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Woman who has been chained to her partner

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JackieWeaverIsTheAuthority · 26/02/2021 13:50

Hopefully the link works. link

I was going to title this “couple who have chained themselves to each other” but after reading the report that’s clearly not what has happened. Her boyfriend chained her to him to stop her leaving him.

This woman has been hospitalised due to the ulcers this chain has created on her arm.

Lots of grinning faces on Facebook. This is a woman who has literally been chained to her a abusive partner to prevent her leaving- it’s causing her physical injury- they’re publicising his abuse of her. And people are laughing.

What the actual fuck needs to happen for people to recognise abuse when they see it?

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iklboo · 26/02/2021 14:15

Ah, of course. Because she's not got a black eye & fat lip, looks clean and isn't crying her eyes out she's not being abused? Christ alive.

sqirrelfriends · 26/02/2021 14:15

I'm actually very scared for her, she has no privacy and no way to get away from him do she needs to.

TuesdayinSeptember · 26/02/2021 14:14

@Dozycuntlaters

It's not abuse, its a publicity stunt. She does not look bothered, she looks quite chilled and the article says it is a decision they made together. I think you're being dramatic when you say he chained her to stop her leaving him, they both decided together to do it so that they couldn't run off every time they disagree. This is so not abuse.
Right, as long she looks chilled, everything is fine Hmm

As for the rest of your post, you might want to read the full article again, because you are misrepresenting what was said.

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JackieWeaverIsTheAuthority · 26/02/2021 14:11

I bet her friends and family would have a different word to use to describe their “quarrels”.

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JackieWeaverIsTheAuthority · 26/02/2021 14:10

@Labobo

It's fascinating how language is used to misdirect in that article. The headline specifically states that she chained herself to him. Implies: her choice. Her idea. She led the action. At the bottom of the article it's revealed she kept leaving him and that it was his idea and he convinced her.
Yes and so many people won’t bother to read the article to find out that information- so to them it will be as simple as “her choice to hurt herself.”
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Wanderlusto · 26/02/2021 14:10

At best, their relationship isnt working if they keep arguing to the point where she has to walk away. And at worst, he is an abusive arsehole.

Labobo · 26/02/2021 14:08

It's fascinating how language is used to misdirect in that article. The headline specifically states that she chained herself to him. Implies: her choice. Her idea. She led the action. At the bottom of the article it's revealed she kept leaving him and that it was his idea and he convinced her.

EmbarrassingAdmissions · 26/02/2021 14:06

Convincing people that coercive control is real shouldn't be this hard. That said, it's taken a disappointingly long time to convince the legal system that it exists so perhaps it's not so shocking that the general public is lagging behind in understanding despite the work of Sally Challoner and her sons.

But - laughing at those wounds? No, that's unaccountable.

RestingPandaFace · 26/02/2021 14:06

In the article it says that she didn’t want to, but he made her do it anyway to stop her moving out.

It’s causing her painful ulcers but he doesn’t want it removed, and it’s welded shut so she really has no choice.

Seems like dressed up domestic abuse to me...

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JackieWeaverIsTheAuthority · 26/02/2021 14:03

And btw before I even read the article the thing that piqued my interest from a feminist perspective was that the chain was on the arms that allowed only him to be able to drive the car. Then I read the article and it was even worse than I thought.

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ErrolTheDragon · 26/02/2021 14:01

@Dozycuntlaters

It's not abuse, its a publicity stunt. She does not look bothered, she looks quite chilled and the article says it is a decision they made together. I think you're being dramatic when you say he chained her to stop her leaving him, they both decided together to do it so that they couldn't run off every time they disagree. This is so not abuse.
You don't seem to have read the piece, or understood it,

^ Alexander said their unusual challenge had been his idea, claiming his girlfriend used to move out after the 'slightest quarrel'.
He explained: "I jokingly said - 'I'll tie you up. Why do you need all this running around?'
"In the end we did so.
"Viktoria didn't really agree at first, but I convinced her."^

PheasantPlucker1 · 26/02/2021 14:00

Shock wtf did I just read?

I just hope next tine she runs away he doesnt find her

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JackieWeaverIsTheAuthority · 26/02/2021 13:58

People really still don’t understand how abuse works do they?

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JackieWeaverIsTheAuthority · 26/02/2021 13:57

I think you're being dramatic when you say he chained her to stop her leaving him

Well then he is being dramatic because that’s exactly what he says.

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JackieWeaverIsTheAuthority · 26/02/2021 13:56

She does not look bothered, she looks quite chilled

Oh yes- because she would be crying and miserable in the photo of it was abuse- right?

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Dozycuntlaters · 26/02/2021 13:55

It's not abuse, its a publicity stunt. She does not look bothered, she looks quite chilled and the article says it is a decision they made together. I think you're being dramatic when you say he chained her to stop her leaving him, they both decided together to do it so that they couldn't run off every time they disagree. This is so not abuse.

ErrolTheDragon · 26/02/2021 13:54

Bloody hell. Talk about a totally misleading headline too. Confused

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JackieWeaverIsTheAuthority · 26/02/2021 13:52

Screenshots for anyone who doesn’t want to read the link

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