why is our mental health not prioritised for all the crap we've been put through since birth, just for being female
Because this ideology is rooted in misogyny. It’s not actually about social justice. It would not exist in the form it does, or have achieved the enormous gains it has, without male privilege, without the fact that society is still massively skewed in favour of males and against females. It attracts a high proportion of narcissists who care only about themselves, and of course their male socialisation supports that rather than challenging it. They are not brought up with the expectation that they will #bekind.
I really think there are a horrifying number of male people (whether trans or not, I’m thinking of male “allies” too) who really do see women as lesser, as support humans, whether consciously or not. It is something that has become blindingly clear to me over the last few years.
The number of male people who are furious with women who “break the contract” and say no, we don’t want to be your support humans, we are human beings in our own right and we want to live as such - it’s chilling, really. We’re not allowed to do that, or we shouldn’t be, in their minds.
That’s the world we live in. Misogyny isn’t contained to the fundamentalists of all religions who want to circumscribe women’s day to day freedoms and reproductive rights. It’s alive and well in the bosom of far too many males who fondly believe themselves to be the vanguard of social progress.
And, tragically, it’s alive and well in the bosom of many women too - especially but not exclusively young women - these women who also chant the mantras and resign their rights to autonomy, even while identifying as feminists, like some weird 21st century take on the Stepford Wives.
This is what we’re up against. It’s going to take quite some rooting out. A lot of radfem work!