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SANDS sorry if upsetting

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InTheShadowOfTheMushroomCloud · 24/10/2020 13:06

I have no words. This has upset me so much...

SANDS sorry if upsetting
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yourhairiswinterfire · 24/10/2020 13:19

I'm sorry InTheShadowOfTheMushroomCloud Flowers

This is just pure cruelty. This is absolutely not the topic to be playing ridiculous word games with.

I don't usually write complaints, but does anyone know where we can complain about this? It's a spiteful kick in the teeth for any MOTHER that has lost her baby.

EvilEdna1 · 24/10/2020 13:19

They are avoiding the word mother to not upset lesbian couples as in that case they are both mothers. We are told to do this in the birthing education field too but I only use this language when I have a lesbian couple in the group.

NoSquirrels · 24/10/2020 13:19

It really does feel like an erasure of women.

I understand the inclusive language but if you can’t give birth and think of yourself as a mother to that child, something seems very wrong.

I think if you’re so uncomfortable with your biological sex you shouldn’t be giving birth. Because it’s a visceral reminder that you’re not whatever identity you’ve chosen, you are female.

Awning10 · 24/10/2020 13:14

SANDS are amazing. They know what a mother is. They couldn't want to take that word away from a mother. It cannot be part of their ethos.

persistentwoman · 24/10/2020 13:12

So sorry InTheShadowOfTheMushroomCloud
These people have no idea of the hurt that they cause when they casually throw away cherished words like mother in order to pander to groups who frankly don't give a toss about women in this situation.

persistentwoman · 24/10/2020 13:10

I hope that women (and their partners) who fund SANDs will let the charity know how dehumanising it is to eradicate the words mother and women. So sorry to see such awful exclusionary language being used by this charity
Flowers to all women hurt by this unkindness.

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InTheShadowOfTheMushroomCloud · 24/10/2020 13:09

@FedUpWithBriiiiick

It's unbelievably cruel and dehumanising to women at their most vulnerable.

The word is MOTHER.

It makes me feel that a woman who has been in that position isn't allowed to call herself a mother... she is seen as second class...
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FedUpWithBriiiiick · 24/10/2020 13:08

It's unbelievably cruel and dehumanising to women at their most vulnerable.

The word is MOTHER.

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