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Nowhere is safe from preferred pronouns

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RoxyGrey · 03/12/2020 17:13

I've seen it all now, just logged into a zoom meeting of fairly senior colleagues to see one had as their zoom name [name] (she/her). It was all I could do to hide my eye-roll.

I mean, why on earth did they feel it necessary to put their pronouns there?? Notably, no one else had theirs in their zoom name, even though some do have it in their email signature. It's not like there was any ambiguity in their appearance either, they were visibly feminine presenting so it's unlikely anyone would be confused.

So is this the next step in compelled speech? Anyone been asked/told to do this yet?

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GrumpyMiddleAgedWoman · 03/12/2020 17:56

Mine are fuck/off if anyone wants to know...

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RoxyGrey · 03/12/2020 17:55

@nauticant

I mean, why on earth did they feel it necessary to put their pronouns there??

Do you think they're telling you their pronouns? Or do you think they're telling you something else?

I'm not sure what you're getting at? I just don't see why announcing/displaying your pronouns is of any relevance. If she'd been called on to speak in the meeting, she would have been referred to by name not by 'her over there'. Or if being referenced it would be 'I think Helen makes a good point' not 'I think she makes a good point'. So it wouldn't matter if she was non-binary and went by they, or if she was of androgynous/ambiguous appearance. It just seems wokery for wokery's sake.
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Kaliorphic · 03/12/2020 17:54

Do you think they're telling you their pronouns? Or do you think they're telling you something else?

What they are actually saying is that they're special. And they need everyone to know. And the ones who willingly do it show them that they are amongst their special friends and allies. And the ones that ignore it and don't do it, they will be able to identify as nasty old bigoted terfs. Once the people they hate have been flushed out by refusing to declare their pronouns, they can start a campaign gathering their allies from across the world (with all the super special rainbow butterfly people that just want to pee, and don't want to be unkind) to get the nasty bigoted terf types sacked from their jobs, with maybe a public shaming at the gallows too, as part of their hate campaign against them.

Rainbowshine · 03/12/2020 17:41

I had to professionally explain to a delegate on an internal training session I was running for a global audience that no, I would not insist on asking everyone to state their pronouns at the start of the session as that would be intrusive and could be seen to be bullying someone. Waiting for the grievance about me to come in..,

JoodyBlue · 03/12/2020 17:35

I won't do it. My response will be "I don't want to" if questioned. If questioned further "its personal but I will discuss it out of work if you like". It is a hill I am prepared to climb and roll down many times.

nauticant · 03/12/2020 17:27

I mean, why on earth did they feel it necessary to put their pronouns there??

Do you think they're telling you their pronouns? Or do you think they're telling you something else?

ArabellaScott · 03/12/2020 17:24

I did a zoom with a load of academics the other day. Pronouns were proudly displayed. I really think it's just a passing gimmick that will be quietly dropped as all the gender nonsense gets put to bed, I don't pay it too much mind.

custardbear · 03/12/2020 17:23

It's creeping in within my workplace, but I won't be engaging, I'd assume if people don't share that info where necessary the shouldn't be pissed off if someone gets it wrong

OhHolyJesus · 03/12/2020 17:20

I've seen it on a union webinar but not be asked...yet, and I'm not doing it either.

Doyoumind · 03/12/2020 17:19

I saw something on twitter the other day saying the term preferred pronouns is transphobic. It's personal pronouns. No preferred about it. There are a hell of a lot of transphobes declaring their preferred pronouns.

TheCuriousMonkey · 03/12/2020 17:19

Not yet but it's increasingly prevalent in my workplace.

Kaliorphic · 03/12/2020 17:17

No. But I won't do it if asked either.

MrsWooster · 03/12/2020 17:14

No, and I won’t if I’m asked.

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