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Are we the Baddies? Yes (well some!) according to the Daily Express: LGBT community is at war with itself, transphobia in the LGBT world has to STOP

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MishyJDI · 23/03/2021 12:09

I have to agree with a lot of this: Too much time worrying about a minority in echo chambers like this, and not enough fighting the real issues of feminism - patriarchy remains the number one enemy!

Mostly the younger generation get it, which is why there is such a disconnect and dismay expressed often on here.

(I'm sure this will make the Bunbury tales of scones and jam recipes - but seriously, trans ideology obsession on here is ludicrous.) Let's focus on real changes for women and girls that improve all our lives.

From the Daily Express

www.express.co.uk/comment/expresscomment/1413110/transphobic-trans-what-is-transgender-JK-Rowling-LGBT-community-TERF/amp?

The LGBT community is at war with itself, transphobia in the LGBT world has to STOP - COMMENT

RESIGNATIONS from three Government LGBT advisers over Equalities Minister Liz Truss and Boris Johnson's Government failure on LGBT rights (including dragging its feet to grant trans people rights in the UK) comes as no surprise.

By Maryann Wright

Ending the trans culture war once and for all, and outlawing so-called conversion therapy which treats sexuality and gender nonconformity as a choice or mental health problem, is a stagnant, three-year-old promise. Policy delay from the Conservative government is frustrating and devastating for our LGBT community, but the continual warfare amongst our own is a deeply insidious undercurrent that needs rooting out too. I’m talking about transphobia within the LGBT community.

The small group of lesbians who believe that transwomen aren’t real women because of an essentialist and reductionist belief that a woman’s identity is rooted in biology.

The distorted fear that transwomen will invade women’s spaces to victimise them, or even more outrageous, coerce lesbians to sleep with them, implying that lesbians must accept transwomen as sexual partners so as not to be labelled as trans-exclusionary, and that sex isn’t based on consent.

Or the assumption that men will misleadingly dress up as women and pose threats of sexual violence in women’s toilets because of Britain's 2010 Equality Act that protects trans people from discrimination in accessing single-sex spaces.

A small group of lesbian feminists called “Get the L Out” even go so far to claim that lesbian-only spaces are disappearing because of transwomen, “leading to difficulties in meeting like-minded women.”

As someone who runs women-only spaces inclusive of trans and cis-gendered women and genderqueer, non-binary people, for the very purpose of offering alternatives to male-dominated LGBT bars and clubs, I call BS.

I agree that LGBT spaces and activism is still male-dominated, and that more needs to be done to promote equality within the LGBT community, but the idea that transgender inclusivity harms women, and lesbians in particular, is just ludicrous.

Persecuting an even smaller minority within an already marginalised community is counter intuitive and harmful, whether you’re taking an LGBT or feminist perspective.

Firstly, let’s bust an insidious myth. There is no evidence that trans-inclusive laws lead to a rise in assaults, stalking or harassment in single-sex spaces.

The loud, transphobic noise coming from trans exclusionary radical feminists, or TERFs, of late is fear mongering.

Trans activism isn’t eroding women and girls' rights to single-sex spaces by "offering cover to predators," nor are trans-inclusionary policies "playing fast and loose with women's and girls' safety".

Do you know whose safety we are playing fast and loose with in this debate, though? Trans people.

Almost 50 percent of transgender people have experienced a hate crime because of their gender identity in the last 12 months, and 67 percent of trans people surveyed by the Government Equalities Office said they’d avoided being open about their gender identity for fear of a negative reaction.

Transphobic arguments weaponise transpeople as if they are transgressors, harking back to the old and demeaning cinematic trope of cross-dressing serial killers, and yet the reality is that trans people are the ones being transgressed.

We need to be protecting trans people, not the other way around. Any suggestion otherwise is incongruent to the facts.

It isn’t too small a point to also remember that transgender people make up 13 percent of the LGBT community, so any claims that transwomen are invading lesbian spaces is an exaggeration at best.

All of this fear mongering strikes me as history repeating itself.
Thirty years ago we were having this discussion about gay people, living under the revolting Section 28 of Margaret Thatcher’s government, which prohibited the promotion of homosexuality. Back then, living my cis lesbian life in the UK would have been questioned and persecuted.

Now, we are lucky to have made real progress in battling homophobia, and we need to ensure that progress passes down to our trans friends.

Lesbian rights are not under attack by the trans movement.
Transphobia has no place in feminism and no place in the LGBT community.

It is not a competition about who is having the most horrible time. There’s not a finite amount of equality.

Yes, the dominance of the patriarchy is alive and well, and misogyny is exhausting.

But it is not mutually exclusive to recognise that society as a whole is patriarchal and women are more likely to be killed by a partner, earn less, and find it difficult to go back to work after having a baby, and that people get to decide their gender identity.

Let’s also not confuse cismen with transwomen. The lived experience is entirely different, whether or not you respect their gender identity.
So many people have a complete disconnect with the lived experience of a trans person, and they don’t take time to consider this before casting judgment.

We need to stop perpetuating hypothetical fears not based in reality. The distortion and the hyperbole is destructive. The conversation has to mature.

How about we move the discussion to supporting trans people. Let’s ensure the Gender Recognition Act and Equality Act is fit for purpose. Let’s ban conversion therapy.

"Let’s instil a supportive framework within the LGBT community that encourages a person’s right to choose to express their gender identity."

The in-fighting needs to stop, let’s work with trans people to protect their right to a life of self-definition, safety and peace.

Maryann Wright is the Founder of Sappho Events, producing safe, sober and social events for LGBT women and non-binary people. www.sapphoevents.co.uk

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JustSpeculation · 23/03/2021 14:00

@EmpressWitchDoesntBurn

women are more likely to be killed by a partner, earn less, and find it difficult to go back to work after having a baby, and that people get to decide their gender identity.

Does this read a bit oddly to anyone else or is it just me? It’s as if the writer is first talking about women as members of the sex who have babies, & then saying that whether someone is a woman depends on their gender identity.

No. The writer is just saying that two issues, which are otherwise unconnected, it seems, are not mutually exclusive. People can still choose their gender identity even though women have babies, get killed by partners and so on. The one does not exclude the other. They can both be recognised.
CharlieParley · 23/03/2021 13:59

The small group of lesbians who believe that transwomen aren’t real women because of an essentialist and reductionist belief that a woman’s identity is rooted in biology.

And most of the world's population. It isn't just a tiny number of lesbians who know how babies are made. And we're not talking about identity (a person's personality and the belief they have about what group they belong to on any number of issues) when we're discussing the issues caused when male people are included in the legal set asides created for female people. We're talking about material reality - sex - and the real consequences that flow from being born female in a male-dominated world.

Or the assumption that men will misleadingly dress up as women and pose threats of sexual violence in women’s toilets

Reductionist and misleading. We moved well beyond that limited issue a long time ago, both in our discourse and what's happening on the ground.

Britain's 2010 Equality Act that protects trans people from discrimination in accessing [the] single-sex spaces [of their own sex].

Fixed it for you.

RedDogsBeg · 23/03/2021 13:57

Let’s also not confuse cismen with transwomen. The lived experience is entirely different, whether or not you respect their gender identity. So many people have a complete disconnect with the lived experience of a trans person, and they don’t take time to consider this before casting judgment.

And the lived experience of women is dismissed and belittled by everyone on the TRA, gender ideology side. Women's lives and experiences don't matter, the reason for their oppression and the discrimination against them doesn't matter, the violence enacted against women doesn't matter the only thing that matters to the include everybody whatever mob are TW's, what they want overrides everything, what women want or need is a complete irrelevance. That's not striving for equality, it is something else entirely and a dangerous something else at that. (I daren't put what I consider it to be as it will be deleted, I am sure those on FWR will know what I mean though).

gardenbird48 · 23/03/2021 13:54

How is it possible to argue in favour of less medical intervention for young trans people while simultaneously ridiculing trans people who do not pass?

That’s an interesting take. It appears that we are being blamed for children being out onto hormones. Is that what you meant to imply?

EmpressWitchDoesntBurn · 23/03/2021 13:53

women are more likely to be killed by a partner, earn less, and find it difficult to go back to work after having a baby, and that people get to decide their gender identity.

Does this read a bit oddly to anyone else or is it just me? It’s as if the writer is first talking about women as members of the sex who have babies, & then saying that whether someone is a woman depends on their gender identity.

Biscuitsanddoombar · 23/03/2021 13:50

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LisaStansfield · 23/03/2021 13:48

@dworky

Yeah, shut up informed women who know what's what. You should be doing only what men deem important!
Where are you getting this? What men?
LisaStansfield · 23/03/2021 13:46

@OvaHere

We hardly get any MRAs visiting here these days. Just TRAs. I wonder where all the MRAs went?
They’re still here they just hide better now. They mainly start threads in relationships about how their ‘friend’ had his sperm stolen by a deceitful woman who wants his child support now.
dworky · 23/03/2021 13:44

Yeah, shut up informed women who know what's what. You should be doing only what men deem important!

LisaStansfield · 23/03/2021 13:43

How does inclusive language around medicine enable discrimination against women? How can a civil debate about when it is and is not appropriate to include trans women in women’s spaces and places be had when they are constantly misrepresented as perverts and predators? How is it possible to argue in favour of less medical intervention for young trans people while simultaneously ridiculing trans people who do not pass?

gardenbird48 · 23/03/2021 13:42

As someone who runs women-only spaces inclusive of trans and cis-gendered women and genderqueer, non-binary people, for the very purpose of offering alternatives to male-dominated LGBT bars and clubs, I call BS.

As someone who runs women only spaces that are not women only.... neither by sex or gender identity if she lets in non binary people. Does she know what she means by any of this or is it just a collection of random words?

The in-fighting needs to stop, let’s work with trans people to protect their right to a life of self-definition, safety and peace.

I’m not sure what a ‘right to self definition’ is. She may have got confused with the human rights to self determination but as Prof Rosa Freedman pointed out, that is not a right for individuals - it is a right for ‘a people’ ie all the Yazidi people to elect a democratic leader or otherwise freely choose their sovereignty.

We all have a right to safety (although some seem keen to exercise theirs at a cost to others). I’m not sure about a right to peace? I quite like the idea of a bit of peace and quiet but I’m not aware of it as a human right.

What a dismal fact free article.

Zinco · 23/03/2021 13:41

Thirty years ago we were having this discussion about gay people, living under the revolting Section 28 of Margaret Thatcher’s government, which prohibited the promotion of homosexuality.

No it didn't. Not in general. You could promote homosexuality as much as you wanted in the world of adult politics.

It did limit local education/ teachers from giving propaganda to kids, but there are all sorts of things that teachers shouldn't be allowed to promote in the classroom.

BuntingEllacott · 23/03/2021 13:39

My experience as a woman who is a lesbian is very similar to the experience of a woman who is not, because our shared biology is the basis for our experiences.
I share nothing of those experiences at all with a male person who claims the identity 'lesbian'. This is really very simple.

Kit19 · 23/03/2021 13:36

"the reality of moving through society without experiencing discrimination"

indeed and I can see no way that allowing men no matter how they present into women's spaces in anyway helps women facing discrimination.

How does letting TW take up spaces on programmes designed to increase women's representation in e.g STEM or politics help advance the cause of women? how does changing information on cervical cancer from women to "cervix haver" help challenge discrimination against women? how does letting TW play women's rugby and "fold opponents like deckchairs" help the equality of women?

TheRabbitOfCaerbannog · 23/03/2021 13:36

@LisaStansfield

“ But the 'lived experience of a transwoman' is not the same as the 'lived experience of a woman' either.

But we are told to say that it is.”

Where? By whom? Women do not share one common experience of womanhood, however that is defined.

So feminism is defined as something for everyone then?
AfternoonToffee · 23/03/2021 13:34

How about we move the discussion to supporting trans people.

If from the beginning there hadn't been #nodebate, if women hadn't been told to die in a grease fire, or been told to watch their erasure, then a discussion could have been had. The TRA's have stopped the discussions, go after them (Inc Stonewall) and let the adults do the talking.

OvaHere · 23/03/2021 13:34

We hardly get any MRAs visiting here these days. Just TRAs. I wonder where all the MRAs went?

terryleather · 23/03/2021 13:34

Genderist ideology is the biggest threat to the sex based rights of women and girls that I've seen in my 50+ years on this planet.

I don't give a tiny shiny what some "young people" think if what they think is based on having been indoctrinated by science and material reality denying arsewash pushed by lobbyists, misogynists and others with questionable agendas.

I'll take a mad wild guess that most of them will wake up to this nonsense as they experience a bit more of the world and think a bit further than "be kind".

Meanwhile the grown ups will treat the daily tedium of being cajoled into accepting their own erasure with the contempt it deserves.

LisaStansfield · 23/03/2021 13:34

“ But the 'lived experience of a transwoman' is not the same as the 'lived experience of a woman' either.

But we are told to say that it is.”

Where? By whom? Women do not share one common experience of womanhood, however that is defined.

EdgeOfACoin · 23/03/2021 13:33

MishyJDI, seems strange that you would start another trans thread, given that you think there's too much focus on this subject already on this board.

LisaStansfield · 23/03/2021 13:32

What bloody rights have trans people not been granted in the UK?

Back in the day when this subboard was first created, lots of visiting MRAs would appear asking ‘why do you need feminism? What rights do women not have that men do?’

The right to not be discriminated against in law, and the reality of moving through society without experiencing discrimination are two different things, as every feminist knows. Or are you lost?

Helleofabore · 23/03/2021 13:29

But the 'lived experience of a transwoman' is not the same as the 'lived experience of a woman' either.

But we are told to say that it is. That it is just another woman’s experience. While this may be or may not be fine socially, it is not relevant for laws surrounding the safeguarding of women and children or to counter sexist discrimination of the past millennia.

OP. In what way should a late transitioning male be able to access the female only panels and roles needed for a) ensuring female’s needs are considered fully for policies etc and b) ensuring female’s are encouraged to participate after years of sexist discrimination?

Or is this not a big enough issue for you? You don’t see that a late or newly transitioned male in a women’s officer role supposedly representing females needs and actively involved in setting policy at that organisation is an issue? For instance, the Green Party recently? Not an issue? Females adequately represented?

And any comment on how sports fit into this?

OvaHere · 23/03/2021 13:28

As I understand it those resignations were just a political performance. Their current tenure as members of the board were coming to an end anyway.

As for the rest of the article, it's just genderwang from start to finish.

LisaStansfield · 23/03/2021 13:28

@NancyDrawed

*Let’s also not confuse cismen with transwomen. The lived experience is entirely different, whether or not you respect their gender identity. So many people have a complete disconnect with the lived experience of a trans person, and they don’t take time to consider this before casting judgment.*

But the 'lived experience of a transwoman' is not the same as the 'lived experience of a woman' either. Of course people have a disconnect with what it is like to go about life as anyone other than themself. I can no more understand what it is like to be trans, than a TW can understand what it is to be a woman. Each of us has our own unique experience.

Nobody is saying that tw and cw have the same lived experiences either! Just as gay women’s experiences differ from straight women, and disabled women’s experiences differ from able bodied women, etc etc
Floisme · 23/03/2021 13:27

Here's what I find ludicrous: a women's rights movement focusing on men.

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