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Any other BACP members on here?

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lalawasthebestteletubby · 22/02/2021 16:47

I've nc for this post, because my professional association is so fucking captured I can't not. I do hang around these parts, mostly lurking but post a bit.

I wrote to BACP when 'Captured' was published, after being chased several times they wrote back basically saying they weren't going to comment on it. Now I get home from work and find my Therapy Today on the doormat, with it's cover article 'Why pronouns matter'.

I've only skimmed it as it makes me too angry, but essentially it's a non binary therapist expecting their clients to 'enable me to be me at work ' i.e. use their preferred name and pronouns. A particular gem which caught my eye is 'I no longer engage in 'debates' around the existence of different identities. It's essential that my identity or that of a client/supervisee is simply respected, otherwise we get into the territory of fascist rhetoric masquerading as free speech'.

FUCKING WHAT?! You are the therapist, the client isn't there to validate you and your oh so special identity, why would a client even need to know your preferred pronouns, when would they be speaking about you to need them? IT'S NOT FUCKING MEANT TO BE ABOUT YOU AngryAngryAngry

Sorry for the rant but honest to betsey I am so sick of this SHIT.

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samosamo · 25/02/2021 18:44

@gardenbird48

Clinical psychologists

alwayslucky · 25/02/2021 15:44

Hmm...Where, logically, would this stop? Am I a Peer of the Realm, a Nobel Prize winner, and an Olympic Gold Medallist, because 'that is how I choose to identify myself'?

MrsWooster · 25/02/2021 09:34

I’m a therapist and I’m white, middle aged, middle class, and female. None of that is relevant because the therapy isn’t about me. It is something I consider in order to exclude my prejudice and to ensure I’m able to work within the client’s frame of reference and, after that, I sit the fuck down because this is the client’s journey, not mine.

gardenbird48 · 25/02/2021 09:07

@samosamo

Fair enough. Alone 'women' might not seem so significant, but taken together with straight, middle class, and white I think it is. These women are often very privileged and entitled. I've heard so many thoughtless comments that I've tried in vain to forget. Lack of diversity is one of the profession's major failings in my opinion.
Hi samo can expand on your point please? Which women are you describing as straight, middle class, white, privileged and entitled?
samosamo · 25/02/2021 00:04

Sorry that was to @MrsWinnicott

samosamo · 25/02/2021 00:03

Fair enough. Alone 'women' might not seem so significant, but taken together with straight, middle class, and white I think it is. These women are often very privileged and entitled. I've heard so many thoughtless comments that I've tried in vain to forget. Lack of diversity is one of the profession's major failings in my opinion.

lalawasthebestteletubby · 24/02/2021 23:19

Oh I'd be happy to do some meaningful CPD on diversity - unless by 'diversity' you just mean centring trans people? Hmm Perhaps the author of the article would like to do some too, in order to understand why they were breaching the rights of, for example, observant muslims, if (as they describe in the article) they have been judged for using male, female and disabled public toilet facilities (sorry not sorry I can't be bothered to find the journal to find the exact wording)? Or is that another out of context quote?

Maybe while we're at it we could all have a little glance at the ethical framework, for instance our commitment to 'Put clients first by making clients our primary concern while we are working with them' and our principles of, just as an example, 'Autonomy: respect for the client’s right to be self-governing' and 'Beneficence: a commitment to promoting the client’s wellbeing'. Let's all do that, shall we?

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Poettherapist · 24/02/2021 21:29

I saw the OP on Twitter too and am moved to join Mumsnet as a result. I have also read the article and the quotes are out of context to the whole.

All I can say is that those who are very critical and angry about it might want to:

A) Read it
B) Do some meaningful CPD on diversity if you're STILL angry after reading it

Namaste

SqueakyLittleAliens · 24/02/2021 21:03

@gardenbird48

Just as a heads up - this thread has attracted attention from certain people on Twitter who are not being very complimentary.
Fascinating as ever... that Twitter response in response to a post/small thread saying that it shouldn't be a CLIENT'S responsibility to affirm a THERAPIST.
lalawasthebestteletubby · 24/02/2021 19:25

gardenbird wow Twitter really is a cesspit, I hardly ever venture there. The scary thing is, I think they really believe that a therapist who thinks therapy should be about the client, not the therapist, should be disciplined or struck off. They really think they are so, so marginalised and oppressed that anyone, even someone paying them for professional help, should centre them over all else. Wow.

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Summerhillsquare · 24/02/2021 12:35

Can't wait to see Jessica Taylor on this. She would be tear it to bits.

Surely potential clients will give narcissists like this a wide berth?

vivariumvivariumsvivaria · 24/02/2021 12:34

That's so interesting about Maslow's.

I'm not a CP but I am a member of the HCPC.

I can't do my job, which sex is a central issue in, if I have to pretend that sex isn't real.

I live in Scotland where the Hate Crime Bill is about to criminalise me for believing that the trans woman who accesses my clinic is of the male sex.

If a patients sex is clinically relevant and I need to mention it in order to provide good care - then I think I'll be vulnerable to an accusation of tranphsobia as a hate crime. Which could get me struck off.

The problem with this situation is that I would not contemplate applying for a post at a gender clinic. It is all too fraught, too political, too dangerous to my career to work at a GIC. Which is a shame, as I have th skills, experience and nature to be ideal to work with that population, apart from you know, being able to recognise sex when I see it.

How will waiting lists at GICs ever come down if HCPs are wary (for good reason) of working in this field?

It's all so short sighted and stupid. All of it.

gardenbird48 · 24/02/2021 12:24

Just as a heads up - this thread has attracted attention from certain people on Twitter who are not being very complimentary.

MrsWinnicott · 24/02/2021 12:10

There was a recent online conference where like minded clinicians came together to discuss how this issue is affecting their practice. It also had a variety of other speakers who talked about related issues: "DO NOT ADJUST YOUR SET”: SEX,GENDER and PUBLIC POLICY.

The conference was recorded but I don't know if it's only available to ticket holders.

Any other BACP members on here?
Skateosaurus · 24/02/2021 12:04

@SingToTheSky I saw your original before it was pulled! Grin

That's the good thing about doing the course as an older student, I am unlikely to be pulled into the 'be kind' scenarios.

I actually have a live discussion coming up on mental disorders and gender in the next few days. I am planning to take part, I'm just a bit worried about actually saying anything.

I have touched on it in a previous discussion where I discussed Maslow's Hierarchy of Need. How it is possible we are at the 'self actualisation' stage which is why identity and pronouns are playing such a prevalent part in people's lives. I made a small comment about if identity is your biggest worry then you're doing ok and someone else agreed that it seems like a privilege to be in a position to be concerned with identity. But the discussion came to an end soon after (time constraints) so I didn't get chance to follow up on it and it's very hard over Zoom anyway.

But its so worrying if it's coming from the affiliated bodies that these things are a thing!

SingToTheSky · 24/02/2021 11:29

Ah. Deleted for wrong phrasing. Clean version: DSD is also doing a masters in psychology, and despite having a really good conversation about these issues back in 2019 where I was so happy she got it, she now seems to have been captured, and I’m gutted.

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Skateosaurus · 24/02/2021 10:22

This is something that really concerns me. I am currently studying for an MSc in Psychology. Several topics talk about the differences between male and female and they tend to call them both sex and gender.

I'm at a very woke university (only just discovered how woke when it was in the rest recently)and with it being an online course, the subjects of pronouns and gender have been avoided so far, but I really want to question the tutors on this.

However I am too scared of jeopardising my place or my marks if I out myself as GC, but I'm also 45 years old and know a bit about the world and biology and it annoys the heck out of me that I feel I am too scared to ask questions on a masters course!

InvisibleDragon · 24/02/2021 07:33

There's also BPSWatch, which is blogging and tweeting about poor governance at the BPS - including editorial interference on publications about sex and gender.

bpswatch.com/

SisterWendyBuckett · 24/02/2021 06:58

squeakylittlealiens Some clinicians are meeting online to discuss issues in private, for obvious reasons.

A number of therapists are talking about things publicly - to one degree or another.

Therapists Stella O'Malley and Sasha Ayed have a fantastic podcast - Gender A Wider Lens. This episode on Collective Collusion is great:

https://gender-a-wider-lens.captivate.fm/episode/7-collective-collusion

There was a recent online conference where like minded clinicians came together to discuss how this issue is affecting their practice. It also had a variety of other speakers who talked about related issues: "DO NOT ADJUST YOUR SET”: SEX,GENDER and PUBLIC POLICY.

The conference was recorded but I don't know if it's only available to ticket holders.

If you don't already, it's also worth following concerned practitioners on Twitter - the ones I've mentioned here and upthread plus Dr Az Maxwell Hazeem and Kirsty Entwistle. Sasha is Inspired Teen Therapy on Twitter.

All the associations are 'captured' and have signed the Memorandum of Understanding. But, once you know who has a wider perspective then I think you'll be able to start reaching out and making connections.

Good luck and thank you - it's so important that therapists are able to retain their critical thinking and uphold their training.

SqueakyLittleAliens · 23/02/2021 22:49

@SisterWendyBuckett

This will have its day. The overreach will be its downfall.

And there are an increasing number of therapists at all levels of the profession who see right through this and are joining together to say a big fat NO.

Please don't worry too much, OP.

This is good to hear, @SisterWendyBuckett. Where are they joining together (if you can say?)? I don't know how to access others in the profession who want open critique of this.
lalawasthebestteletubby · 23/02/2021 21:44

A day later, and I'm still as angry Angry

I'd write to BACP and rip this fucking narcissistic shitshow to pieces, but I'd just be a hateful transphobe then wouldn't I? (And yes SisterWendy the projection in that sentence is knockout). I wonder what other identities I need to 'simply respect' in my work - maybe the overweight identity of an anorexic client, or the cured identity of a palliative client? Would BACP be happy if I did that? Fucking idiots, the lot of them, pandering to this obvious bollocks.

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alwayslucky · 23/02/2021 21:11

On similar lines, I found it disturbingly unprofessional when a lesbian co-volunteer wore badges to inform the public, in effect, about what she did in bed. It was good she gave pro bono advice to them, but what possible reason could there be for forcing that personal information onto them?

SisterWendyBuckett · 23/02/2021 21:09

This will have its day. The overreach will be its downfall.

And there are an increasing number of therapists at all levels of the profession who see right through this and are joining together to say a big fat NO.

Please don't worry too much, OP.

SisterWendyBuckett · 23/02/2021 21:04

It's essential that my identity or that of a client/supervisee is simply respected, otherwise we get into the territory of fascist rhetoric masquerading as free speech'.
If this isn't projection, I don't know what is.

Being gaslighted is extremely damaging to one's mental health.

The remedy, I find, is to go and read something by Marcus Evans, Dave Bell, Sue Evans or Heather Brunskell- Evans.