication for months before trying to conceive. Same with Minoxidil, a foam you rub on your scalp to stimulate hair growth. Birth defects have been reported the same as with Spiro, because it's an anti-androgen.

So, if transwomen take testosterone suppressants, how could they become pregnant safely? And they wouldn't be able to come off them during a pregnancy, because surely the testosterone they'd start producing naturally would be extremely dangerous for the baby, and clash with all the other artificial female hormones needed to sustain the pregnancy?

PotholeHellhole · 04/04/2021 22:31

If any branch of medical science is going to devote itself to understanding and artificially replicating anything the human body does, can it be replicating breastmilk/improving cows milk-based formula formulation to more closely copy human milk?

That would be fantastic. Both for women who don't want to breast feed and for women who want to, but can't due to circumstances beyond their control.

AdaFuckingShelby · 04/04/2021 22:25

Spot onConfused

Helleofabore · 04/04/2021 22:24

Of course, I do have to admit that if testes have been removed, there is no testosterone to suppress. Still doesn’t mean the other chemicals being taken are healthy for a baby.

Helleofabore · 04/04/2021 22:22

Oh dear. We are onto males receiving womb transplants AGAIN.

Posters who believe it possible to carry a foetus as a male have obviously never been there throughout a pregnancy with an intimate partner or/and have been sold hope by people who have not told these males the entire story.

And no matter how regular posters on this board try to explain, it is ignored.

Please. Take it from Mumsnet posters who either have been pregnant and some posters may even be doctors, nurses and midwives with huge knowledge.

A uterus is not the only thing needed to carry a foetus. Unless you can also reprogram MOST of your body, and not just with hormones, you cannot do this. From your body’s programming taking calcium from your teeth as needed, to an intricate feedback loop to provide different things at different times to the developing infant and your own body, it is NOT just the uterus!

A female body is designed to do it, so a transplant will work. It has all the other programming too. I believe there is still many issues.

However, the chemical cocktail already taken by a transwoman, and the unreliability of suppression of testosterone, cannot be healthy for a developing infant either. There are so many chemicals, even foods, females must be careful of, why on earth do any males think this would be for the good of another human being???

And what about the ethics for experimenting on unborn children? Are posters who post this stuff prepared to also take on the responsibility for allowing unborn children to be experiment ‘material’.

Any person who advocates for males to carry foetuses must accept their role in history for experimenting with unborn children. There will be no where to hide.

Abhannmor · 04/04/2021 19:35

Can't he ask Suzanne Moore to help out? I'll just get me coat then.....

adviceseekingnamechanger · 04/04/2021 19:26

I'm still laughing that @shizuku thinks a woman receiving a womb transplant is somehow evidence that a trans women/biological male could receive one. You understand there's quite a significant, fundamental difference between the two, yeah? And zero concern mentioned for the baby of course. Just looking forward to trans women being able to stick it to the bigots. Very revealing.

Honestly every single time you post, lurkers are reading and seeing the gaping holes in your arguments. You aren't doing your cause any favours. But it is hilarious to watch.

Bordois · 04/04/2021 18:54

@Shizuku

Hopefully womb transplants for trans women will be a thing soon, cos it'll be so much fun watching bigots imploding when a trans woman offers to be a surrogate for a gay couple.
If you think that will be fun, the effect a pregnancy will have on a body not designed to accommodate it will be fucking hilarious. Oh, if it weren't for the fact that there's an actual babies life being involved in the experiment you absolute psychopath.
RedToothBrush · 04/04/2021 18:49

@sashagabadon

OJ aside, I am not sure why any woman would actively choose to coparent with someone they are not in a relationship in. Why add that extra layer of stress/ admin/ potential for conflict/ disagreement? What if the co parent becomes an arse and argues with you that over every tiny thing? Why out your self through that when it is not necessary. Especially a lesbian couple where you have two parents. You can pay for babysitting if “an extra pair of hands” appeals, you’ve got grandparents and maybe uncles, aunts and cousins already. You can get sperm on the internet. What would the male co parent bring to the table?
You also have to consider the future partners of potential single co-parents.

OJ says nothing about his partner (no idea if he has one).

The whole idea of co-parenting between 3/4 parents (or even potentially more if couples split by design rather than by unfortunate circumstance doesn't strike me as being in the best interests of the child tbh.

But yeah. I guess I'm a bigot. shrugs I am not longer particularly bothered by the slur. Esecially if its one thrown about by OJ

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/04/2021 18:38

Empress

I know it’s a rhetorical question but I wouldn’t expect ovaries to function.... unless we really are talking pure sci fi with a fully functioning, genetically altered ‘dual sex’ person. My thought was impregnation via donor egg or eggs somehow ripened and extracted prior to implantation from the ovaries of the donor uterus and this theoretical and apparently easy implantation method doesn’t include ovaries... and transmen seeking hysterectomy could consider donating their uteruses. Hmmobgyn.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/1471-0528.15438

SapphosRock · 04/04/2021 18:17

@yourhairiswinterfire

They tweeted then deleted this. Speaks volumes...
Maybe they were addressing TRAs.
EmpressWitchDoesntBurn · 04/04/2021 18:05

True. And maybe they could even find a way to grow their own eggs, or would they also be provided with fully stocked ovaries?

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/04/2021 18:01

@Shizuku

Hopefully womb transplants for trans women will be a thing soon, cos it'll be so much fun watching bigots imploding when a trans woman offers to be a surrogate for a gay couple.
According to gender theory, a gay couple could be a man and a transman or 2 transmen.

If ever a person born with male gametes were able to have a womb implanted, wouldn’t it be easier to impregnate themselves than expecting a transwoman to do the job?

ArabellaScott · 04/04/2021 17:47

Well blow me down, Tinsel. Satire is impossible these days.

TinselAngel · 04/04/2021 17:41

@ArabellaScott

Jedward?

If they're busy, maybe The Cheeky Girls could discuss Corbyn's comeback tour?

They're Lib Dem's aren't they given one of them dated Lembit Opik IIRC Wink
yourhairiswinterfire · 04/04/2021 17:33

They tweeted then deleted this. Speaks volumes...

Anyone fancy co-parenting with LOJ?
SapphosRock · 04/04/2021 17:28

OT but I am delighted that whenever I see SapphosRock post now I shall imagine her surrounded by tiny vikings

Grin they're not so tiny Gibbons - my kids are made of strong Viking stock. Won't be long before they tower over me and DW.

PronounssheRa · 04/04/2021 17:19

Every time I want some intelligent and insightful political commentary Jedward are the first people that come to mind, always.

Let's be honest OJ contacted them because they share his brand of misogyny. But fucking hell, Jedward, Grin is OJ struggling to get guests on his new channel.

Back to the subject at hand, wombs are not plug and play.

GreyhoundG1rl · 04/04/2021 17:14

That's exactly what it's about. Incredibly ugly post there from our friend Shizuku.

Erkrie · 04/04/2021 17:06

Hopefully womb transplants for trans women will be a thing soon, cos it'll be so much fun watching bigots imploding when a trans woman offers to be a surrogate for a gay couple

It's not about wanting a child then. Just getting one over on women. Using their transplanted organs. Lovely. Not that I could imagine a queue of women willing to donate. So I don't think it's likely to be a regular occurrence even if it does become technically possible.

Gibbonsgibbonsgibbons · 04/04/2021 16:55

It's already been done with women who don't happen to be trans way to bury the lede there Hmm

OT but I am delighted that whenever I see SapphosRock post now I shall imagine her surrounded by tiny vikings Grin

yourhairiswinterfire · 04/04/2021 16:48

Could there possibly be a gigantic whiff of the most monstrous hypocrisy going on here,

Yeah, the activists made these rules, and now seem upset that people are actually playing by them. It's not homophobia when it comes from them, it's 'progressive', but us applying their own logic and rules to this situation absolutely is homophobia.

Confused Someone make it make sense!

Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/04/2021 16:48

If they're busy, maybe The Cheeky Girls could discuss Corbyn's comeback tour?

Grin
Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/04/2021 16:47

Well, me and the gynaecologists and transplant experts who wrote this paper:

Gynaecologists and transplant specialists are not fertility experts. You don't seem to realise there's a bit more to it than sticking a womb in and hoping it takes.