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Conversion Therapy and a Survey of 25,896 LGBTQ youth

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Shizuku · 09/03/2021 12:15

Trigger Warning - this post discusses suicidal feelings.

As the banning of conversion therapy is currently being debated, it might be useful for members of this group to see a survey of 25,896 LGBTQ youth which found that 57% of transgender and non-binary youth who have undergone conversion therapy report a suicide attempt in the last year:

www.thetrevorproject.org/survey-2019/?section=Conversion-Therapy-Change-Attempts

If anyone reading this is experiencing suicidal thoughts, please know that suicide is preventable, and that support is available. Here is a link to the Samaritans:

www.samaritans.org/

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Helleofabore · 12/03/2021 18:01

2617 eminent scientists including several Nobel Prize winners disagreeing with you here

You mean the Nobel Laureate who is linked with New England Biolabs (probably a tad of a bias there).

And the many anthropologists, marine biologists and other biologists that have no speciality in this field, psychologist, environmental engineers, paleotologists, social sciences, toxicology, behavioural science, history, obstetricians, linguistics ...to be honest, I gave up after the linguistics.

So, not really so many notable evolutionary and developmental biologicals. And a whole heap of people heavily invested in progressing this theory.

This is a theory that has been progressed to destabilise science. I suspect that there are so many more scientists who don't even register that this is something that they have to prove. Because it is proven science.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/03/2021 17:58

We've moved the goalposts now to "there are lots of people reading who don't have accounts"

30PercentRecycled · 12/03/2021 17:56

Voting on AIBU is anonymous.

Other people only know how you voted if you write a post stating how you voted.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/03/2021 17:56

however, I would argue that gender identity is a definitive sex characteristic, so trans people aren't changing sex - a trans woman was always female.

And I would argue that is an entirely ideological position that the vast majority of the population doesn't share.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/03/2021 17:55

They do however read, and not everyone who reads these threads has a Mumsnet account.

Yes, and those without a Mumsnet account who are drawn to these specific threads are possibly more likely to be reading because TRAs linked to them on Twitter. So are also biased.

What the average person really think is reflected in polls. These have consistently shown that people are happy to live and let live up to the point they think it will cause a problem.

midgedude · 12/03/2021 17:53

What do you think sex is?

Do you know how babies are made?

Shizuku · 12/03/2021 17:52

@30PercentRecycled

This is illuminating. I think I understand your perspective now Shizuku Please tell me if this reflects your opinion:
  1. Gender identity exists.
  1. Gender identity does not change. It is set before birth and manifests later.
  1. Gender identity usually matches biological sex but not always.
  1. There is probably a genetic marker for having a gender identity at odds with one's biological sex but it hasn't been identified clearly enough to be a diagnostic tool yet.
  1. The best way to diagnose having a gender identity that does not match sex is to ask the person if they feel their gender identity matches their sex or not.
  1. A person's assertion about their gender identity cannot be verified by observing their adherence to gender stereotypes or their level of masculinity / femininity.
  1. Extreme body modification to make the body appear more like the sex that most closely matches a person's declared gender identity is a reasonable response to feeling one's gender identity does not match one's sex, including for children.
  1. The side effects of the body modification are acceptable when weighed against the impact on the patient of not modifying their body.
  1. Trying to convince somone they are mistaken about their gender identity should be illegal.
  1. Trying to block someone from modifying their body in response to their feelings about their gender identity should be illegal.
  1. Treatments with the goal of bringing a person's perceived gender identity into line with their sex should be illegal.

Am I correctly representing your opinion?

Your opinion is unclear to me on:

A) If a person is uncomfortable with their gender identity, should it be illegal for other people to try to convince them that gender identity does not exist?

B) What mistakes were made with detransitioners and if / how can these be avoided in future?

Based on a quick skim, that's broadly my position, however, I would argue that gender identity is a definitive sex characteristic, so trans people aren't changing sex - a trans woman was always female.

To answer your other points:

A) Yes. That would be gaslighting and conversion therapy, and somewhat akin to trying to convince someone with anxiety that anxiety doesn't exist, or a migraine sufferer that headaches don't exist.

B) Given that many detransitioners go on to retransition, there weren't necessarily any mistakes. When there were mistakes, those are likely to very varied and you would have to look at them on a case by case basis. Of course, there is no way in medicine to eliminate error completely, but fortunately, trans regret is extremely rare - somewhere between 0.3 and 3.8%, which is better than for most medical procedures.

whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/%20what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-well-being-of-transgender-people%20/

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Helleofabore · 12/03/2021 17:50

Well of course they do - look what happens to dissenting voices, so a lot of people are afraid to speak up, and I don't blame them. They do however read, and not everyone who reads these threads has a Mumsnet account.

You have not been onto AIBU then? You have not seen the way posters from other parts of Mumsnet post? Perhaps you should go and look. The people on this board are significantly constrained by guidelines that don't apply to the rest of the board.

A very large proportion of those posters on AIBU do not post on this board so you are quite incorrect in your inference.

I doubt they even read it. But they do read extensively from a wide range of sources.

Shizuku · 12/03/2021 17:43

@Helleofabore

So, on your sex spectrum. Who has arbitrated who is more female than another person? Is there a panel who does this?

What axis have they used to decide this? And can this be done without involving other people's medical conditions?

Ask the scientists - most of the ones on that link can be found through their universities etc.
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Shizuku · 12/03/2021 17:43

" 95 -98% tend to agree with many of the views expressed on this thread."

Well of course they do - look what happens to dissenting voices, so a lot of people are afraid to speak up, and I don't blame them. They do however read, and not everyone who reads these threads has a Mumsnet account.

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Helleofabore · 12/03/2021 17:42

So, on your sex spectrum. Who has arbitrated who is more female than another person? Is there a panel who does this?

What axis have they used to decide this? And can this be done without involving other people's medical conditions?

30PercentRecycled · 12/03/2021 17:42

This is illuminating. I think I understand your perspective now Shizuku Please tell me if this reflects your opinion:

  1. Gender identity exists.
  1. Gender identity does not change. It is set before birth and manifests later.
  1. Gender identity usually matches biological sex but not always.
  1. There is probably a genetic marker for having a gender identity at odds with one's biological sex but it hasn't been identified clearly enough to be a diagnostic tool yet.
  1. The best way to diagnose having a gender identity that does not match sex is to ask the person if they feel their gender identity matches their sex or not.
  1. A person's assertion about their gender identity cannot be verified by observing their adherence to gender stereotypes or their level of masculinity / femininity.
  1. Extreme body modification to make the body appear more like the sex that most closely matches a person's declared gender identity is a reasonable response to feeling one's gender identity does not match one's sex, including for children.
  1. The side effects of the body modification are acceptable when weighed against the impact on the patient of not modifying their body.
  1. Trying to convince somone they are mistaken about their gender identity should be illegal.
  1. Trying to block someone from modifying their body in response to their feelings about their gender identity should be illegal.
  1. Treatments with the goal of bringing a person's perceived gender identity into line with their sex should be illegal.

Am I correctly representing your opinion?

Your opinion is unclear to me on:

A) If a person is uncomfortable with their gender identity, should it be illegal for other people to try to convince them that gender identity does not exist?

B) What mistakes were made with detransitioners and if / how can these be avoided in future?

Helleofabore · 12/03/2021 17:38

Not everyone who reads these boards agrees with you.

I suggest you start a poll in AIBU.

The last few have all been enlightening and consistently around 95 -98% tend to agree with many of the views expressed on this thread. And those voting were from all over Mumsnet.

I think we, as parents, are pretty confident that there is no sex spectrum and that you need an egg and a sperm to produce another human. The vast majority of us posting here have indeed done this experiment personally and can confidently assure you it is the case. Many people have had to discover this very painfully as well.

No third gamete. No third sex. Just the two.

Shizuku · 12/03/2021 17:36

@FamilyOfAliens

Not everyone who reads these boards agrees with you.

I haven’t expressed an opinion on this thread so that’s an odd thing to say.

My apologies. Let me rephrase - not everyone who reads these boards disagrees with me.
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Shizuku · 12/03/2021 17:35

@Helleofabore

They've also asked people like you to stop saying that sex is a simple binary, which leaves you in something of a dilemma, doesn't it.

And yet, medicine and developmental and evolutionary biologists all agree that sex classification for people with differences of sex development are either male or female.

This does NOT change the facts.

The list of these differences for the majority fall into either male conditions or female conditions.

You really cannot cherry pick what facts are true and what are not.

Again, spreading of misinformation around sex is harmful. Why do you continue to do so?

2617 eminent scientists including several Nobel Prize winners disagreeing with you here:

not-binary.org/statement/?fbclid=IwAR29fQ9nHtgrIWGMSsSdefR_OWPeMuZEmei0G3oEC31bAP_FThbngykjjtU

"The relationship between sex chromosomes, genitalia, and gender identity is complex, and not fully understood. There are no genetic tests that can unambiguously determine gender, or even sex. Furthermore, even if such tests existed, it would be unconscionable to use the pretext of science to enact policies that overrule the lived experience of people’s own gender identities."

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FamilyOfAliens · 12/03/2021 17:33

Not everyone who reads these boards agrees with you.

I haven’t expressed an opinion on this thread so that’s an odd thing to say.

Helleofabore · 12/03/2021 17:33

And again, intersex people have asked you to stop making that claim.

And again, you cannot deny the facts around this. The facts remain unchanged.

And another group of people with differences of sex development have also asked people to stop using their conditions to explain a sex spectrum which is provably not true.

And again. Your efforts of distraction and deflection do not change the facts that sex is immutable.

Male cannot change sex to be a female. But, we are happy to keep repeating it so, please do keep on posting links. Because every time you do, and it gets refuted, more readers understand just how these assertions are not built on solid scientific foundations.

Helleofabore · 12/03/2021 17:28

They've also asked people like you to stop saying that sex is a simple binary, which leaves you in something of a dilemma, doesn't it.

And yet, medicine and developmental and evolutionary biologists all agree that sex classification for people with differences of sex development are either male or female.

This does NOT change the facts.

The list of these differences for the majority fall into either male conditions or female conditions.

You really cannot cherry pick what facts are true and what are not.

Again, spreading of misinformation around sex is harmful. Why do you continue to do so?

Shizuku · 12/03/2021 17:25

@Helleofabore

Male and female are binary and there is no such thing as a sex spectrum.

Bodies are either build around the production of small or large gametes, whether they do this successful or production is inhibited for a medical reason (including contraceptive drugs). There is no third gamete. There is no third sex.

Sex is binary. The human race cannot reproduce any other way hence, it is binary.

It has NEVER been disputed that there is a large degree of body variation between individual bodies within their sex classification. But it does not mean that sex is anything other than binary.

And sex cannot be changed, ever. Modifiying the body to take on facsimiles of the opposite sex characteristics does not mean a person has changed sex.

Again, it is harmful misinformation to perpetuate the pseudo science that says that sex is a spectrum and therefore humans can change sex.

"Male and female are binary and there is no such thing as a sex spectrum."

And again, intersex people have asked you to stop making that claim.

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Shizuku · 12/03/2021 17:23

@FamilyOfAliens

I mean, you're welcome to you view of course, but you'll understand if I go with the Endocrine Society - a professional, international medical organization in the field of endocrinology and metabolism, which publishes four leading journals and has more than 17,000 members from over 120 countries, rather than the opinion of an anonymous random on Mumsnet.

So, can you explain what compelled you to start a thread in Mumsnet if the opinions expressed on here don’t matter to you?

Not everyone who reads these boards agrees with you.
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Shizuku · 12/03/2021 17:21

@Helleofabore

As I said, the world doesn't always resolve into simple binaries. It would be easier if it did, but it doesn't.

Actually, around sex classification it does. And for many reasons it is really important that people do not spread misinformation. I am sure that you have heard of some rather serious life threatening medical situations caused by people not acknowledging their sex which has led to at least one death, and several publicised other near death misses.

I am sure you are aware that even though the majority of the cells in your body are red blood cells, the other cells that control other functions of your body will still have the original codes for your body to function as the sex it was from a foetus. It is rather disingenuous to suggest otherwise really.

It is therefore vital for a person to be honest about their sex and the changes they have done so they get the best care. So, again. Stately that transwomen are female is misinformation and it is factually false.

And people with differences in sex development, those you point out that might have differences in their reproductive systems, are still male or female. That group have asked continually to not have their medical conditions politicised as explanatory conditions for trans people. With modern medical technologies and looking at a range of different organs, and body processes etc, they are categorised as either having bodies that are male and female.

"And people with differences in sex development, those you point out that might have differences in their reproductive systems, are still male or female. That group have asked continually to not have their medical conditions politicised as explanatory conditions for trans people."

They've also asked people like you to stop saying that sex is a simple binary, which leaves you in something of a dilemma, doesn't it.

oiieurope.org/statement-of-the-european-intersex-meeting-in-riga-2014/

"The four objectives are:"

"1. To challenge the definition of sex as consisting of only male and female and promote the knowledge that sex is a continuum, as is gender."

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FamilyOfAliens · 12/03/2021 17:21

I mean, you're welcome to you view of course, but you'll understand if I go with the Endocrine Society - a professional, international medical organization in the field of endocrinology and metabolism, which publishes four leading journals and has more than 17,000 members from over 120 countries, rather than the opinion of an anonymous random on Mumsnet.

So, can you explain what compelled you to start a thread in Mumsnet if the opinions expressed on here don’t matter to you?

Helleofabore · 12/03/2021 17:16

Male and female are binary and there is no such thing as a sex spectrum.

Bodies are either build around the production of small or large gametes, whether they do this successful or production is inhibited for a medical reason (including contraceptive drugs). There is no third gamete. There is no third sex.

Sex is binary. The human race cannot reproduce any other way hence, it is binary.

It has NEVER been disputed that there is a large degree of body variation between individual bodies within their sex classification. But it does not mean that sex is anything other than binary.

And sex cannot be changed, ever. Modifiying the body to take on facsimiles of the opposite sex characteristics does not mean a person has changed sex.

Again, it is harmful misinformation to perpetuate the pseudo science that says that sex is a spectrum and therefore humans can change sex.

NecessaryScene1 · 12/03/2021 17:16

And currently we are discussing the 0.1%

No, we're discussing trans people, not intersex people. Trans people are, 99.9% of the time, in the 99.9%.

And regardless, if your policies are saying anyone in the 50% can claim to be a woman on demand, then you're talking about the 50%.

How small the number of actual edge cases is doesn't matter if you start disputing the non-edge cases.

Shizuku · 12/03/2021 17:09

@CharlieParley

The link has links to peer-reviewed science to back up the claims in the statement. Think of it as a portal to the science.

Have you read the papers linked?

There are a total of four references concerned with proving a biological basis for gender identity.

  1. Most papers do not in fact provide evidence of a biological basis for a gender identity universal to all humans, but examine possible biological causes of gender dysphoria. Gender dysphoria is a recognised medical condition, so it seems logical to assume that there might be a biological cause for developing it - in those few individuals who are diagnosed with it. (FWIW, I believe that we will eventually find that the multifactorial causes of gender dysphoria do include a biological basis of some sort.) That is not evidence for the existence of gender identity.
  1. The first reference is a literature review of research mostly concerned with people born with a difference in sex development. The authors conclude that the available data suggests a biological basis of some sort, but they don't know what or have any evidence. The papers they state do have evidence of a biological basis of some sort are not concerned with gender identity but with gender dysphoria (see above).
  1. The second reference is another literature review coming up with the same arguments and again, looking not at the etiology of gender identity but gender dysphoria. Notable in both literature reviews is the emphasis on papers making claims about people having male and female brains even if they are not that sex. Such papers have been analysed extensively on FWR, the result of which is that we know they do not provide any evidence for the existence of male and female brains and are therefore unhelpful when trying to prove the existence of gender identity.
  1. The next reference is a literature review of twin studies. The conclusion: These findings suggest a role for genetic factors in the development of GID.

That there may be a biological factor involved in developing gender identity disorder (as it was then called) is an accepted hypothesis. The paper does not however make any claims about providing evidence for the existence of a universal gender identity in humans (because it can't).

  1. The fourth reference is to another literature review, this time limited to studies of people with a particular DSD. Again, this is looking into the biological basis of gender dysphoria, not gender identity.

Do you have any papers purporting to provide evidence for a biological basis of a universal gender identity in humans? Or, to say it in your words, any evidence for an innate sense of oneself as being male or female?

I mean, you're welcome to you view of course, but you'll understand if I go with the Endocrine Society - a professional, international medical organization in the field of endocrinology and metabolism, which publishes four leading journals and has more than 17,000 members from over 120 countries, rather than the opinion of an anonymous random on Mumsnet.
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