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Postnatal ward with male partners

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Badhairtoday · 16/01/2021 13:56

Hi everyone,
I don’t want to debate whether other women should be allowed partners staying overnight on postnatal wards but this really gave me anxiety in my last birth (I won’t go into details of what happened but was too ‘out of it’ to say anything at the time)

I want to know what my options are this time. I will be speaking to someone from the hospital to discuss but wanted to know if I have any rights at all to challenge this, legally even.
I’m usually high risk so have to give birth on labour ward so inevitably will end up on postnatal ward for a number of days. I know they aren’t going to kick out the men for me but wondering If I have the right to ask to be on a female only bay? Side rooms are only for those with a clinical need.

Another hospital would be ideal but it’s too far away and I don’t see why I need to inconvenience myself because the hospital aren’t taking my feelings into account.

Would be great if someone can help. Have contacted various birth rights type organisations but haven’t had any response.

Thank you

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Badhairtoday · 16/01/2021 14:03

Unfortunately my babies are always tiny and need further monitoring otherwise I’d consider homebirth even though I’d feel much more confident at the hospital with immediate medical help

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Badhairtoday · 16/01/2021 14:01

Hey sorry you’re going through this worry too. I posted on the normal part of Mumsnet and instead of people answering my actual question or attempting to help in anyway I got a tonne of women telling me all the reasons why they were grateful they were allowed to have their partners stay over and why I should be ok with a curtain for privacy etc. It was shocking and upsetting.

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Sexnotgender · 16/01/2021 13:58

Interested to know the answer to this. I’m 28 weeks pregnant and don’t want to share a ward with unknown males.

I discharged myself 6 hours after my last birth so stayed on the labour ward and will hopefully do the same again but want to know my rights if I need to go to postnatal.