Going back to this post from Sunday morning (07.28):
To your question "Where does that leave the lesbians?", here's the answer: when I came out 25 years ago, Brighton's lesbian bars and nights welcomed me with open arms and I found friends and potential partners. The fun we had. Today? I can't think of one lesbian bar in town. The trans flag is everywhere and it's very clear that if you don't sing the TWAW mantra, you are very unwelcome. I went to one lesbian live music event in 2019 and the main act was a TW. I'm very thankful that I am in a loving long-term relationship and too knackered most of the time to want to go out, but I feel for young lesbians who will never know the joy of a bar or a club packed with women.
Genderrebel I’m really sorry to hear this. It’s a familiar story these days, isn’t it? Not a lesbian myself but I hear this over and over again, from friends who are lesbians, and online. I used to go to women’s nights/clubs back in the 80’s and it was so amazing being free of the male gaze in a public place, even without the possibility of finding partners, even without needing a space apart from the rest of the world where my sexuality was the norm. The loss of these places is sad for all women, but for lesbians it’s a monumental loss. It really is lesbian erasure. And the cruellest thing is that it has been perpetrated by the community you created and nurtured.
I hope that the tide will turn soon and that “superlesbians” (aka lesbians) will create a new community that is actually yours once again. I hear there is already a growing “underground” network, but there need to be resources that are public and open - to lesbians and bi women.
And I hope we will likewise see a resurgence of actual women-only spaces and initiatives of all kinds. I think maybe there will need to be a test case around this too - I would like to have it established as a human right for women to have strictly biologically female only spaces/provisions as a means of redressing our disadvantage, in the same way other disadvantaged groups should likewise be able to. Something wider in scope than the current EA exemptions.