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An inclusive way to be gender critical?

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pensivepigeon · 27/02/2021 07:57

My thoughts on gender and sex are thus:

Gender is a social construct. It is how society and individuals view the presentation of the sexes - in fashion, interests and work roles. Whereas sex is biological, we cannot change it even though we might surgically change our appearance and take artificial hormones which affect our bodily functions.

However because gender is a social construct and we are part of society we can define it. I define gender as

Female = adhering or not adhering to traditional stereotypes regarding names, fashion, interests and work roles.
Male= adhering or not adhering to traditional stereotypes regarding names, fashion, interests and work roles.

If everyone took this on board it would mean safe single sex spaces could be preserved, as people could present themselves however they want, wear what they want but use the single sex space appropriate for their sex without conflict. Uniforms would offer everyone both traditional female and male options which either sex could wear. Ditto with sports, competing takes place within the appropriate sex classes but competitors can wear either the traditional male or female competition uniforms. There would be no confusion and need to agonise over language when providing medical care.

Taking this stance stance means I have no problem when it comes to saying I am of female sex with a female gender.

So am I gender critical? Is this inclusive?

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RootyT00t · 04/03/2021 00:47

@Impatiens

No need to be so pessimistic rootytoot, with all the Court action ongoing and upcoming it might happen sooner than you think. 🙂
I honestly, genuinely, hope so.

People might not agree with what I say but most of it is born out of frustration and sadness I guess at the divided society we seem to have become.

But as I realised on another thread, my age sometimes means I haven't seen some of the things other people have in reverse to women's rights.

Impatiens · 04/03/2021 00:46

No need to be so pessimistic rootytoot, with all the Court action ongoing and upcoming it might happen sooner than you think. 🙂

RootyT00t · 04/03/2021 00:41

@334bu

*The reason there is an assumption that they wont is because if evidence showed they do (no idea how, as you have no idea who you have been sharing a toilet with) we wouldn't be having this debate and it wouldn't be an issue.*

Whoever would use your toilet as a transwoman is already using it.

So just because some males are already abusing the system by using female toilets, we should just ignore it?

No.

My point is there is zero way to police it. Until then, we can all argue this all day but it won't change until it's legislated , which, back to my original argument, won't happen any time soon.

334bu · 04/03/2021 00:39

The reason there is an assumption that they wont is because if evidence showed they do (no idea how, as you have no idea who you have been sharing a toilet with) we wouldn't be having this debate and it wouldn't be an issue.

Whoever would use your toilet as a transwoman is already using it.

So just because some males are already abusing the system by using female toilets, we should just ignore it?

RootyT00t · 04/03/2021 00:33

That is a good question but there is no answr because at the minute, it isnt.

The reason there is an assumption that they wont is because if evidence showed they do (no idea how, as you have no idea who you have been sharing a toilet with) we wouldn't be having this debate and it wouldn't be an issue.

Whoever would use your toilet as a transwoman is already using it.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/03/2021 00:27

Then we are back to an assumption that males won't respect female spaces, if they happen to identify as transwomen.

This is what these arguments always amount to. Why can't our lack of consent be enough?

Impatiens · 04/03/2021 00:26

Opinions can't be incorrect 🤣 coming from one of the main contenders of the 'gender is nonsense' cohort

When an opinion is presented as fact that can be incorrect, yes. When someone expresses a personal opinion about something it's neither correct or incorrect, it's just an opinion. Is that complicated?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/03/2021 00:25

Saying that males who declare themselves women aren't actually women, is absolutely an opinion, depending on the majority definition of woman. It just has more logical and scientific backing than the alternatives.

334bu · 04/03/2021 00:24

Just because some males ignore female boundaries doesn't mean that people should not try to ensure safeguarding.

RootyT00t · 04/03/2021 00:20

@334bu

Also transmen make a deliberate choice to put themselves at risk. The women in female toilets are not given the choice if transwomen are allowed to use female facilities
There is no way of policing this though. Even with an outright ban you are relying on them.
334bu · 04/03/2021 00:18

Also transmen make a deliberate choice to put themselves at risk. The women in female toilets are not given the choice if transwomen are allowed to use female facilities

RootyT00t · 04/03/2021 00:18

@Impatiens

I'm not a "ghastly misogynist" in any shape of form.

Again, incorrect.

It's an opinion, so it can't be incorrect. I agree with it.

Blow me over backwards you agree.

Opinions can't be incorrect 🤣 coming from one of the main contenders of the 'gender is nonsense' cohort

RootyT00t · 04/03/2021 00:17

@CorvusPurpureus

Then we are back to an assumption that males won't respect female spaces, if they happen to identify as transwomen.

For the third time - you have a really low opinion of transwomen.

No, I don't. And that is disingenuous

It's not that they won't , but I'm assuming that since we are having this debate in the fist place, thats the concern..

If transwomen all respected it (well, not that we actually have any way of knowing, do we) we wouldn't be having this bloody conversation

334bu · 04/03/2021 00:16

**a transman is a biological female, he is at as much risk as women.

So why's it OK for them to be in there with men and not biological females?**

Who says it's ok for them? Single sex means single sex.

CorvusPurpureus · 04/03/2021 00:15

Then we are back to an assumption that males won't respect female spaces, if they happen to identify as transwomen.

For the third time - you have a really low opinion of transwomen.

Impatiens · 04/03/2021 00:13

I'm not a "ghastly misogynist" in any shape of form.

Again, incorrect.

It's an opinion, so it can't be incorrect. I agree with it.

RootyT00t · 04/03/2021 00:10

@CorvusPurpureus

Am I misquoting this?

And, quite simply, because there is nothing other than a group of women online campaigning against them and ridiculing and mocking the concept they live by, to stop them.

In reference to male people accessing the female spaces you claim to support?

Sorry what are you asking? Yes I said that.

Because it's true.

Whether they SHOULD respect it is another argument, but wanting something doesn't make it true.

RootyT00t · 04/03/2021 00:10

@334bu

*What should they use? Men's toilets? They are far more at risk in there.*

At risk because males are there?
But transwomen are male and just as likely to be dangerous as other males , so why put women at risk by allowing a certain type of male to use female facilities?

You can't have it all the ways.

If a transman is a biological female, he is at as much risk as women.

So why's it OK for them to be in there with men and not biological females?

Again, I am absolutely in favour of third spaces.

CorvusPurpureus · 04/03/2021 00:09

Am I misquoting this?

And, quite simply, because there is nothing other than a group of women online campaigning against them and ridiculing and mocking the concept they live by, to stop them.

In reference to male people accessing the female spaces you claim to support?

RootyT00t · 04/03/2021 00:09

@CorvusPurpureus if you want to be that particular, then yes, your QUOTE is correct.

but your paragraph underneath of "so you are saying", isn't. on three occasions.

RootyT00t · 04/03/2021 00:08

@CorvusPurpureus

No, you weren't being polite, you were being...inaccurate (& that definitely IS me being polite).

I scrupulously quoted exactly what you'd posted.

I don't care if you're floundering for a version of feminism that involves some ghastly misogynistic ideas - we have THAT argument all the time.

But it's not helping you to accuse other posters of misquoting you when everyone can see that you've been directly & accurately quoted.

I'm not a "ghastly misogynist" in any shape of form.

Again, incorrect.

You said I said that men who weren't welcomed by women would imply violence.

Never once said anything of the sort.

334bu · 04/03/2021 00:06

What should they use? Men's toilets? They are far more at risk in there.

At risk because males are there?
But transwomen are male and just as likely to be dangerous as other males , so why put women at risk by allowing a certain type of male to use female facilities?

CorvusPurpureus · 04/03/2021 00:06

No, you weren't being polite, you were being...inaccurate (& that definitely IS me being polite).

I scrupulously quoted exactly what you'd posted.

I don't care if you're floundering for a version of feminism that involves some ghastly misogynistic ideas - we have THAT argument all the time.

But it's not helping you to accuse other posters of misquoting you when everyone can see that you've been directly & accurately quoted.

RootyT00t · 04/03/2021 00:04

@Impatiens

I have nothing to hide, you can read what I said and what was quoted

Yes and that's why people pick you up on what you say - then you claim you didn't say it. Every time.

I would support a court decision
Your position is so confused your support or otherwise is pretty irrelevant tbh.

My position isn't confused, Impatiens.

It's pretty clear.

I agree with what's been said. I don't agree with the manner.

Yes, I say I didn't say it, because I didn't.

On each occasion, the "so you're saying" has been absolutely stuff all like what I said.

Impatiens · 04/03/2021 00:03

I have nothing to hide, you can read what I said and what was quoted

Yes and that's why people pick you up on what you say - then you claim you didn't say it. Every time.

I would support a court decision
Your position is so confused your support or otherwise is pretty irrelevant tbh.

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