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An inclusive way to be gender critical?

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pensivepigeon · 27/02/2021 07:57

My thoughts on gender and sex are thus:

Gender is a social construct. It is how society and individuals view the presentation of the sexes - in fashion, interests and work roles. Whereas sex is biological, we cannot change it even though we might surgically change our appearance and take artificial hormones which affect our bodily functions.

However because gender is a social construct and we are part of society we can define it. I define gender as

Female = adhering or not adhering to traditional stereotypes regarding names, fashion, interests and work roles.
Male= adhering or not adhering to traditional stereotypes regarding names, fashion, interests and work roles.

If everyone took this on board it would mean safe single sex spaces could be preserved, as people could present themselves however they want, wear what they want but use the single sex space appropriate for their sex without conflict. Uniforms would offer everyone both traditional female and male options which either sex could wear. Ditto with sports, competing takes place within the appropriate sex classes but competitors can wear either the traditional male or female competition uniforms. There would be no confusion and need to agonise over language when providing medical care.

Taking this stance stance means I have no problem when it comes to saying I am of female sex with a female gender.

So am I gender critical? Is this inclusive?

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/03/2021 16:24

Trans gender people are in a protected class, unlike non trans gender people

You're suggesting that gender reassignment is the only protected characteristic. Which is nonsense.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/03/2021 16:23

Why do you write "trans gender" with a space?

Justhadathought · 02/03/2021 16:21

Trans gender people are in a protected class, unlike non trans gender people

Stop trying to centre yourself in everything. Women are not "non trans people".

Justhadathought · 02/03/2021 16:20

Trans gender people are in a protected class, unlike non trans gender people, but they are who they say they are. "Separate but equal" does not have a storied history

Women are a protected group in the U.k, with protected status in the Equalities Act - which guarantees single sex spaces and services.

Different, but equal is a great principle to strive for. Equality does not mean sameness. It can accommodate difference.

Campaign for your third spaces, services and sporting categories and most of the conflict would cease.

DadJoke · 02/03/2021 16:09

@Justhadathought How can you consider yourself as an ally if you are trying to force something, and manipulate, to get what you want?

I am not forcing anyone to do anything, not am I manipulating anyone. I am putting the evidence out there.

Trans people are trans people; a separate category of person. Campaign for third spaces and provisions, and maybe you'll get more of the support you feel you need.

Trans gender people are in a protected class, unlike non trans gender people, but they are who they say they are. "Separate but equal" does not have a storied history.

pensivepigeon · 02/03/2021 15:59

However, bear in mind that most people are totally against pushing children; young gay and lesbian teenagers; and autistic youngsters down a path of medicalisation and surgery in order to confirm a narrative.

And there is no need for this if we can get more people to recognise it is normative for stereotypes of gender expression to bear no relation to a person's sex. Feminists have been seeking to break down sexual stereotypes for generations. Why smash down their good work when it could serve people of all different genders very well in enabling greater acceptance of a variety of gender expressions within society?

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Justhadathought · 02/03/2021 15:53

should be allies

How can you consider yourself as an ally if you are trying to force something, and manipulate, to get what you want?

Trans people are trans people; a separate category of person. Campaign for third spaces and provisions, and maybe you'll get more of the support you feel you need.

However, bear in mind that most people are totally against pushing children; young gay and lesbian teenagers; and autistic youngsters down a path of medicalisation and surgery in order to confirm a narrative.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/03/2021 15:50

I'm not sure DadJoke has any gender identity confusion. He appears to identify very strongly as "man telling the ladies what's what".

pensivepigeon · 02/03/2021 15:50

It would be nice if more of this energy was directed there rather than attacking a highly oppressed minority who are in the most danger, and should be allies.

Indeed. And they could be allies if they fully acknowledged, that since sex is separate from gender, provisions and protections are made for sex and gender, each, separately. It makes sense as there are differing needs.

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/03/2021 15:49

Do they understand that women are different to men biologically? If so, they are not.

I slotted this in about being different biologically after I typed the last sentence so it doesn't make sense. Apologies.

To sum up: it is not in the least "intersectional" to seek to deny the axis of oppression that is being biologically female, in favour of pandering to people who don't feel themselves to fit into their biological sex.

Justhadathought · 02/03/2021 15:47

*It would be nice if more of this energy was directed there rather than attacking a highly oppressed minority who are in the most danger, and should be allies8

It would be nice if you campaigned for your own spaces, services and categories...just like other groups have had to do. Nobody wants anyone to feel unsafe or oppressed........do they?

If you listen, you can hear what women are telling you. They are telling you that they value, need and require the spaces and services that they have; that they find it offensive to try to suggest that being a woman is just a feeling in someone's mind; that women must change the language that they use to describe their own experience; that other groups must be centred in their spaces.....

If you identified with rather than as you would understand this.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/03/2021 15:44

It is you who sounds obsessed. Trying to force something where it is not wanted; and with no signs of empathy for the group that you are trying to impose upon.

Quite.

pensivepigeon · 02/03/2021 15:44

If an individual member of a protected class has an issue in general with people from another protected class, it might be possible to make an accomodation,
@DadJoke

Biological females are protected under British law.

but just because an individual has PTSD and is triggered by BAME people, disabled people, or transgender people for example, that says nothing about an accomodation for the whole class.

Biological females who have suffered abuse from biological males are a whole class. (Pretty big one. It's why British law is as it is) And transgender MTF people wanting access to women's safe spaces are biologically still male. Hormones, surgery etc doesn't change this (as you stated yourself) and the (potentially) physical and psychological intimidation they exert on women when they (metaphorically) force themselves into female spaces exists just as much as gender identity does.

Any of these issues can be discussed and solved if we start from the premise that gender identity is a real thing, and that people are the gender they say they are

Just look at the title of this thread I started! Look at the opening post! I have started from this premise! I understand this.

I questioned your own assertion that gender expression might not match gender identity since I believe it pretty logical that a verbal expression of gender identity is a form of gender expression however I also stated this really does not matter in the context of a wide variety of genders been deemed completely acceptable for either sex.

And no where on this thread had it been established that someone's sex can be changed. And provisions and protections are made under British law for biological sex. Why should gender change these provisions? Someones sex still remains the same. Surely gender, as it is separate characteristic from sex, should have separate provisions and protections made where appropriate?

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/03/2021 15:43

they are intersectional feminists

Are they campaigning for gender identity to completely replace biological sex in feminism? Do they understand that women are different to men biologically? If so, they are not.

Justhadathought · 02/03/2021 15:42

This obssession with trans women, who are not the source of women's oppression, seems disproportion, when it's men who are the main source of women's oppression. It would be nice if more of this energy was directed there rather than attacking a highly oppressed minority who are in the most danger, and should be allies

If you try to force your way in, and coerce people, of course you are going to get a reaction. Women require and value single sex spaces, services and sports. That is why we have them.

It is you who sounds obsessed. Trying to force something where it is not wanted; and with no signs of empathy for the group that you are trying to impose upon.

Justhadathought · 02/03/2021 15:38

Discomfort with the presence of members of protected classes has been a source of bigotry and oppression throughout the ages

Males have not traditionally been a protected class. Females, on the other hand, have been, and remain so. The world over.

Protected groups tend not to try to storm the boundaries of other protected groups. Protected groups usually seek their own safe space, in fact. Forcing oneself on another, who does not want you there is not generally something a vulnerable person or group does. that speaks far more of privilege and power.

Justhadathought · 02/03/2021 15:35

Again, this is based on the premise that transgender people are not who they say they are, and gender identity is not real

Pretty much, yes.

Nobody wants to deny someone's else's feelings about themselves, but feelings and material reality are two separate issues.

Nobody just accepts a stranger's word that "they are who they say they are". Not in most normal or formal circumstances, anyway. and certainly not when faced with the obvious cognitive dissonance of being presented with a white person, for example, who tells you they are black; or with an obviously male person who tells you that they are female.

Feelings don't trump reality.

Justhadathought · 02/03/2021 15:30

Any of these issues can be discussed and solved if we start from the premise that gender identity is a real thing, and that people are the gender they say they are. If you start from a counterfactual, that trans women, for example, are men, we get nowhere

Gender and sex are two separate things. Gender is entirely a mental and social construct, and as such it is relative to the individual and to the society that formulates it.

You can believe in 'gender identities' if you wish, but you have no right to impose that belief onto others. Sex is an established fact, the world over, however.One's inner feelings about oneself are one's own issue to deal with. You don't go around expecting the whole world to conform to your very private ideas or feelings about yourself.

DadJoke · 02/03/2021 15:30

@Justhadathought You've got no idea what what most women in Britain think. I, on the other hand, know what many women think because I've spoken to a wide ranging sample of them. women and girls value the privacy and dignity that single sex spaces provide, and they feel very uncomfortable with males in their intimate spaces, unless invited.

Again, this is based on the premise that transgender people are not who they say they are, and gender identity is not real. I am not basing my views on a collection of anecdotes, though I have listened to many women on this issue. A few are still GC, but on the whole, they are intersectional feminists. I wouldn't rely on those conversations alone to form an opinion.

Discomfort with the presence of members of protected classes has been a source of bigotry and oppression throughout the ages.

This obssession with trans women, who are not the source of women's oppression, seems disproportion, when it's men who are the main source of women's oppression. It would be nice if more of this energy was directed there rather than attacking a highly oppressed minority who are in the most danger, and should be allies.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/03/2021 15:27

Everyone in Britain already has equal civil rights. That includes people who identify as trans.

Indeed.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/03/2021 15:26

If you start from a counterfactual, that trans women, for example, are men, we get nowhere.

How is that "a counterfactual"? Give us your definition of "trans woman".

Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/03/2021 15:25

Trans women for example are not perpetrators of abuse as a class against non-trans women.

It's not remotely relevant what inner gender identity they have. Males are perpetrators of abuse as a class against females.

DadJoke · 02/03/2021 15:23

@pensivepigeon "Why is deemed acceptable that trans genders people's psychological well-being should be put before that of female survivors of male abuse?"

I don't agree with the premise of the question.

Trans women for example are not perpetrators of abuse as a class against non-trans women. If an individual member of a protected class has an issue in general with people from another protected class, it might be possible to make an accomodation, but just because an individual has PTSD and is triggered by BAME people, disabled people, or transgender people for example, that says nothing about an accomodation for the whole class.

Any of these issues can be discussed and solved if we start from the premise that gender identity is a real thing, and that people are the gender they say they are. If you start from a counterfactual, that trans women, for example, are men, we get nowhere.

Justhadathought · 02/03/2021 15:23

Everyone in Britain already has equal civil rights. That includes people who identify as trans.

Justhadathought · 02/03/2021 15:21

Fully transitioned transexuals are not the same group as the far more diverse transgender identified grouping of today.

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