I am being asked to go into a meeting and introduce my pronouns to everyone in an hour and a half!

anything less than 100% compliance instils such fear in us that we don't 'dare' refuse as the consequences are potential cancellation

Thing is though, and what pisses me off the most, is so much of this expects that you will stay in your box to enable others to identify out of that box and that you will co operate by providing the norm to the more interesting variations of others.

I'm afraid if interesting variations are an option then either everyone gets to do it or no one does. Like inclusion and kindness. Either it's an equal value applied equally by everyone to everyone else, or it's a term being used to disguise something else entirely.

I wouldn't say anything about my pronouns on my introduction but if pushed, in a meeting in front of everyone, to state them, I'd say "my pronouns are obvious" followed by these faces >

I'm v curious as to what the 'self care' instructions for the meeting were?

All light a candle or an incense stick, do two minutes of guided meditation focusing on the flow of your breathing innnnn, and ouuuuut, and all say OM.

FFS.

My line manager suggested my name was even more confusing for some & did I want to feminise my name.
That is awful. “Would you like to invite unconscious bias against you in order to help other people feel comfortable? They wouldn’t ask you to make your name sound more obviously identifiable as your race or religion would they.

How did it go?

Hope you managed to get out of it op

Bloody woke nonsense that actually harms women as sexism.is still rife.

Course no one cares though its just women.

Don't know how I git a quote there - I must have clicked it by accident - sorry.

If he's anything like the five retired vicars in our parish (1 woman, 4 men) he'll bliddy love it (but may have to feign shock). If he starts to choke, I can promise you that he is fighting back laughter!

Loving the new 'I'm taking the 5th' - really that nails it.

"I am taking the Yogyakarta Principle 6."

(Everyone frantically googles.)

+1 for the payslip.

This 'woke' stuff deserves nothing less than the thoroughgoing piss to be taken out of it. But they are all sooooo po-faced.

Ridiculous isn't it that anything less than 100% compliance instils such fear in us that we don't 'dare' refuse as the consequences are potential cancellation. I want to laugh, but I'm too angry.

Self care is definitely wank BEFORE meeting

What a difficult one

I’d not want to be strong armed into saying this

I might do vagueness and leave it out but if everyone says it at end of their intro it’s tough

I'm v curious as to what the 'self care' instructions for the meeting were?

I mean really, everyone knows to have a wee and grab a brew before the meeting and in any breaks don't they?

Or does self care mean something else

Of course it's highly insensitive and outing to anyone actually considering their gender.

The point is though that it's almost always either thoughtless showing off by a workplace who know perfectly well they have no one at all who actually wants or needs to share pronouns but it's the In Thing, or there's someone with interesting pronouns who wants to see everyone else do this while assuming all of them to be nicely in the 'c**' box. No one's thought for a moment that anyone undeclared in the group might be affected.

I would love to respond that personally I believe it's the height of rudeness and disrespect to try to control other people's language and perceptions for my benefit. But I'd go with ignoring, and if pushed, to comment that I am not ready to talk about my pronouns publicly, please use whatever you feel appropriate, and then talk to HR about outing people in public.

Tell them you identify as a chair and they are to refer to you as 'it'.

I hope OP comes back to tell us how it went.

'I’ve an ambiguous name eg Sam, that can be confused with either male or female but when people meet me I’m clearly female. My line manager suggested my name was even more confusing for some & did I want to feminise my name.'

FUCK THIS. Seriously. What utter, utter shit kind of thinking leads to these conclusions? Are we to 'feminise' our clothing hair and speech to appease these absolute no-marks?

What if you don’t know what pronoun means? I would hazard that not everyone does.

Hoping you've not been whisked away to the gulag for 're education, OP.

Waiting with bated breath OP!

Placemarking to see what happened

I'm pronoun free

🤣🤣

I don’t really see the need.

Trans people who pass will be referred to as the sex they are assumed to be, which I imagine is what they’re happy with. Trans people who do not should be able to say “I’d like to be referred to as her/him” without expecting anyone else to follow suit. NB people should be able to say “btw if you could refer to me as they/them”. I don’t see why someone obviously female saying “I’m she/her” helps. As has been said if someone introduces them self as gay, or an MS sufferer, or vegan or a Scientologist or in recovery it’s not massively supportive for everyone else to say “I’m hetero, able bodied, omnivore, Muslim or teetotal.” It’s like a token gesture rather than simply accepting people.

If you want a low-key way to get out of this, maybe pretend to have semi-misunderstood the directions by saying "My title is 'Ms.'" at the end.