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Safe places for GC to chat?

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Iidentifyasacat · 19/03/2021 09:19

Is there anywhere that is a safe place for GC to chat? Maybe a discord server or something?

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Helleofabore · 19/03/2021 15:20

@MeltsAway

So how do we know what is allowed and what isn't

Here's a guide for you Grin

Not Allowed
Women talking to other women in single-sex physical or virtual spaces
Women talking to other women, without the presence of men
Women talking to other women
Women talking

Allowed
Women listening to men talking

Grin

It seems so some days, doesn't it?

DaisiesandButtercups · 19/03/2021 14:37

Spot on MeltsAway that summary is just about perfect.

MeltsAway · 19/03/2021 12:32

So how do we know what is allowed and what isn't

Here's a guide for you Grin

Not Allowed
Women talking to other women in single-sex physical or virtual spaces
Women talking to other women, without the presence of men
Women talking to other women
Women talking

Allowed
Women listening to men talking

theskyispinkiiihaveOVARITcodes · 19/03/2021 12:07

If anyone would like an invite code for Ovarit, please message me. I have many.

NonnyMouse1337 · 19/03/2021 10:30

Ovarit and Spinster are your best options. This board is good too, but as you've seen there's still a level of censorship.

DialSquare · 19/03/2021 10:12

I don't understand why it was deleted either. I didn't see anything deletion worthy.

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Iidentifyasacat · 19/03/2021 10:00

@DaisiesandButtercups

Do stick around OP, cats are always welcome here Grin
Thanks Grin
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DaisiesandButtercups · 19/03/2021 09:57

Do stick around OP, cats are always welcome here Grin

Bordois · 19/03/2021 09:55

Oh biscuits are delete worthy on here, but not elsewhere on MN

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Iidentifyasacat · 19/03/2021 09:50

Oh right okay. Thanks @NecessaryScene1 I just assumed a deletion would count as a strike.

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StealthPolarBear · 19/03/2021 09:50

Not in the spirit apparently

Safe places for GC to chat?
NecessaryScene1 · 19/03/2021 09:49

I'm still confused by their reply so worry anything I write here will end up leading to me being banned

Deletions do not directly lead to bans. As explained in the guidelines, there is a "three strikes" rule, and a deletion is usually not a strike. You will get an e-mail informing you if there is a "strike".

But you may want to be cautious in case there's a delayed mail.

FWIW, I've noticed about 10 deletions of my messages and had 1 strike. And I've usually figured out what I did wrong, and I've learned. But I'm not a proper polemicist unlike some other users here - it hurts some of the heartfelt writing I've seen nuked.

Helleofabore · 19/03/2021 09:48

Yes Tanith. Quite.

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Iidentifyasacat · 19/03/2021 09:47

@StealthPolarBear

I started a thread about pink news misgendering someone in an article about their pronouns (but I may have been wrong about that). It was deleted.
Confused did you ever find out why it was deleted?
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Tanith · 19/03/2021 09:47

"These are also known as the monitors."

In polite circles. There are other, more apt words for them that are freely used elsewhere Smile

StealthPolarBear · 19/03/2021 09:46

I started a thread about pink news misgendering someone in an article about their pronouns (but I may have been wrong about that). It was deleted.

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Iidentifyasacat · 19/03/2021 09:46

I'll check out the rambles thread, thank you!

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Iidentifyasacat · 19/03/2021 09:45

@DaisiesandButtercups

We never know for sure what is acceptable, but by spending a lot of time here some get a feel for it.

I was surprised by the deletion of your earlier thread I must admit.

Me too! Hence why I posted asking this question. I'm still confused by their reply so worry anything I write here will end up leading to me being banned Sad
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NecessaryScene1 · 19/03/2021 09:45

So how do we know what is allowed and what isn't even if it doesn't break any of their guidelines

Trial and error. We eventually spot the patterns. We know certain words or phrases usually provoke immediate deletions, although it may not be obvious that they break any written guideline, but we can't directly state what they are. You'll may find some insight in the "rambles" thread and its predecessors.

Bordois · 19/03/2021 09:42

@Iidentifyasacat

Oh, thanks for explaining. So how do we know what is allowed and what isn't even if it doesn't break any of their guidelines Confused
We find out when posts are deleted and you end up banned!
Helleofabore · 19/03/2021 09:42

There are people who seem to live to report posts and threads for moderation. Some of these are outspoken about their successes on twitter where they report to their followers their latest escapades. These are also known as the monitors.

Caaarrrl · 19/03/2021 09:42

@Bordois

The monitors on twitter. People who follow what is said on here and report anything they don't like. MN would rather delete than deal with the hassle.
Some one will be watching and report this thread so that others cannot share safe places. #nodebate
DaisiesandButtercups · 19/03/2021 09:42

We never know for sure what is acceptable, but by spending a lot of time here some get a feel for it.

I was surprised by the deletion of your earlier thread I must admit.

DaisiesandButtercups · 19/03/2021 09:41

Ovarit and Spinster.

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Iidentifyasacat · 19/03/2021 09:40

Oh, thanks for explaining. So how do we know what is allowed and what isn't even if it doesn't break any of their guidelines Confused

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