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Would you ok your son wearing a dress?

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KristinaJup · 12/12/2020 18:46

Candace Owens recently tweeted (in response to Harry Styles wearing a dress on a magazine cover) "Bring Back Manly Men".. amongst other things.

Who really cares if a guy wears tutus and glittery dresses? Prince was hot af in his heels and Makeup.

Imo I would have no problem with it at all if my son wanted to put on a skirt but the tweet gained a lot of traction and I saw quite a few memes and lots of fingers pointed at feminism for "ruining men"

If we carry on this way the next thing will be....women should not be wearing trousers! What do you think?

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SimonJT · 12/12/2020 19:14

He can wear what he likes as long as it doesn’t need ironing.

Annoy · 12/12/2020 19:13

No. It’s never been a social norm so it will draw attention to my ds and i know he’d hate that. It’d be similar my dd deciding to wear something out of the ordinary like a onesie/pjs outside, or a dress from the 1800s aristocracy. It’s not socially acceptable therefore it would draw attention to her.

It has nothing to do with it being a dress.

missmouse101 · 12/12/2020 19:11

No I would not want it or ok it, as he'd look like a dick and I do not want him to be the centre of attention and ridiculed.

Walkingtheplank · 12/12/2020 19:10

No problem with it. I had a boyfriend who would occasionally wear a skirt and my son when he was younger would wear his sister's dresses - and looked beautiful.
I'd point out that this skirt/dress wearing didnt make them trans.

Now if my big bloke of a husband suddenly put a dress on, I'd think he was having a breakdown.

haba · 12/12/2020 19:07

DS can wear whatever he wants...but he thinks dresses are too draughty so wouldn't want to wear them. He's a longsleeves/long trousers even in August kind of person.

RayOfSunshine2013 · 12/12/2020 19:06

We’ve got to draw the line somewhere though, haven't we?

As grown adults yeah, crack on and let them do their thing but boys - as children - wearing dresses its just not right, and imo parents accepting this as normal behaviour or even encouraging it are toxic and its more child abuse, setting them up for a life of bullying.

QueefBee · 12/12/2020 19:05

I wouldn't like it. The world is harsh and cruel and it's easier to be a straight man who conforms to societal dress codes.
Harry Styles looks odd. Anything to stay relevant and gender fluid is all the rage, so..

yourhairiswinterfire · 12/12/2020 18:59

I'd have no problem with it at all. I think everyone should be free to wear whatever the hell they like.

I think it's great and actually refreshing that Harry Styles wears dresses just because he likes them and wants to wear them. Nothing at all wrong it.

It's the people that go on the attack that are the problem. They're the ones that lead kids/teens to think they need to conform to one set of stereotypes, and if they don't there must be something wrong with them.

BexR · 12/12/2020 18:59

I have men in my family with that kind of expectation of my son. I remember my brother being critical when my 3yo son was holding my hand at the park. It's a toxic opinion.

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KristinaJup · 12/12/2020 18:57

Same. I don't even know what a manly man is but judging from the memes: physical aggression, suits, going to war, not being "sensitive".

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BexR · 12/12/2020 18:53

My son can wear whatever he wants.

I never want him to think he needs to be a "manly man". I just want him to be him. Makes me sad to think of such a ridiculous pressure on people.