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From now on, I was in an LGBTQ+ family’: my husband came out as trans while I was on maternity leave

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Defaultname · 02/01/2021 15:27

www.theguardian.com/society/2021/jan/02/from-now-on-i-was-in-an-lgbtq-family-my-husband-came-out-as-trans-while-i-was-on-maternity-leave

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Floisme · 02/01/2021 15:50

I think I had better keep to myself my opinion of someone who would come out as trans when their wife has just done something that only a female can do.

HDDD · 02/01/2021 15:47

Heartbreaking read

SquishySquirmy · 02/01/2021 15:44

Poor woman, she's been through a hell of a lot.
And then when she was at the most vulnerable point of her life, that revelation! What timing.

She seems to have rationalized a way in which they can be happy. I hope that they stay happy, and that her ex continues to be so "consistent" and helpful if, for example, she starts seeing someone else. Or if the ex is no longer satisfied by the transition and acceptance, and needs a new panacea.

Thelnebriati · 02/01/2021 15:42

As a trans widow I found it common for AGP partners to lose interest after you give birth (or even during late stages of pregnancy), because you no longer fulfil the fantasy.

Its distressing to realise that up until that point you were the focus of their attention as part of their paraphilia, not because they loved you.

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 02/01/2021 15:41

THIS WOMAN IS A HERETIC. She divorced her partner just for transitioning. How dare she? Naturally, she conceals her crime by pretending the issue was trust but we know the truth. Burn her.

NiceGerbil · 02/01/2021 15:41

Xposts!

NiceGerbil · 02/01/2021 15:36

God that's long and meandering.

I got bored sorry couldn't get through it even skimming!

Defaultname · 02/01/2021 15:36

There's about a week's worth of reading there, but while the last paragraph stands (I think it's got a typo) it's worth quoting.

"I can never change what happened to my marriage. I can never change the anti-trans sentiment that some cling to. I used to think it was “not my place to get involved”, but now I know what hearing an ally say they believe you, believe in you, can mean. I feel a responsibility to admit how limited my assumptions used to be, and to be open and honest about what our life now is. By accepting my body for what it is, and all women’s bodies for what they are. I am average, we are average. Perhaps together we can shift the mean."

If she's really talking about changing the meaning of 'woman', and I think that's a reasonable supposition, it's cute that someone's made the slip of stressing that it's Mean People, who are the problem.

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