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Solidarity in Aldi today!

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JaneyHenderson · 13/02/2021 18:08

This is my first thread in a very long time but I wanted to share the uplifting and fabulous experience I had today in Aldi😂

I reached 'peak' during the last lockdown and lurk regularly on here while trying to make sense of the madness.
DH is supportive to a degree but very nervous of me being vocal about my GC views as we are both teachers. I am a middle leader in a secondary school and he worries about me getting sackedConfused
So I can't discuss this much IRL.

Anyway, queing outside Aldi today and saw a woman a few people ahead of me with a 'Woman
Noun
adult human female' tote bag. I was thrilled and as soon as there was an opportunity (by the fruit and vegWink) I told her I liked her bag and that I knew what it meant.
She said I had made her day; I replied I she had made mine. Then she said 'Solidarity sister and see you on the next march'
We went on our separate ways but bloody hell it was brilliant. To vocalise it and be recognised. Felt a bit emotional and even now re-writing it, am a bit teary.

Just wanted to share. It was wonderful.

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MoodyMarshall · 13/02/2021 19:12

@MrDarcysMa

When someone asks me my gender, I say 'my sex is female, I don't believe in gender'.

ArabellaScott · 13/02/2021 19:12

tbh if this is the hill my career dies on, so be it.

[fistbumpemoji]

Lovely story, OP. When I see friends on social media liking posts by Standing for Women, etc, it gives my heart a little leap. I know that many of them can't be openly questioning the ideology because of their jobs. So - guarded comments, tiny, quiet wee revolutions. It all adds up.

Maybe I'll order a bag, too. Smile

Mrsmorton · 13/02/2021 19:10

For any posters who are genuine, and don't understand...

woman
/ˈwʊmən/

noun
plural noun: women
an adult female human being.
"a drawing of a young woman"

This definition is apparently, transphobic. It is an act of resistance to wear mercy with this definition on, there was a whole "billboard" thing and a very ling history. Posie Parker's video above is explanatory.

Hetilia · 13/02/2021 19:10

Do you think it's possible to change sex MrDarcysMa?

gardenbird48 · 13/02/2021 19:10

I'd be quite keen to take one into a Lush store and see if I get chucked out. Then I would go to The Body Shop and see what happens there.... Grin Grin

(for those who haven't seen the hoo ha, Lush (smelly stuff shop) stated that people who believe in biology and support women's rights are banned and The Body Shop mocked a survivor of domestic abuse for telling her story so they can get lost too.)

MrDarcysMa · 13/02/2021 19:10

@MoodyMarshall thank you!
So if asked your gender what do you say? Obvs sex is woman but gender do you say non binary or something ? Or is non binary only used for sex? Confused

Wearywithteens · 13/02/2021 19:10

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MrDarcysMa · 13/02/2021 19:08

@ShowOfHands no they don't make me change sex if I wear trousers obvs.
But I'd have thought that gender critical means you wouldn't confirm to any gender stereotypes at all. So I'm not sure if I am really GC .

Bouledeneige · 13/02/2021 19:08

I'd love to see one in real life. It is like being in the resistance - I've come out to a few friends and been relieved to find those that feel strongly about it too. There's quite a lot of us.

ArabellaScott · 13/02/2021 19:07

@Wearywithteens

What warms my cockles more is that you’re both teachers - and secondary! I thought all teachers were firmly signed up to the twaw dogma. Brilliant share - thanks OP.
None of the ones I know as friends/family. Smile
MoodyMarshall · 13/02/2021 19:07

@MrDarcysMa

Welcome! Me too, I look 'girly' for want of a better word. But I don't have a gender and am firmly GC. The whole point is: you can look/act/dress however you like, but it doesn't change your sex.

ShowOfHands · 13/02/2021 19:06

@MrDarcysMa

Hi all, I'm quite new to this. I have a question which I think might be stupid or obvious but I'm not sure ? I think I'm GC in theory but I do wear mainly women's clothing and I suppose I follow the gender norms associated with being a woman. Does this make me GC, are you all GC If you wear mascara, flowers dresses, do the childcare at home etc ? Hope this makes sense x
Do those clothes or roles make you a woman or are you a woman who happens to wear certain clothes? If you wear trousers and go to work, do you stop being a woman?
Carefulvulvadriver · 13/02/2021 19:06

Lovely Aldi moment, and thank you thank you all you teachers and TAs. Gives me hope my kid will be ok!

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 13/02/2021 19:05

@Benjispruce2

Is anyone going to explain?
Def watch the video.
MrDarcysMa · 13/02/2021 19:04

Hi all, I'm quite new to this. I have a question which I think might be stupid or obvious but I'm not sure ?
I think I'm GC in theory but I do wear mainly women's clothing and I suppose I follow the gender norms associated with being a woman.
Does this make me GC, are you all GC If you wear mascara, flowers dresses, do the childcare at home etc ? Hope this makes sense x

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JaneyHenderson · 13/02/2021 19:03

@Benjispruce2

Is anyone going to explain?
There is a video link up thread which explains it⬆️
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Benjispruce2 · 13/02/2021 19:02

Is anyone going to explain?

AnyOldPrion · 13/02/2021 19:00

Sounds lovely. I’d love to do some stickering for similar reasons, but it’ll have to wait for lockdown to end. Wonder how many of us there are.

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JaneyHenderson · 13/02/2021 19:00

@HipTightOnions

I have never discussed it at work and likely never will. I would like to look in depth at the PSHE curriculum but I would be unable to keep my mouth shut

I wish you would/could. The more of us who speak up the better - they can’t sack us all!

If I didn't have 3 dependent DC and a massive fucking mortgage, I would!
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Redrunbluerun · 13/02/2021 18:58

Wonderful Op 😀

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JaneyHenderson · 13/02/2021 18:58

@tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz

Oh wow! I would have been thrilled too OP GrinI'm so chuffed for you!

I would love a bag like that but I'm ashamed to say I'd be nervous of any backlash too especially if I bumped into someone from work (I work in a school).

I would bloody love to march right now though ...

It's more the potential backlash if someone did notice and google or similar. Judging from the PPs asking what it means, it seems like it's not well known enough to cause an issue.
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ErrolTheDragon · 13/02/2021 18:58

It's actually quite a good thing that people may not 'get it' - after all, it's what should be a completely uncontroversial dictionary definition. It is completely uncontroversial and obvious to most people.

woman: adult human female.

Simple and sufficient.

Benjispruce2 · 13/02/2021 18:57

What are GC views?

Benjispruce2 · 13/02/2021 18:57

I don’t get this.Confused

HipTightOnions · 13/02/2021 18:57

tbh if this is the hill my career dies on, so be it.

I’m at that point too. Good luck!

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