It is unacceptable for me to feel that I don’t like men?

I actually thought to myself earlier today that if my partner left me I don’t think I’d want another man in my life. I don’t know how I’d date anyone, I have such distain for them as a collective, it’s hard for me to see past that
So I probably wouldn’t date

Many years ago I came to the same conclusion. If this particular relationship ends, I will grow old alone. I've had enough of men and there's scarce few women ive been interested in. Between the pronouncements men make about anything (and apparently I'm expected to respond in a nice manner, you dipshit is, I'm told, not nice) and the violent porn far too many of then watch and want to reenact, and the whole finding a half decent one etc etc, I just can't be bothered. Ever again.
It's not even that I dislike men, I just dont care about them. Indifference rather than hate.

Nah, I enjoy the company of men. Bad experiences at work etc were generally when I was younger and being bullied by an older woman. Groups of women are generally awful, though I love my female friends one to one.

She made a perfectly valid point with which I agree.

Any comment criticism reaction of men as a group...Is taken as evidence of literal simmering rage and hate towards each and every man boy and baby on the planet!
Do you know what, thats given me a bit of a lightbulb. Maybe its DARVO and the men who have a strong reaction do that because that's how they feel about women and they are defensive.
God. Imagine feeling simmering rage towards a whole class of people. It must be miserable.

Well we all know #notallmen are "abusive assaulting arseholes"
I hope my son will grow up to not be any of those things.
I'm sure there will still be some women who dont like him.
We're allowed to dislike people for lesser reasons than them abusing us.

It's the same as men who do it-

Any comment criticism reaction of men as a group

Is taken as evidence of literal simmering rage and hate towards each and every man boy and baby on the planet!

The fact that men don't get asked this or accused of this even when they do or say really iffy stuff is enlightening.

Much like posters on this thread.

In general I don't like men much due to xyz.

You hate your children!

The point about how so many men interpret things like metoo or a woman saying she's a feminist as 'man hating' has not been addressed.

Nor has the fact that men aren't asked if they hate women very often at all, are they. I wonder why not.

Thats just ridiculous. There are plenty of people who are misanthropes and I bet you don't seek them out to lecture them about not liking people (in general)

If you don't like men then unless you're doing "but my children are so wonderful they're basically women on the inside" then how does that not include your adult sons? If you dislike men because collectively they're abusive assaulting arseholes, surely you have to accept much more than most parents that your son's have a high likelihood of being like this too, and how do you then work that alongside my son's are amazing, I like their company but I accept the chances are they'll sexually assault or abuse someone.

For others it's a hate the behaviour not the person but if you don't like men that doesn't stand

The equivalent would be black people saying they don't like white people, fwiw

If one subscribes to critical race theory and the notion of white guilt.

I love the dog analogy.

If dogs attacked or intimidated people at the same rate men do, we wouldn’t let them in our homes or on our streets.

And there’d be no ‘not all dogs’ either.

Wow. I wonder how many men who use, abuse and objectify women are asked if they like (or hate) women.

I have two sons who I love dearly. Am on top of any misogyny. Hopefully they will grow up to be good ones although the amount of pressure on the Internet to hate women and feminism does not help

@TheInebriati I’m not confusing that at all - ‘I don’t like men’ is conflicting when you have three boys who will turn into men.

It’s easy if you have daughters, sorry it is.

It saddens me that there are people out there that won’t like them as a class, purely because they are men! No confusion at all - just a difference of opinion...

Why are people conflating 'I dont like men' with 'I hate my sons'?

I have three sons, sorry I can’t say ‘I don’t like men’ and not see them as being included. They will become men, they are gorgeous amazing boys but they will ultimately become men.

So I find it sad that people automatically don’t like them just because they were born with a penis!

I dislike most men, I like some of them.
Like I said up thread I find most of my interactions with men at best boring or disappointing and at worst abusive.
Ive got a son, obviously I love him more than anyone else in the world and I hope he will grow up to be a nice likable man.
Hes the age now where we are talking about sex and consent in that context, standing up for whats right, healthy ways of dealing with emotions.
I dont think your own kids count, in the same way im ambivalent about other peoples children, I love my own and like him.

But even then, you may have SILs and grandsons one day.

I suppose it's okay as long as you don't have sons! It could limit your life a bit at work though.

Is it mainly the power differential? Maybe try putting yourself in positions where women have the power (e.g. female boss and female majority). Men can be more reasonable in those situations.

I'm sure you'd love him Equally but not being liked Equally is just as damaging. I can't imagine looking at my son's and thinking well in all likelihood you'll grow up to be abusive, sexually coercive and oppressing the chances of your sisters, and that's at best. The kids fight over a toy and seeing sexism instead of kids etc.

I'm not sure your and your husband's mutual dislike for men is particularly healthy unless he's being held above his kind and to be better than he ought to be.

Does anyone who dislikes men as a class have son's? How does that work ou