Breastfeeding support group wants to allow males

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user643899 · 22/11/2020 20:03

I am in a Facebook group for breastfeeding support.

There's a new comment from admin asking if we'd be comfortable with males joining the group, then a subsequent poll.

I commented on said poll, "I am a feminist. Call me a terf. Biologically you are male or female. Feel free to identify as what you wish but you cannot change your sex. This group is for breastfeeding. Only females can breastfeed."

I was called a bigot. One comment read, "you aren't a feminist. Feminists want equality for all genders." I responded,"Equality for both sexes, yes. Female is a sex. Feminism derives from the word, female."

Now my original comment has been deleted. I daren't comment again through fear of removal.

I'm upset. This is the group I used when I had thrush. I posted pictures of the thrush on my boob. I can't be comfortable in a group made for my sex.

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MichelleofzeResistance · 22/11/2020 20:16

Can they not set up a parallel mixed sex group? There will be women quite happy to belong to both.

And yes, make the point that you are less comfortable to use the group for support in the way you have up to this point, so including males will exclude you in this way, and likely other women too.

BettyDuKeiraBellisMyShero · 22/11/2020 20:16

I’m glad the menopause group I’m in is absolutely resolute about the women-only rule.

But then, they probably don’t have loads of males banging on the metaphorical windows. Menopause, unlike pregnancy and breastfeeding is rarely fetishised.

Could you perhaps PM the admins with links that illustrate how some men get off over images of nursing women? Because it’s all lot easier to enforce a female only boundary than it is to have to weed out perves one by one.

StrippedFridge · 22/11/2020 20:15

Good chance it is a woke beard dad annoyed he is not allowed to participate.

Would be a shame if he can't join as you'd miss out on his mansplaining. How awful.

StrippedFridge · 22/11/2020 20:14

Surely they meant male partners of the breastfeeding women?

Or maybe possibly at the outside chance, a transman if there is a local female who has given birth and is breastfeeding who simultaneously wants the other breastfeeding mothers to go along with he/him. Seems unlikely though. Most likely to mean dads.

flashbac · 22/11/2020 20:12

Any Muslim or Jewish women on the group?

NiceGerbil · 22/11/2020 20:09

Have they said why men want to join?

The dads is it?

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