I am being asked to go into a meeting and introduce my pronouns to everyone in an hour and a half!

Aw ffs.
What an absolute load of shit.

dm use to say "she was the cat's grandmother" Its polite to refer to people by their name ...

In fact I know someone recently who was looking for some hard research on that to challenge her organisation.

She's got a phd so Dr. A.Nyname can be gender neutral until you slap a pronoun in.

@littlefireseverywhere given that I'm sure there's research to show that responses to female sign offs can be much worse to male sign offs, that's sex discrimination!

It's stupid and no more appropriate than being expected to give your age, sexual orientation, ethnicity, or any other information irrelevant to work. They are making up rules and they should be ignored.

Feminise your name?
I’m more shocked by that than by the whole pronoun thing tbh.

"I'm pronoun free"

And let them un befuddle that.

We’re also being encouraged to do it at work, I work for a charity who embrace woke ideas every now & again. We’re expected to add pronouns at the end of emails, under my signature. I don’t. I’ve an ambiguous name eg Sam, that can be confused with either male or female but when people meet me I’m clearly female. My line manager suggested my name was even more confusing for some & did I want to feminise my name. Ummm no!

It’s clearly a big issue for your colleague who wants to be referred to as they / then. Totally fine, but to then engage a discussion on what everyone else wants to be is quite odd & masochistic. I’m guessing that’s not what they were going for!

I can see this coming to my workplace at some point as we are Stonewall luvvies or whatever the correct term is. I think the TW’s point in the posted tweet above is excellent. If you asked everyone to disclose their sexuality, religion, ethnicity or disability at the start of meetings, you would be hauled over the coals by HR. E&D data is sensitive data and subject to stringent controls in my company. As gender reassignment is also protected under EA2010, how is this even remotely OK?

I think in Norway, they're deciding whether misgendering is a crime with a sentence of up to 3 years, I'd be fucked, I can't even remember people's names most of the time, including the ones in my own family, I say about 5 before I get the right one. My poor brain couldn't remember or compute someone's pronouns if they're not the ones we've been using my whole life so far. Is it misgendering if I just use they/them for everyone?

It is clearly a biggie for the organiser. I'd just introduce myself in the usual way and finish with a quick 'she, her, hers' thrown in at the end. Job done.

Another one lurking to find out what happened - hope it was uneventful for you, OP. Some great serious and not-so-serious options here and @CaptainCorellisPangolin, that made me laugh!

Great post Marial, I feel pretty much the same.

I'd probably go with 'I'm a woman, thanks', smile sweetly and mute, looking expectantly for next person.

But I'd like to ponder why it's relevant and if pushed I might say 'If I say he do I get a pay rise?' LOL. Just bantz.

When I put mine on a thread recently I was deleted and given a warning. Tbh I was a bit pissed off they assumed I wasn't serious. How can one tell the difference?

Say you're having intersectional feminist/gender counselling to help you decide on your pro-noun but it is long and traumatic and, at the moment, being forced to identify could lead to a trauma.

In fact, the whole thing is insensitive and triggering and you will need a week of work to deal with the feelings it has stirred up.

It is tempting. Oh so very tempting.
We have a very elderly vicar sitting in on it (he's contributing to something we're publishing). Really, that should deter me but it only makes me want to do it more.

I veyr much doubt if he would be shocked!

Let us know how you get on! I’d ignore this too.

Oooh @WhatTheFuckHappenedHere please come back...

No idea abut the extra and there

When my dads workmates were told to do this (albeit on emails, rather than in person) they started identifying as god and such, and had emails shooting arund the office ending in 'banana/bananself' and stuff. I doubt that would go down too well in person though, or in a group less closely knitted than they were!

It does imply that people need to state it - so it’s not automatically obvious then?

This is unfair on trans people who are not 'out' IMO. Its unfair on women too really, and men..but the one that will be listened to above all else is that transpeople should not be MADE to state their pronouns as they are a very personal thing and.

Wear a low cut top, lots of red lipstick, and declare HE/HIM. What a nonsense it is so treat it as such.

What would happen in these situations if you just looked blank and said "the usual ones" ? (Does this make me evil?)