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Can we have a thread about men who DO get this?

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ShoppingWomble · 16/03/2021 09:21

So frustrated with the male half of humanity this week - all the NAMALTing and "more men get murdered than women" and "well, you wouldn't wear an expensive watch in a rough area" crap (thanks Trigger boys).

I know this is centring men on the feminism page but can we please find some decent guys who are trying to help and not just laugh at women before I have to go and live on an all-female island somewhere?

Glinner obvs. Any more?

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Outbutnotoutout · 16/03/2021 10:38

My partner gets it, he hears about it every morning, when we have our cuppa 🤭🤣🤣🤣

JorisBonson · 16/03/2021 10:33

DH gets it. He's a fairly sensitive soul who had always had a touch of feminism in him, pushed forward by me Grin.

He's not an FHM lads lad, and firmly believes in equality. He's fab and has been very upset about the last few days events.

McDuffy · 16/03/2021 10:29

My DH does. Not to be all "not my Nigel", but I thought I'd share as he's a relatively young (30ish) and a teacher, he disagreed with some female colleagues at his school about them just wanting to beee kiiind and let TW in women's sports, he pointed out he'd be representing GB internationally if he competed as a woman. He challenges his woke beardy mates too and sent them the JKR essay last year and then insisted they discuss it with him, haha.

My best mate at work does, too. He's in quite an influential position in an important sector and he's the low key alternative to my big gob approach!

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ShoppingWomble · 16/03/2021 09:42

Yes James Dreyfus is lovely. And more gay men seem to be talking about some of this now which is good. I was hoping more straight men would get it though, as how men and women interact concerns them more in a way.

Hugo Rifkind article was great, thanks. Seems like he's spent some time thinking about all this. A few hilariously grumpy comments below article about how great Jordan P is, proving what Rifkind said about "many of them now treat the mildest criticism of him as existential assault."

Tanith - yes maybe you are right, I don't want to cause trouble for men who are trying to help. How crazy is it though, that just standing up for women makes you a target for other men? Maybe that is the real problem with all of this. Makes me sad.

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Whythesadface · 16/03/2021 09:40

I don't think anything will change.
In Victorian times and way before women who had money took a maid , read friend today out with them.
We spent years telling our children to call us for a lift home. Not to walk down a dark street .
My parents a generation before, didn't like me out passed dark, unless with an escort, boyfriend or a group of my girlfriends. Last pair home either lived nearby or your dad would walk your friend home.
Nothing has changed, we just hear about it more.

MumsThewordw02 · 16/03/2021 09:37

My 80 year old dad gets it. We were having a long conversation about it last night and he was saying things like 'stop focusing and policing women's behaviour and start policing men!'

He's always been a feminist.

Tanith · 16/03/2021 09:33

I worry that a list will be used to attack them and drive them off social media.
Mumsnet is monitored, after all - and what better example of misogyny than a group of arrogant activists thinking they have the right to police us?!

ErrolTheDragon · 16/03/2021 09:27

Some men sort of get it, or at least get that they don't fully get it. This sort of thing from Hugo Rifkind

www.thetimes.co.uk/article/how-should-men-behave-in-age-of-metoo-bdxzmq80t?shareToken=52f839fbde6202d07ab06b73031ecc18

Xanthangum · 16/03/2021 09:24

James Dreyfus

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