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Leaked transcript confirms Stonewall’s plans to target primary school children

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Glinner · 19/01/2021 21:12

A transcript of a webinar between an unnamed bank and the ex-Chair of Stonewall, Jan Gooding, has been leaked.

Recently, Natwest has been at the centre of a row over women’s rights. Specifically, the corporation told a Government inquiry that it would support the removal of the need for married people to have a spouse’s consent to be legally recognised as the opposite sex. In response to this, Trans Widows’ Voices asked whether the bank’s customers and shareholders had been consulted on their political stance. Baroness Noakes, a former Shadow Secretary and ex-Director at Natwest, also expressed her disdain.

Although it is unknown whether Natwest is the bank involved in the webinar, it is fair to assume they received similar “advice” from Stonewall, and it is interesting to note from the transcript that one of the Co-Chairs for the undisclosed bank’s LGBT+ Network has “a partner who’s blocked by spousal veto” and therefore has a “personal stake in this.”

The transcript lays out certain views which will not come as a surprise to feminists or gender critical gay people. For example, Gooding (who, at the time of the meeting, was the outgoing Chair) does not have a very high opinion of the LGB Alliance. She stated:

“I find it shameful that even now one of the original, well a group of the original founders and supporters of Stonewall actually have set up what's essentially an anti-trans organisation called the LGB Alliance that was literally formed to campaign against any reform of the GRA and I think that tells you that within Stonewall I'm afraid I think there was a transphobic element.”

You’ll notice she very carefully doesn’t mention Simon Fanshawe, Kate Harris or Bev Jackson by name. She wouldn’t dare.

She also has a low opinion of Liz Truss.

“…..as long as Liz Truss is the Minister for Equalities I have absolutely no idea who she thinks she's representing because she, I've never heard her talk about race, I've not heard her do anything positive for trans people, she's being really weird on conversion therapy. I mean why is this woman, and I'm speaking very openly to you, I mean she's the most disastrous Equalities Minister so let's hope we get somebody new, but we at Stonewall now are regrouping on our strategy for the advance of everyday life of trans people and yes, that's going to be around trying to change the law…”

And, of course, it is JK Rowling’s fault Stonewall lost supporters. It has nothing to do with Stonewall becoming gender ideologues, claiming that men can be lesbians and that children with gender dysphoria should be affirmed as the opposite sex.

“I think we've got to really think about what campaigns we are going to run to win hearts and minds again, and get away from this ridiculous toxic tennis between JK Rowling and the rest of the world which is not helping anybody. It's superficial nonsense and no-one understands it and so we've got to regain that middle ground. We've lost people that we should never have lost because of the nature of the discourse.”

(Our insider said “Reading a transcript doesn't convey the spitting rage that came across in her voice. She is really angry about JKR.”)

Here, Gooding, either intentionally or unintentionally, completely misunderstands the very real concerns women have, and the arguments we make:

“I want to get the conversation around the everyday lives of transpeople and an understanding that they're no threat. They're not men dressed up as women, or women dressed up as men, they're not serial killers, they are not paedophiles, they are not predatory.”

The argument is not that people with gender dysphoria are statistically more predatory than those who do not experience the condition, but that they follow general societal patterns. However, increasingly people are seeing that expanding the definition of “woman” to include some males, has negative implications for the women occupying the current definition, due to the biological differences between males and females, the implications of which are prevalent in crime, safety, sports, equality, medicine, reproduction, and reality. Incidentally, studies have shown that males who identify as trans are no less likely to have male-pattern violence.

Why can’t women just be nice?

As part of a personal anecdote, Gooding appears to have a remarkable lack of empathy with a woman who confided in her when her husband declared he was gay…

“I remember there was a woman whose husband came out as gay and she was devastated and she wanted to talk to me about it because I had come out to a husband. It was quite odd because her homophobia was extraordinary. I mean I sat listening for an hour to this woman, I'm really glad I did the call, but there were moments on it when I thought "do you have any idea how offensive what you've just said is to me?" She described her shame and humiliation and what were the neighbours going to say and the children's lives were going to be destroyed.”

How inconsiderate of women not to celebrate and cheerlead their husbands “coming out” after realising their entire married life has been a lie, eh Jan?

Businesses influence government

The importance of having large corporations on side is well understood:

“Number 10 listen to business more than they listen to Stonewall.

It's going to be another decade and this bank and other corporates are absolutely critical allies. The power of your brand, the power of your reach, the power of your branches, the power of the customer experience that you choose to give. That beats anything that Stonewall can do.”

These corporations need to know that their customers will not put up with women’s rights being taken away under the guise of inclusiveness; that they will not put up with children being experimented on, and that they will not put up with their thoughts being policed and their speech compelled.

Infiltrating Schools

Stonewall have their eye on schools. but they plan to work around parents. If you’re familiar with the organisation’s “an Introduction to Supporting LGBT Children and Young People” guide, aimed at educators, it’s clear to see they have no qualms with completely disregarding the latest Department of Education guidelines. (See here some examples of how they breach this).

Here’s what Gooding had to say about primary schools:

“We really want to advance the sense of dignity and lived experience for trans people and that isn't just about changing the law, it's about health provision, education in schools which remains an absolutely core part of what Stonewall do, it's our roots, that was why we were formed and at the moment we are for the first time helping primary schools educate children about different kinds of families which is how we talk about it.

“In primary schools we’ve just started to do it now, so again it’s education packs and materials to get them into the hands of teachers and staff so they feel able with their governing bodies to formulate the relevant policies…”

“A couple of years ago we were given a grant by the government to do work in 250 Faith schools which was incredibly important….we can make the mistake of thinking of, you know, faith schools, absolutely hopeless. They vary enormously. So we’re not so much targeting parents, we’re really trying to influence school governors, the headteachers and staff themselves, who want to champion it…..that’s who we really want to educate and make them feel empowered so they’re not fearful of, you know, gender neutral toilets or whatever it is.”

“The primary school stuff is controversial because it's new and it's just started this year and we even have the joy of the LGB Alliance for heaven's sake even campaigning against us doing that. It's extraordinary. Section 28 was all about "you mustn't tell children that gay people exist". I mean what a ridiculous idea that you can't tell primary school children that their best friend at school might have same-sex parents or a trans parent. You know. It's absurd. It's that old stuff of like "it's catching". If you even tell people about it they'll catch it. (inaudible) ... thirty years. It's extraordinary.”

In the paragraph above, Gooding is using the Motte and Bailey fallacy. The easily defendable “motte” is an increased awareness of minority groups, aiding inclusiveness, and the controversial “bailey” is children being told there is such a thing as innate gender identity, and that this matters more than sex. The result of which is that children forgo what their eyes and ears tell them about somebody and ignore their instincts because people are always who they say they are. See “Brenda is a Sheep”- a book provided to young school children in Scotland - as an example.

Gooding also uses a common tactic utilised by trans’ rights activists; insinuating that trans activism is comparable with the gay civil rights movement. As we know, gay people and their allies fought for equal rights, such as parity in the age of consent, civil partnerships, and for same-sex marriage. Trans rights activism, however, involves advocating for the removal of rights from women and girls, by enabling men to be validated and treated as women in every aspect of life, just on their word. The two, therefore, are not comparable.

Call to action: I strongly recommend that if you have children in school, you email the Headteacher and Chair of Governors to request information about which organisations train their staff and provide resources, with regards to Relationship, Sex and Health Education, and to object to them using organisations such as Stonewall, which are not abiding by Department for Education guidelines.

I have prepared drafts to send to my child’s primary school. They can be found here.

As many prominent feminist campaigners and free speech advocates have communicated, Stonewall poses a risk to both freedom of expression and women’s rights. Excluding this organisation from public institutions is arguably key to pushing back against gender ideology and ultimately the erasure of women’s rights and the medicalisation of children and young people. Let’s do our bit to stop them.

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persistentwoman · 20/01/2021 13:37

That transcript Shock
Someone who wants Stonewall in all schools yet makes no mention of children and their needs. She just talks about how Stonewall can use the adults working with them to implement the changes (gender neutral toilets ffs) that Stonewall want to see.
She talks about how important schools are but her language frames them as revenue generating and ideological vessels for Stonewall to use.
It's yet another graphic example of how these organisations see children as mere collateral in their ideological pursuits. Quite chilling to think that those values are welcomed into schools. Sad

Toseland · 20/01/2021 13:36

I cannot understand how Stonewall can be allowed to sneak these changes in which will affect 75% of the population (51% women + 24% children) without even a proper discussion or most people knowing about it. Absolutely disgusting.

GivesNoFox · 20/01/2021 13:08

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Kit19 · 20/01/2021 09:26

…..as long as Liz Truss is the Minister for Equalities I have absolutely no idea who she thinks she's representing because she, I've never heard her talk about race, I've not heard her do anything positive for trans people, she's being really weird on conversion therapy. I mean why is this woman, and I'm speaking very openly to you, I mean she's the most disastrous Equalities Minister so let's hope we get somebody new, but we at Stonewall now are regrouping on our strategy for the advance of everyday life of trans people and yes, that's going to be around trying to change the law…”

Charities are meant to be apolitical. Yes you can campaign to change the law and yes you can criticise Government policy but to openly criticise an individual minister in these terms is extremely unprofessional.

Ive done a lot of training for charities and have been very critical of Government policy but the most I would say about an individual minister would be something like "they dont have a grasp of the range of issues". To openly call a minister "disasterous" when you are there representing a charity is gobsmacking

OvaHere · 20/01/2021 09:19

Yes I recommend people go read the transcript. It's a longer discussion than the bits just highlighted here. Not all of it relevant but it adds context.

highame · 20/01/2021 09:16

Thanks for that Clymene

Clymene · 20/01/2021 09:00

@highame

The most interesting thing for me is that someone leaked this transcript. Friends in high places?
It was a webinar for staff so available to anyone in the bank. Incidentally, if you read the transcript which is linked to on Graham's blog, it's very easy to work out which bank it is
HecatesCats · 20/01/2021 08:54

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It’s such a puzzle Hecates isn’t it how lesbians became so marginalised at Stonewall when the chair won’t even use the term despite being in a same sex relationship
Jan knows which side her bread is buttered. She identifies with the people with more power.

It is interesting how scathing she is about Liz Truss, Truss does confound them doesn't she! She can't be captured. Crispin Blunt was similarly enraged with her when she rejected self-id. Imagine being a woman and not doing what you're told!

I wondered that too Highame.

highame · 20/01/2021 08:29

The most interesting thing for me is that someone leaked this transcript. Friends in high places?

Biscuitsanddoombar · 20/01/2021 08:19

It’s such a puzzle Hecates isn’t it how lesbians became so marginalised at Stonewall when the chair won’t even use the term despite being in a same sex relationship

HecatesCats · 20/01/2021 08:17

Jan does not call herself a lesbian, she prefers gay because it aligns her more closely with gay men. I don't entirely follow her logic here. From the article:

You prefer to identify with the label of Gay rather than Lesbian. Why is that?

That’s right – I identify as gay as for me it means I am more overtly aligned with gay men. We are working towards many of the same goals and law reforms, so it makes sense to me. In my first interview after coming out, with The Telegraph, I described myself as a gay woman, and some lesbians wrote to me to criticise me for not describing myself as a lesbian. I was taken aback by the strength of feeling. I understand it better now. However, whilst I know that language matters, I don’t believe describing myself as gay causes any misunderstanding. Obviously there are more glass ceilings for a gay woman compared to a gay man, but gay men are important allies and I am not trying to distance myself from them.

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Nothappytohelp · 20/01/2021 07:56

”So we’re not so much targeting parents, we’re really trying to influence school governors, the headteachers and staff themselves, who want to champion it…..that’s who we really want to educate and make them feel empowered so they’re not fearful of, you know, gender neutral toilets or whatever it is.”

Of course they're going to target headteachers and staff rather than the parents, go for those who can't speak up without risking their jobs. It's not about 'empowering' them at all, quite the opposite. 'Empower' the headteachers and staff sufficiently and they will rebuff the parental concerns anyway, so there really is no need for Stonewall to do it directly. I'm lucky to be teaching in a school with a very sensible head who wouldn't bring Stonewall in, but if I weren't in such a fortunate position I'd be terrified of challenging for fear of damaging my career. My heart sinks as I read their intention to educate us. I'm very well educated about the issues from a range of perspectives including safeguarding which they seem determined to gloss over.

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YouSetTheTone · 20/01/2021 07:44

Thanks for publishing this. I think someone asked this on another thread but - does anyone know who one can email to complain/ raise the alarm re banking? Minister for Business?

Also who best to demonstrate to at NatWest that they will lose a customer (me) purely on the basis of listening to Stonewall on a corporate basis? If I’m going to close my account etc I want to make sure people sufficiently influential to care would know why.

Hannahstandsforwomen · 20/01/2021 07:00

@littlbrowndog

And parents are th3 heart of a school

Without parents there would be no school

Why try to disregard parents ?

I think this was a metaphor, saying the school is a village and the teachers in the staff room were the parents....
Namechangeforte · 20/01/2021 01:10

Our insider said “Reading a transcript doesn't convey the spitting rage that came across in her voice. She is really angry about JKR.”
JKR has made such a big difference.

PearPickingPorky · 20/01/2021 00:18

" It's going to be another decade and this bank and other corporates are absolutely critical allies. The power of your brand, the power of your reach, the power of your branches, the power of the customer experience that you choose to give. That beats anything that Stonewall can do.”

Why is that, Stonewall? What is a random corporate bank better than Stonewall at lobbying for equality? Have you lost your way?

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 20/01/2021 00:01

@littlbrowndog

And parents are th3 heart of a school

Without parents there would be no school

Why try to disregard parents ?

It goes everything that safeguarding stands for doesn't it, deliberately circumnavigating parents to target children.
Shedbuilder · 19/01/2021 23:56

I don't know what happened to Stonewall. It never used to be like this. I was a supporter and involved with it for years, until we got civil partnerships and equal marriage and effectively its job was done. And then Ruth Hunt and the transgender mafia took over, silently and stealthily.

My MP, who is already starting to sense that something's not right, will be getting a copy of this information. Thanks to all involved.

stumbledin · 19/01/2021 23:41

Thanks for sharing this here Glinner - it is almost impossible to keep up with the persistant network and public statements for Stonewall.

I was saying on another thread as someone who monitors news feeds for other reasons it is alarmingly obvious that every day the MSM has at least one if not more strategicallyl placed article focusing on the victimisation of trans rights. In this case how gender critical campainging have made it impossible for butch lesbians to safely use women's toilets - and someone pointed out it was written by a Stonewall employee.

So we need more Glinners.

And why do Stonewall do it? The Queer Agenda that was as much part of the backlash against women's liberation as threaten partiarchly has had the past 40 years to indoctrinate people into their way of thinking. And crudely put there are now a lot of people who really do believe it is only right wing reactionaries and sad old women's libbers who reject the idea that you can change sex.

Not forgetting of course that if you are part of an organisation that is seen to be part of the current cuttting edge thought you can get a lot of funding, well paid jobs with benefits. Mission drift is a well known consequence of funding, and I have known women's groups who saw their funding stream dry up and came to a deal with funders to totally restructure ie take on different aims, and so continued to get funding.

Meanwhile there are not enough bed spaces for women fleeing domestic violence, or counselling for survivors of sexual violence.

ArabellaScott · 19/01/2021 23:02

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Exactly what struck me. This organisation is supposed to be there to support and help people?

RozWatching · 19/01/2021 22:35

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Yep. This is not a human rights campaign, they are zealots who want to impose gender identity ideology on everyone whatever the cost.

I'm feeling (very) mild sympathy for Ruth Hunt. She had plans for a separate trans org within Stonewall but it was clearly a non-starter under Gooding and the rest of the board.

KittyValentine · 19/01/2021 22:17

Thank you for sharing. Stonewall are utter bastards!!

persistentwoman · 19/01/2021 22:13

Parents should ask schools targeted by Stonewall (primary and secondary) whether they are devoting the same time, resources and £££ to the other key protected characteristics, especially disability, race, religion or belief and sex? What school level data do they have to confirm that it is "LGBTQ children" rather than other groups who are are struggling with their attainment, inclusion, being bullied etc? Ask what is their evidence that justifies signing up to Stonewall's expensive and time consuming programmes?
Ask for specific examples of what the school is doing to address disableism, disparities in attainment, inclusion & bullying of children with SEN, sexual harassment and different racial groups etc.

Make them think about and provide evidence about what the children's needs are and whether the school funding the Stonewall gravy train is what will address issues of underachievement, inclusion, emotional wellbeing, bullying of children in their school.