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Contraception

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Nicknamegoeshere · 28/01/2021 11:50

I want to come off the pill as my partner and I rarely have sex. Do I need to ask his permission? He might not want to use a condom if we do have sex eventually.

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Nicknamegoeshere · 28/01/2021 12:23

Baby is 8 months.

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Nicknamegoeshere · 28/01/2021 12:22

I'm breastfeeding so this a huge factor. Should I stop? Plan was to self-wean so might be until around 3 or older (my other two were around 3).

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CaraDuneRedux · 28/01/2021 12:04

Feeling like you need to have sex you don't actually want is not a good place for a relationship to be.

NB huge range of possible reasons from you've lost interest because the relationship has actually run its course, pill is destroying your libido - a very common side effect, mismatched sex drives, all the way through to he's behaving like a sex pest and that's a turn off. I won't speculate because there's not enough info to guess. But I recommend you sit down and have a good hard think.

Because "how do I talk myself into sex I don't want?" is never a healthy headspace to be in.

formerbabe · 28/01/2021 12:01

@Whatwouldscullydo

You shouldn't be having sex you don't want.

Please don't force yourself. You don't owe him sex

Absolutely.
Whatwouldscullydo · 28/01/2021 12:00

You shouldn't be having sex you don't want.

Please don't force yourself. You don't owe him sex

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Nicknamegoeshere · 28/01/2021 11:58

Yes of course I'd tell him if we were going to have sex. We definitely don't want a baby . I think I should try more to have sex though as I think he feels like I'm pushing him away?

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formerbabe · 28/01/2021 11:55

You do also have every right to turn down sex without a condom too

This too.

formerbabe · 28/01/2021 11:54

Oh and pretty obviously if you do have sex and don't want to get pregnant, you need to sort out some form of contraception.

Whatwouldscullydo · 28/01/2021 11:54

You don't need anyones permission to stop taking the pill.

You do also have every right to turn down sex without a condom too.

formerbabe · 28/01/2021 11:51

You don't need to ask his permission.

You do need to tell him though if you have sex with him.