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La Leche League will support males (of the male sex) who wish to breastfeed.

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ExLLLeader · 27/11/2020 12:24

I picked this up on a recent Facebook post and could not quite believe it so made the following complaint/query and it is true. I was a La Leche League Leader for many years and am very upset to see how the organisation has lost its focus on the Mother and baby.

Complaint To The Board of Directors/Trustees

Dear Board members,

I was alarmed to see a post yesterday on the LLLGB Facebook page. The post in celebrating Transgender awareness week. The post links to the this page which states

LLLGB supports everyone who wants to breastfeed or chestfeed in reaching their goals. We do not discriminate based on sex, gender or gender identity.

And
Trans men, trans women and non-binary individuals may choose to breastfeed or chestfeed their babies.

And
Trans women can use a protocol similar to adoptive and other non-gestational mothers and stimulate their milk supply: it is called the Newman-Goldfarb protocol.

I have two issues I wish to complain about and they relate to the idea that males/Transwomen can breastfeed.

LLLGB should not be promoting the idea that males can induce lactation to feed a baby. There is no evidence to say this is safe, only an anecdotal example of a case where a doctor in the US enabled this to happen using off label drugs. The focus of the paper is mainly on the desires of the male bodied person and there is little interest in the impact on the baby and indeed the mother. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5779241/ . I would hope you have also considered the fetishisation of breastfeeding which does not only apply to men watching women, males lactating is also a paraphilia.

Why would LLLGB of all organisations choose not to discriminate on the basis of sex as it is perfectly entitled to under the equalities act? By saying these two statements there is nothing to stop a male wishing to come to women only meetings. Even I presume, before the baby is born. Im not sure if you would require that the male considered themselves to be a woman by performing gender stereotypes or not. (The male in the study had no surgery so still had a functioning penis.) Does this entitle a male who has breastfed to apply for Leadership?

Yours Sincerely
(ExLLLeader)

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Dear (ExLLLeader)
Thank you for taking the time to contact us with your concerns.
Your first concern is that there may be safety concerns relating to inducing lactation via drugs. The protocol used by Trans men is very similar to that used by women wishing to induce lactation. This treatment has an established treatment history. As lay breastfeeding counsellors, LLL Leaders role is to provide up to date and accurate information which individuals can use to inform their discussion with their healthcare provider.
Our groups have discretion to consider the needs of their communities when they decide who can attend. Some will by default be women only, however our support is and must always be open to anyone who needs support and information to breastfeed (which some individuals call chestfeeding). This would mean that a group would need to find a way to balance the needs of members who needed a single sex space, with the needs of an individual who needed chestfeeding support.
Eligibility for La Leche League Leadership is set by LLL International and can be found here: www.llli.org/get-involved/prerequisites/
As an organisation with a robust safeguarding culture, if we had concerns about an individual's motivation for seeking breastfeeding support we would take appropriate action to protect families and babies.
Best wishes (LLL Trustee)
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Dear (LLL Trustee)
Thank you for your reply, I have copied my complaint below as I was raising concerns about the male sex – i.e. Transwomen and breastfeeding and you have answered as if my concern is about female sexed i.e. trans men.

Best wishes (ExLLLeader)
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Dear (ExLLLeader)
My apologies - I used the wrong word there. I should have said the protocol used by transwomen wishing to induce lactation is very similar to that used by women. The rest of my reply is intended to answer your points as raised.
(LLL Trustee)
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Dear (LLL Trustee)
I am surprised to hear this. Would you therefor support a ‘Cis” man to breastfeed and provide the nutrients for a newborn baby?
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OP posts:
Nettleskeins · 27/11/2020 16:31

I can understand supporting a trans man who has given birth to chest feed. However I wish someone would just quietly point out, they are in fact still biologically women. However if someone is in a very ideologically confused state, it isn't going to help to insist they admit this, rather than just encourage them to feel good about chestfeeding, nurture baby, form strong bond. 'My Pregnant Husband"made me see why support to transmen from places like LL might be important , despite saccharine nonsense of it all. The mum was to all intents a breastfeeding mum, even if she thought she was a man. Why should baby miss out.

But transwomen breastfeeding I think is absolutely insane, like someone having fake periods or suchlike...formula is there to nurture why fetishi ize feeding process? Just, no.

UppityPuppity · 27/11/2020 16:27

Trans women's breasts are anatomically pretty much identical to other women's breasts and have pretty much the same hormone levels.

Now we all know that just ain't true.

Believe it if you like - just don't go anywhere near a hungry infant...or a breastmilk bank.

Winesalot · 27/11/2020 16:27

And how on earth is it a derail to discuss whether trans women can safely breast feed on a thread about trans women breastfeeding.

It becomes a derail based on the whataboutery nature of your posts. And the seemingly lack of experience and knowledge about the subject.

And this thread ALSO discusses any MALE inclusion in a breastfeeding support group where women wish to only have other women. Particularly during covid when They are posting pictures of there nipples and breasts.

I’d like to hear from a female who has no problem exposing themselves online knowing it is not a secure group.

Whatwouldscullydo · 27/11/2020 16:23

For the same reason any other woman would. I would be interested in seeing research but I don't see any reason why it would be substantially different

Presumably they had the baby with a woman..one that will produce her own milk without medications.

Trans women's breasts are anatomically pretty much identical to other women's breasts and have pretty much the same hormone levels

Only if you view them as something for others to gawp at or fill a bikini top. Not if you see them as a part of the body with an actual function

Winesalot · 27/11/2020 16:23

For the same reason any other woman would. I would be interested in seeing research but I don't see any reason why it would be substantially different. Trans women's breasts are anatomically pretty much identical to other women's breasts and have pretty much the same hormone levels.

Again, a mother’s body regulates the hormones that are inadvertently supplied to the infant, from conception through to breast feeding. If you don’t know this, why make such a comment.

And in a deleted recent thread, I saw a paper that was shoddily evidenced study on one male who was induced to lactate. They still had high testosterone levels as well as the other drugs. Maybe the person who posted that link will do so again.

Testosterone at a male level? To a baby girl? Mmmmm! Obviously you are under the impression all transwomen have little or no testosterone. Have you not read any posts on these boards since you have been posting?

HecatesCats · 27/11/2020 16:22

Bearing in mind that key to the mission of LLL is the 'healthy development of baby and mother', how does transwomen breastfeeding fit in? Why would a transwoman want to breastfeed jj?

SophocIestheFox · 27/11/2020 16:17

@Winesalot

And maybe this derail is a good example of what happens on bf’ing threads supporting women in need of bf’ing help......
Isn’t it just.

Here are two pictures. They’re very informative.

jj1968 · 27/11/2020 16:13

@Winesalot

And maybe this derail is a good example of what happens on bf’ing threads supporting women in need of bf’ing help......
This isn't a support thread, its a thread complaining that an organisation supports trans women. Like 90% of the other threads on here. And how on earth is it a derail to discuss whether trans women can safely breast feed on a thread about trans women breastfeeding.
StillAFeminist · 27/11/2020 16:12

@Winesalot

And maybe this derail is a good example of what happens on bf’ing threads supporting women in need of bf’ing help......
Isn’t it just, and zero concern for the welfare of the breast feeding baby mentioned by the derailer Hmm
jj1968 · 27/11/2020 16:11

@HecatesCats

jj are you seriously comparing the breastmilk produced by a lactating mother and milk that could be produced by chemically inducing lactation in a transwoman? Why would a transwoman want or need to breastfeed a baby?
For the same reason any other woman would. I would be interested in seeing research but I don't see any reason why it would be substantially different. Trans women's breasts are anatomically pretty much identical to other women's breasts and have pretty much the same hormone levels.
notyourhandmaid · 27/11/2020 16:10

You're right, @Winesalot.

It is really depressing that a breastfeeding charity isn't prioritising breastfeeding. There's so much guilt and shame around women who have a difficult time of it, and so much policing and judgement. It is a particular female experience and it is not up for grabs.

Winesalot · 27/11/2020 16:05

And maybe this derail is a good example of what happens on bf’ing threads supporting women in need of bf’ing help......

HecatesCats · 27/11/2020 16:00

Well, quite Scully

Whatwouldscullydo · 27/11/2020 15:59

Maybe jj has seen a study they can link us to where the nutritional value has been compared particularly in the first few weeks

A study which would also include the affects on the mother emotionally at sharing the experience that way.

Its got to be completely different to sharing bottle feeds with a partner.

notyourhandmaid · 27/11/2020 15:58

jj, pregnant women are constantly policed over what they put into their bodies. The fact that you don't know this despite endless time spent on this board suggests that you are not terribly interested in women's actual experiences and are here just to lecture, troll and gaslight.

TreestumpsAndTrampolines · 27/11/2020 15:57

And does this apply to any women on medication, or just trans women?

You do know that boots wouldn't even sell me olbas oil (that stuff you put on a hanky to clear your nose) when I was breastfeeding? Women who are breastfeeding are already hugely policed.

Winesalot · 27/11/2020 15:53

Why would a transwoman want or need to breastfeed a baby?

Maybe jj has seen a study they can link us to where the nutritional value has been compared particularly in the first few weeks. You know, when the mother’s hormones (yes that the infant has been exposed to inutero) changes the composition of the milk being delivered to the infant.

I’d like to see this data and I am sure many would. Have you seen any of that data jj?

HecatesCats · 27/11/2020 15:47

jj are you seriously comparing the breastmilk produced by a lactating mother and milk that could be produced by chemically inducing lactation in a transwoman? Why would a transwoman want or need to breastfeed a baby?

Winesalot · 27/11/2020 15:46

And does this apply to any women on medication, or just trans women?

And you know that breastfeeding women are usually incredibly careful of what medications they are taking while breastfeeding, right?

And you know that the birth mothers hormones are already exposed to the baby they have just given birth to, right?

jj1968 · 27/11/2020 15:40

@Joisanofthedales

I'm sorry but the word disgusting comes to mind. The idea of promoting babies drinking a hormone and chemical infused breast milk makes me feel sick.
You do know that all breast milk contains hormones right?

And does this apply to any women on medication, or just trans women?

jj1968 · 27/11/2020 15:35

Well obviously this is going to need to be made open to all males, the most obvious group here being fathers. All fathers should be made aware that they can breast feed, and have drugs and support to do so.

They'd probably need to take hormones for 2/3 years first to develop the necessary tissue which would very likely make them infertile and impotent so its not likely to be very popular.

ThatIsNotMyUsername · 27/11/2020 15:15

So they would approve of breastfeeding mums taking drugs then?

bigbadbedknobs · 27/11/2020 15:05

Just to say that adoptive mothers can induce lactation, without any hormones, they might not bring in a full supply, but they can often produce some; this can include mothers who have never given birth as well as those who have given birth and have breastfed before., women can relactate after not initiating breastfeeding at birth. So grandmothers can already bring in a milk supply, but it takes time and is quite a task to do so and maintain it. Women's bodies are amazing

Datun · 27/11/2020 14:36

If this is going to be opened to any males then obviously it will be open to all males for equality reasons.

Absolutely. And I hope they know that.

And that their raison d'etre could quite easily go straight down the swanny.

MichelleofzeResistance · 27/11/2020 14:32

Justice:

I'd add as another dangerous scenario 3) Male ex partners who would see a useful way to gain contact, compete for child residency and to gain further control over their child's mother. About five minutes on the relationships board would evidence plenty of men who would have no trouble seeing the opportunities here.

If this is going to be opened to any males then obviously it will be open to all males for equality reasons.

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