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Open City wants to destroy single-sex facilities for women in London

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DropDTuning · 02/03/2021 14:59

I have emailed them in response to this in their latest newsletter. Here is my email and the articles they linked to. I welcome anyone else writing to them. The email address is [removed by MNHQ at OPs request]

Dear Open House

After many years of supporting you, including attending Open House events since 2008 along with my children, I would like to unsubscribe from your newsletter and register how appalled I am by your attempt to destroy the provision of single-sex facilities for women and girls. Marianna Janowicz's appalling article, that you linked to supportively in your latest email newsletter, states that:

"Every household in the country has a gender neutral toilet in their own home for use by family members and guests without any segregation, so the idea that gender neutral loos are unusual is farcical."

This is itself utterly farcical. Janowicz appears to have missed the painfully obvious point that we don't let any and all random strangers in off the street to use the toilets in our homes. The dishonesty and ridiculousness of this non-argument is absolutely insulting.

I suppose Janowicz also thinks it is 'farcical' to have locks on our front doors - after all, we all have doors that don't lock inside our homes, don't we? And it's 'farcical' to have security on the doors of schools, synagogues, mosques, hospitals, bars - after all, none of us have security guards outside our bedrooms or kitchens, do we?

What a pathetic and stupid argument.

Women and girls (as well as men and boys) are entitled to single-sex provision under the Equality Act. By attempting to remove this provision, you are not only promoting breaking the law, but you are promoting discrimination against disabled people, and women and girls from minority ethnic or religious groups, many of whom are unable to use facilities shared with the opposite sex. You are also promoting the endangerment of all women's and girls' safety, privacy and dignity.

You state in your support for this awful proposal:

"We believe that London’s spectacular variety of music, food, culture, architecture and civic life is enriched by the diverse nationalities, languages, sexualities, faiths, and ethnicities of the people who call our capital home. "

And yet you are blatantly ignoring the rights and opportunities, dignity and safety, of women of diverse faiths and ethnicities who will simply not be able to use these facilities at all if single-sex facilities are removed.

You should be ashamed of promoting this. It could not be further from the genuine promotion of an 'open city'. You are making the city less equitable, less accessible, and less welcoming.

I could have simply unsubscribed from your newsletter and stopped supporting your events, but I wanted you and your partners to be aware of the consequences of your reckless lack of care for women and girls, and for your promotion of the frankly insulting, dangerous and stupid argument in Janowicz's awful piece.

Yours faithfully

Links are:
open-city.org.uk/blog/learning-from-londons-lack-of-lockdown-loos
open-city.org.uk/blog/public-toilets-statement

Apparently the consultation ends on Friday. I'm not sure where the details of the consultation are though.

OP posts:
toomanytrees · 02/03/2021 18:04

I would venture to say that in many homes with more than one bathroom, they are segregated by sex. Mine is.

Clymene · 02/03/2021 18:04

Oh weirdly, the first blog post I read wasn't the same one I saw the second time I clicked the link.

The author is comparing apartheid with separate sex facilities.

That's a hard no. She's an idiot and thinking she has a decent argument is idiotic.

Zandathepanda · 02/03/2021 18:03

A gap at the bottom of the door is a safety measure so if someone collapses (seizure, heart attack etc) then it is more noticeable. If someone is feeling poorly they go to the loo.

ChattyLion · 02/03/2021 17:57

Cracking letter OP.

Can I highlight this 18 page thread as a resource for why WOMEN ONLY toilets are so important to women at all life stages:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3203454-What-do-you-use-the-womens-toilets-for

Also in latter pages it has links for numerous MN threads on why gender neutral cubicles are terrible for women and not a good alternative to women only spaces

I have read so many thoughtful articles from architects on making inclusive spaces that I know they could easily get this point- they just need to grasp the absolutely key concept that inclusion also includes women Hmm

Anyway best of luck let us know how you get on.

DropDTuning · 02/03/2021 17:38

Hello, please don't use the email address I provided in the first post because it's the wrong organisation. Sorry. I'll ask Mumsnet to delete it.

OP posts:
Ifyourefeelingsinister · 02/03/2021 17:25

@Ninkanink

Floor to ceiling cubicles have their own dangers to women and children, let’s not forget about that.

We need separate spaces. For good reason.

This, 100%. Much easier to be pushed into without anyone noticing or hearing anything than regular segregated toilets.
merrymouse · 02/03/2021 17:18

@MadameButterface

who pays for any public toilets? I thought the article was quite good, lockdown really has shown up a lack of public toilet provision. we do need more, they benefit everyone. in normal times there's usually a bunfight a week on here about prams in disabled toilets or 10 year old boys in the ladies' or 'an elderly woman told me I don't look disabled'.
There is a huge lack of accessible toilet provision.

That won't be increased by able bodied people each being given a little room with a sink. That just gives some people far more than they need and some people far less.

I agree that structural changes are necessary, but proposals need to be realistic to be helpful.

Ninkanink · 02/03/2021 17:09

Floor to ceiling cubicles have their own dangers to women and children, let’s not forget about that.

We need separate spaces. For good reason.

IvyTwines · 02/03/2021 17:08

@BarbaraofKent

The argument that we don't have sex segregated toilets at home so why do we need them in public is one of the most fucking mind numbingly stupid arguments I have ever heard. On anything. Ever.

Who says that thinking 'yep, Ive got em there'.....

Yes, one can only assume they are either trolling or the dumbest person going. And I wonder, when they go to the loos in a bar or restaurant, do they leave their handbag or wallet on the table, like they would at home?
merrymouse · 02/03/2021 17:05

isn't that article calling for more provision of self contained floor to ceiling cubicles with sinks?

Given their lack of understanding of the difference between a public space and somebody's home, I suspect no.

Ninkanink · 02/03/2021 17:05

@Ereshkigalangcleg

The argument that we don't have sex segregated toilets at home so why do we need them in public is one of the most fucking mind numbingly stupid arguments I have ever heard. On anything. Ever.

This.

YES. THIS.

SO UTTERLY STUPID.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/03/2021 17:04

Also I know the safety angle is unpopular but aside from all the flashers and perves, what about pubs and nightclubs. How many of us have never seen a woman crying /hiding in the toilets from an aggressive man, or even hid in them to escape an over - keen man.

I agree. It would be really intimidating for most women and girls to be alone in the loos with a load of drunk blokes. Something people like Butterface never trouble themselves to consider.

merrymouse · 02/03/2021 17:04

Every household in the country has a gender neutral toilet in their own home for use by family members and guests without any segregation, so the idea that gender neutral loos are unusual is farcical.

They seem a bit confused about the difference between public and private space.

However, if they are happy for anyone to wander of the street and into their bathrooms, would be more public spirited if they could advertise their addresses?

PheasantPlucker1 · 02/03/2021 16:55

I worked in a uni that had brand new self contained loos in single units. The uni spent a fortune, they were gorgeous.

And covered in piss.

They had a cleaner permanently on the block but you'd have to check several loos to find one that you could sit on.

Mn753 · 02/03/2021 16:47

Also I know the safety angle is unpopular but aside from all the flashers and perves, what about pubs and nightclubs. How many of us have never seen a woman crying /hiding in the toilets from an aggressive man, or even hid in them to escape an over - keen man.

MadameButterface · 02/03/2021 16:45

@Clymene, from the article in the first link op posted:

"In a project titled 'Stalled' Sanders suggests design solutions in order to better welcome non-heteronormative and non-binary people to public toilets. In it, he calls for the creation of ‘all-gender’ facilities with independent cubicles, each containing a WC and their own sink. "

Mn753 · 02/03/2021 16:44

I used the ones at the bridge theatre, obviously a very naice venue, all I could hear were embarrassed teenage boys and their shouty mothers saying 'it's fine darling, it's gender neutral'

Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/03/2021 16:42

Men often don't shut doors in mixed sex toilets. No thanks.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/03/2021 16:41

The argument that we don't have sex segregated toilets at home so why do we need them in public is one of the most fucking mind numbingly stupid arguments I have ever heard. On anything. Ever.

This.

EmbarrassingAdmissions · 02/03/2021 16:39

Are people emailing to ask for guidance on what "technical comments" are and when this is likely to be open for public consultation?

Mn753 · 02/03/2021 16:38

Also gender neutral toilets are often gross, men pee all over the floor. I would much rather have the double door than a door that opens straight out.

Clymene · 02/03/2021 16:35

I can't see any evidence that the article is proposing self contained rooms with sinks. It is just asking for gender neutral toilets. Often, these are repurposed women's toilets.

Can you provide a link?

And as a poster said the other day, for her, the general area of a women's toilet is useful for asking other women for help with her veil. Single rooms doesn't allow for this.

BarbaraofKent · 02/03/2021 16:34

The argument that we don't have sex segregated toilets at home so why do we need them in public is one of the most fucking mind numbingly stupid arguments I have ever heard. On anything. Ever.

Who says that thinking 'yep, Ive got em there'.....

MadameButterface · 02/03/2021 16:30

... and on those threads, usually the consensus is that we need more accessible enclosed single unit toilets.

MadameButterface · 02/03/2021 16:28

who pays for any public toilets? I thought the article was quite good, lockdown really has shown up a lack of public toilet provision. we do need more, they benefit everyone. in normal times there's usually a bunfight a week on here about prams in disabled toilets or 10 year old boys in the ladies' or 'an elderly woman told me I don't look disabled'.

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