Movie/tv scenes that make you uncomfortable

Too many.

Domestic violence in Carousel and casual treatment of kidnap in Seven Brides before settling into domestic bliss.

www.mcsweeneys.net/articles/seven-brides-for-seven-brothers-an-explainer

Even back in the 60s (?) there was controversy about the rapes in the original TV Poldark and Fortsyte Saga

Too many of the romcoms that humorously included the woman being spanked for some transgression or other.

mainstreamspanking.wordpress.com/2019/05/14/more-billboards/

I didn't see much television when I was young because it wasn't subtitled. I've recently seen some TV classics that people rave about and find them unwatchable because of the casual or aggressive sexism.

Watching reruns of Frasier right from the beginning, it’s actually pretty good at presenting independent female characters, but there was an episode recently where Roz had a one night stand with Bulldog and then wants nothing to do with him. They pulled out that old rapey trope of enforced kissing, weak slapping and her giving in, which didn’t sit well with me. That always reminds me of High Plains Drifter, as mentioned by a pp, which I saw in my teens and hated.

Back to future where Biff and the mum are in the car and it he is sexual assaulting her. Holding her down touching her trying kiss her. While she screams for help.

Miracle on 34th Street. Fond childhood memories of that film. Shared it with my kids last Christmas. Really shocked and sickened by the reaction of the main guy when the woman turns down his marriage proposal. He gets angry at her and points out all the nice things he's done for her as if now she owes him something in return.

The TV scenes that make me angry are those where some entitled little prince or princess disrespects parents or adults. Child yells something like "mum there's no hot water" or "Wheres my PE shorts?" etc. It is permitted scenes like this which encourage children to disrespect parents and other adults and to imagine that this kind of behavior is acceptable. There is at least one TV advert of this type. If you show this kind of behavior then you should show the little horrors being chastised for it.

I can still remember the one time I yelled upstairs to my mother in this way - and my father knocked me across the room with his fist. I never did it again!

The attempted rape scene in Robin Hood Prince of Thieves. While he’s trying to commit the crime, Alan Rickman’s character comes out with stupid one-liners about needing to concentrate. It jarred horribly.

Crap film all over though.

an old one but wrong on so many levels
one of the first 60's Star Trek episodes where the guy is delivering some space age mail order brides with some help from the Enterprise. Of course they are all ultra sexy (complete with poses), and the men (except for Spock) are drooling all over their shoes. They get delivered to the lonely miners on the desolate planet, and it turns out they are taking some kind of pills (the Venus drug) to keep them so sexy. If they don't take them they lose their sexyness. (Cue make-up change). But then in a plot twist, it turns out that the drug is just a placebo, and what makes them so mega-desirable is the confidence they got from the pills... I mean, I was like nine years old watching this, trying to process, if I don't look as hot as them it's because of a personality flaw...

I turned Clockwork Orange off.

The Breakfast Club. Judd Nelson's character sexually assaults Molly Ringwald from under the desk (and then they get together later in the film )

I love the film but that scene is horrendous

Those aren’t funny obvs but they aren’t portrayed in the way you would expect them to be

That episode in poldark where they manage to justify semi-accidental wife murder- as in, you can tell they are trying to get you to root for the killer .Similarly the bit where Ross effectively rapes Elizabeth.

Good lord, if that woman posted on Mumsnet we'd all tell her to seriously consider an abortion.

I mean, presumably she specifically decided she didn't want to use her friends sperm for this?

(Also - his accidental spilling of his sperm wtf??? Lends a whole new image to penis beaker)

Yeah the fact that penny was “cured” of her ridiculous desire to remain child free left a bad taste in my mouth. Like it was just one more win for Leonard to squeeze out of her.

Might help if I say what the link it!

Pop-culture Detective: The Adorkable Misogyny of The Big Bang Theory.

@Biscuitsanddoombar THAT'S how they chose to end the show?! Ffs!

The film Bad Bosses where the Jennifer Aniston character drugs her boss and then effectively rapes him. We stopped watching after that scene, it was disgusting but meant to be amusing because it was a woman doing it to a man.

So many things in The Big Bang theory but my special 🙄🙄🙄 is reserved for the fact that throughout the show, Penny was one of the few mainstream female tv characters who was able to voice consistently that she didn’t want children (even though there were multiple scenes of Bernadette being a cow ti her about it) and then lo and behold in the final episode Leonard who really really did want children ‘forgot’ to use a condom and penny is pregnant. FFS on so many levels!!!!!

Oh yeah, The Big Bang Theory is horrible ( and terrible).

The entire Ross/Rachel thing in Friends. He was so abusive.

m.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/friends-joey-rachel-twitter-thread-ross_uk_598b0135e4b0449ed506d5ef

Yes - quite a few scenes from the Big Bang Theory are creepy and sleazy. A much older actor in his 40s being with a 19 year old actress was off (5th Element). Add to that the numberour film where the male lead its at least 15 years old older.

The Peep Show - and might watch another series as I like some aspects of it, but the female characters are definitely only objectified in the first series and one scene has one of the main characters batting the badminton shuttlecock far too hard at her head during a game because he's resetful she got a promotion. Then there's one of them lying saying his grandad's dead in order to get sympathy and a handjob. Probably that was the point of the show though really as neither character are portrayed flatteringly generally.

Friends - don't remember specific scenes but I found some of Joey & Chandler's behaviour quite sleazy towards their apparent female 'friends' at times. It's the kind of thing women ate expected to put up with under the excuse of 'Oh ignore him. He's a guy! Men are like that'

The rape scene in rules of attraction. I felt like it was treated really casually and like it was a joke. I didn’t really get it. It made me really uncomfortable. Obviously it’s meant to be satirical but it was a pretty realistic thing to happen to many women. Was I missing something?

I've just googled the plot for The Switch to answer my question. I don't think it's a spoiler to say it's predictable.

Good Boys.

The running joke throughout the film is how a trio of 12 year old boys talk about adult things but are so naive, us adults watching get the jokes but they don’t see it themselves. Ha ha, kids don’t appreciate what they’re holding are anal beads, not a necklace like they think .

According to IMDB the actors were just given the lines with no context and any questions asked were referred to their parents. To me, it’s still dodgy as hell, a group of child actors talking about sex, blowjobs and sex toys. At one point they’re told - by another child - a swing in their parents’ room is for sex. So regardless of how protected the actors are, they still learnt about sex swings FFS. I just thought it was gratuitous.

I know there’s a long cinematic history of child actors in adult situations. Jodie Foster talks about how uncomfortable it was playing a 12 year old prostitute in Taxi Driver.

@doyoumind