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La Leche League will support males (of the male sex) who wish to breastfeed.

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ExLLLeader · 27/11/2020 12:24

I picked this up on a recent Facebook post and could not quite believe it so made the following complaint/query and it is true. I was a La Leche League Leader for many years and am very upset to see how the organisation has lost its focus on the Mother and baby.

Complaint To The Board of Directors/Trustees

Dear Board members,

I was alarmed to see a post yesterday on the LLLGB Facebook page. The post in celebrating Transgender awareness week. The post links to the this page which states

LLLGB supports everyone who wants to breastfeed or chestfeed in reaching their goals. We do not discriminate based on sex, gender or gender identity.

And
Trans men, trans women and non-binary individuals may choose to breastfeed or chestfeed their babies.

And
Trans women can use a protocol similar to adoptive and other non-gestational mothers and stimulate their milk supply: it is called the Newman-Goldfarb protocol.

I have two issues I wish to complain about and they relate to the idea that males/Transwomen can breastfeed.

LLLGB should not be promoting the idea that males can induce lactation to feed a baby. There is no evidence to say this is safe, only an anecdotal example of a case where a doctor in the US enabled this to happen using off label drugs. The focus of the paper is mainly on the desires of the male bodied person and there is little interest in the impact on the baby and indeed the mother. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5779241/ . I would hope you have also considered the fetishisation of breastfeeding which does not only apply to men watching women, males lactating is also a paraphilia.

Why would LLLGB of all organisations choose not to discriminate on the basis of sex as it is perfectly entitled to under the equalities act? By saying these two statements there is nothing to stop a male wishing to come to women only meetings. Even I presume, before the baby is born. Im not sure if you would require that the male considered themselves to be a woman by performing gender stereotypes or not. (The male in the study had no surgery so still had a functioning penis.) Does this entitle a male who has breastfed to apply for Leadership?

Yours Sincerely
(ExLLLeader)

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Dear (ExLLLeader)
Thank you for taking the time to contact us with your concerns.
Your first concern is that there may be safety concerns relating to inducing lactation via drugs. The protocol used by Trans men is very similar to that used by women wishing to induce lactation. This treatment has an established treatment history. As lay breastfeeding counsellors, LLL Leaders role is to provide up to date and accurate information which individuals can use to inform their discussion with their healthcare provider.
Our groups have discretion to consider the needs of their communities when they decide who can attend. Some will by default be women only, however our support is and must always be open to anyone who needs support and information to breastfeed (which some individuals call chestfeeding). This would mean that a group would need to find a way to balance the needs of members who needed a single sex space, with the needs of an individual who needed chestfeeding support.
Eligibility for La Leche League Leadership is set by LLL International and can be found here: www.llli.org/get-involved/prerequisites/
As an organisation with a robust safeguarding culture, if we had concerns about an individual's motivation for seeking breastfeeding support we would take appropriate action to protect families and babies.
Best wishes (LLL Trustee)
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Dear (LLL Trustee)
Thank you for your reply, I have copied my complaint below as I was raising concerns about the male sex – i.e. Transwomen and breastfeeding and you have answered as if my concern is about female sexed i.e. trans men.

Best wishes (ExLLLeader)
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Dear (ExLLLeader)
My apologies - I used the wrong word there. I should have said the protocol used by transwomen wishing to induce lactation is very similar to that used by women. The rest of my reply is intended to answer your points as raised.
(LLL Trustee)
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Dear (LLL Trustee)
I am surprised to hear this. Would you therefor support a ‘Cis” man to breastfeed and provide the nutrients for a newborn baby?
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OP posts:
DrDavidBanner · 27/11/2020 17:26

Supporting transmen makes absolute sense and I imagine they have plenty of additional needs that women don't experience that need addressing. From the responses that LLL have given to OP it doesn't look like they've thought too deeply about that which is a worry.

SophocIestheFox · 27/11/2020 17:25

I hope this thread survives, another couple on this topic have gone phhhhht due to straying into Unapproved Wrongthink on Disallowed Subjects.

VulvaPerson · 27/11/2020 17:25

@bigbadbedknobs

Just to say that adoptive mothers can induce lactation, without any hormones, they might not bring in a full supply, but they can often produce some; this can include mothers who have never given birth as well as those who have given birth and have breastfed before., women can relactate after not initiating breastfeeding at birth. So grandmothers can already bring in a milk supply, but it takes time and is quite a task to do so and maintain it. Women's bodies are amazing
women can relactate after not initiating breastfeeding at birth.

Yeah I went down this path. Unfortunately I was unable to produce anymore than about 4oz per day, with multiple pumpings including through the night, but there was some.

I do not understand why adoptive mothers lactating, is mixed in with males trying to do it. Adoptive mothers are women. The female body is designed for this. The male body is NOT. That this needs to be said is a sorry state of affairs really, but totally usual in todays topsy turvy world of nonsense, that centres the wants of male p[people before everything, even the safety of babies it seems Hmm

DrDavidBanner · 27/11/2020 17:23

Trans women's breasts are anatomically pretty much identical to other women's breasts and have pretty much the same hormone levels.

Ant there we have it. Honestly, I don't know why we indulge this self absorbed bullshit.

VulvaPerson · 27/11/2020 17:21

Them supporting transmen makes sense. Them supporting male people trying to make themselves lactate via a load of drugs and such, is not right. I am surprised, I had support from this group when trying to breastfeed and they appeared to be all about the science and such. And all about whats best fr the baby. I cannot see that 'male breastmilk' produced by cocktails of drugs, will be safe, let alone nutritional for babies. This is shocking.

HecatesCats · 27/11/2020 17:20

This thread is like a mini demonstration of what women seeking support from LLL are going to come up against unless LLL manage to stick to their mission statement of supporting breastfeeding mothers and babies with what is best for both of them.

Agree. Organisations like LLL need to be standing firm now and having these arguments now. Otherwise it will get harder and harder to push back against the nonsense.

OhHolyJesus · 27/11/2020 17:20

Can men and transwomen who take the drugs to induce a little bit of fluid from their nipples develop mastitis?

Can they also develop thrush? If so does it give you the deep, sharp pains in milk ducts like it does in women?

Do men who 'breastfeed' get up in the night with full 'breasts' and are unable to sleep due to the pain of being full of milk? Or wake up soaked because of a leaks?

Quite aside from that has anyone in support of this, maybe even LLL themselves, have some long term, peer review, not insane, in depth and data supported medical studies that it doesn't harm or have any negative medical, emotional or developmental effects on the babies?

No?

Whatwouldscullydo · 27/11/2020 17:17

Actually, we are very keen to discuss the child’s needs here. AND the mother who has breastfeeding issues

I only breast fed my first dd fir 3 or 4 weeks. Expressed fir a couple of months after , but, from the little I remember ( shes a teen now Blush ) the big thing they suggested at the breast feeding clinic was lots of skin on skin contact. Right when you want to hide the flab under the baggiest t shirts you own , you are sharing baths akd spending ages with not top on.

Only someone who is in it for themselves when the baby has the mother right there who is missing vital time she will never get back, and who things its all about just feeding the baby , would do this.

It has to be damaging for the mother and the baby. We already know that even babies adopted at birth into the most loving and supportive families still suffer the effects of separation etc

It matters. It really does. Why would you damage your baby this way doing something so unnecessary and selfish. The baby could have 2 loving parents raising a happy healthy child via a bottle or with the mother breastfeeding, there's no need to do this ...

joystir59 · 27/11/2020 17:16

Can anyone other than a woman breast feed? How ridiculous pandering to this bullshit. What a waste of time

SophocIestheFox · 27/11/2020 17:16

Otherwise, like many other threads, this one is discussing the needs of females (including transmen) and children. In this case, infants that deserve to have their needs put before any one else’s. Hence why women seek support for breastfeeding, which can be fucking hard from my own personal experience

Absolutely this. This thread is like a mini demonstration of what women seeking support from LLL are going to come up against unless LLL manage to stick to their mission statement of supporting breastfeeding mothers and babies with what is best for both of them.

Backbee · 27/11/2020 17:15

I always thought LLL were quite elitist, so surprised they would let biological men who cannot physically breastfeed a baby in, yet berated me when I dared to ask about combi feeding because obviously only losers don't fully BF. A absolutely agree in supporting transmen (aka biological women) in BFing if needed, although there is probably additional emotional support needed that differs there; but it's ridiculous.

jennie0412 · 27/11/2020 17:14

How is it not?

ThatIsNotMyUsername · 27/11/2020 17:14

Er - no it isn’t.

jennie0412 · 27/11/2020 17:08

It implies you buy into the Idea that non trans = cis.

Er, because that's true?

Winesalot · 27/11/2020 17:04

So many people claim to be experts on trans issues and yet appear to know so little.

Actually, we are very keen to discuss the child’s needs here. AND the mother who has breastfeeding issues.

If you have some studies and statistics from the trans point of view. Please post them. You know that we will read the links.

Otherwise, like many other threads, this one is discussing the needs of females (including transmen) and children. In this case, infants that deserve to have their needs put before any one else’s. Hence why women seek support for breastfeeding, which can be fucking hard from my own personal experience. But crack on discussing your needs on this thread.

Nettleskeins · 27/11/2020 17:02

I don't feel this about transmen who breastfeed though. I think they are brave enough to see past all this shit and just think about their baby and not how other people view them, for a short time.

Winesalot · 27/11/2020 16:59

And yet you did not actually read the post did you?

This was evidenced in the single case study jj that only proved a type of lactation was possible and was completely focused on the transwoman’s ability NOT the child’s needs.

Nettleskeins · 27/11/2020 16:58

But why would you steal support from women who have given birth and are genuinely struggling to breastfeed with all the equipment provided, why would you take the care and support of la leche advisors and channel them into an attention seeking impasse, which is entirely about the ego of the transwoman,
And not about mum and baby.

Why not concentrate on being the best parent you can in other ways and by other feeding methods. It seems to me this is nothing to do with the baby parent relationship but just about attention seeking and validation.

OvaHere · 27/11/2020 16:58

"The histologic effect of high levels of estrogen utilized for transition from male to female, unlike gynecomastia, includes development of ducts, lobules and acini histologically identical to cisgender women. Pseudolactational changes have also been described [16]. Figure 2 shows an example of lobule formation and pseudolactational changes in the breast biopsy from a transgender woman. We have also observed lobular development similar to a pre-pubertal breast in the setting of estrogen treatment of transgender females"

Females with pre pubertal breast can't successfully feed infant babies either.

If as this study suggests 13 years on hormones only produce minor changes in breast composition then adult males will also not be able to sufficiently feed an infant.

notyourhandmaid · 27/11/2020 16:52

Once again we seem to come back to how pseudo-activists think the differences between male and female bodies don't really exist, it's all societal invention, but somehow always know which group of people to patronise, insult and gaslight. (Hint: it's the same group of people who are actually at risk of violence in the world.)

jj1968 · 27/11/2020 16:49

Testosterone at a male level? To a baby girl? Mmmmm! Obviously you are under the impression all transwomen have little or no testosterone. Have you not read any posts on these boards since you have been posting?

Trans women who have been on t blockers long enough or who are post surgery/orchidectomy are likely to have very low testorerone levels, usually around the same as other women and none at all in some cases.

So many people claim to be experts on trans issues and yet appear to know so little.

jj1968 · 27/11/2020 16:47

@UppityPuppity

Trans women's breasts are anatomically pretty much identical to other women's breasts and have pretty much the same hormone levels.

Now we all know that just ain't true.

Believe it if you like - just don't go anywhere near a hungry infant...or a breastmilk bank.

"The histologic effect of high levels of estrogen utilized for transition from male to female, unlike gynecomastia, includes development of ducts, lobules and acini histologically identical to cisgender women. Pseudolactational changes have also been described [16]. Figure 2 shows an example of lobule formation and pseudolactational changes in the breast biopsy from a transgender woman. We have also observed lobular development similar to a pre-pubertal breast in the setting of estrogen treatment of transgender females"

link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40134-018-0260-1

NancyDrawed · 27/11/2020 16:46

jj1968 I notice that you often use 'transwomen and other women' in your posts. I am sure this is deliberate in a kind of forced teaming way. Personally, I think it is more correct to say 'transwomen and women'.

Your reply of 'For the same reason any other woman would.' in response to 'Why would a transwoman want or need to breastfeed a baby' is a case in point. If you read it from a biological sex point of view as ' For the same reason any other male would' it puts a totally different slant on the reply.

Transwomen are biologically male. Transwomen are not a subset of women.

Nettleskeins · 27/11/2020 16:42

Men can nurture and care for babies in so many ways, they can form incredibly strong bonds, why on earth is it necessary to hijack breastfeeding, when so many mums don't even DO it, and still adore and cherish their babies. It doesn't make them lesser mums not to bstfd.
It is so selfish to say I need to breastfeed, when so many natal women get so little support to do it.

Winesalot · 27/11/2020 16:38

I’d like to hear from a female who has no problem exposing themselves online knowing it is not a secure group.

Oh. And I am more interested in people who don’t then victim blame the women who feel they have so little options but to post these pictures. In the past we have had a few who blamed women for posting their pictures in these groups. Like the women had any other option.....

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