Joe Wicks and his breastfeeding journey

The right kind of engaged dads don't find breastfeeding 'hard' - they do what they can, whenever they can, and they sit back and give space and basically are on hand.

The kind of 'engaged' dads who have issues with it have, in my experience, all been the kind of dads who love being engaged best of all when it's allllll about them.

This guy's really milking what was totally meant to be 15 minutes of fame. Talk about latching on.
Do I get a snare for that?

I've heard of him but haven't seen him or followed him so don't really know anything about him other than he does classes on line.

Surely anything that supports and normalises breastfeeding is a good thing? If it helps other dads to support their baby’s mother to breastfeed then I think it’s a good thing.

That is all well and lovely having supportive engaged partners but I do think mother's need to have something just for them and their baby of course father's are important but really a journey a faffing journey It doesn't take anything away from the mother's journey, it is a different journey but still a journey.

My husband has been disabled for nearly 30 years, I'd say as his carer I've had a journey but it has been less painful than his but still my journey.

I went to NCT classes nearly 50 years ago, we had one week that was "dad's night" Breast feeding was covered. I wonder if Ozzie Osbourne remembers? His daughter, from first marriage, was born a few weeks after my son.

That is all well and lovely having supportive engaged partners but I do think mother's need to have something just for them and their baby of course father's are important but really a journey a faffing journey

Oh YABU

Father tries to get as involved and helpful as he can, and people get offended and he is being mocked or abused.

Father doesn't get involved enough, and people are in uproar about how it is HIS baby too.

I'd rather see a woman with a supporting partner when SHE wants him and need him, even at breastfeeding groups, than a woman left to deal with all the childhood aspect because she is female or left alone in hospital because MEN are the enemy.

We KNOW Joe Wicks didn't breastfeed, he's not pretending he did. So bit YABU

If we want men to be able to support their partners they need to understand, can't see the issue myself.

I fed my 4, one was an EMCS and I woke up to find husband latching baby on, I'd told him I wanted to feed as soon as baby was born, he couldn't do that as she needed checks and such like and I needed sorting out but I was so pleased he supported me and our baby. My first memories of her are me drowsily snuggling with her as she had her first feed with dad keeping us safe.

Bless him he is one of "them' he just tries to hard to relate to EVERY THING it must be exhausting!

I agree BlueSkies.

Have women (breastfeeding) only sessions (female partners - lesbian/bi can attend) and separate sessions for the men for "support learning sessions".

I was just having a vague muse though, I don’t really care either way.

I think engaged dads find breastfeeding hard - there's a degree of guilt that they can't properly help, feeling useless (especially with first child as toddler wrangling is obviously useful)!

My DH's breastfeeding journey mostly involved getting his hand slapped when he tried to touch them.

YANBU

This is in the same vein as the men who attend breastfeeding support groups. I wanted to tell them to fuck off. To have my (Large) tit hanging out with men present on day 5 when I was in pain and very awkward around position etc, was just awful.

I went to two events and didn’t return because of those men supporting their partners. My husband waited in the car park. Why couldn’t they??

I have mixed feelings about this. I agree it would have been nice to have her voice in the book, but then maybe she didn't want to write for it.

On the other hand though I think it's good they view this time as something they did together. My partner was a huge support when I was breastfeeding, getting up with me in the night in the early days when I was finding it hard and in tears, letting me sleep whenever I needed while he had baby even though he was tired too, doing the bulk of cooking and housework. Plus all the logistics around pumping and leaving baby with dad. It was completely a team effort. Of course it's not like that for everyone but maybe it was for them.

Having said all that though, totally agree celebrities writing parenting books is cringe and I'd never buy one!

Just to add, he missed the birth so thankfully I didn't have to hear all about how he pushed the baby out.

Hhmmmm.

Yes.

I'm not sold on Joe Wicks. Just like I'm not sold on Justin Trudeau.

(Although JT is 1000x worse for International reasons)

@melroses haha brilliant.

Ugh my manager used to say when his girlfriend was pregnant "we're pregnant" 🤦🏼‍♀️ I didn't say anything... 🙄