Ensuring my 10 year old learns feminism

Yes, to the dripping tap of your constant commentary. My children are men now and whilst they may mock my fervour, they “get” what I’m going on about and sure as hell understand what consent is.

Notice things out loud with her. Like how it seems the boys are playing football in the playground and the girls are round the edges, is it always like that? Like how the school shoes sold for girls have a design that is less good for running and climbing and the rain in than those sold for boys. Like how there aren’t any boys in her ballet class / choir / netball club, why does she think that is.

I can understand how you feel about this, I have an 11-year old girl as well. I also find working on their self perception so important.

All children are different, so it is hard to say exactly. If my daughter came out with a factually incorrect statement like that, I would find the statistics (have to be somewhere) to prove her wrong and gently (well not gently with my DD, she is very competitive and always want to be right) show her that she is wrong.

More generally for me it is about drip feeding why I believe that stereotypes are wrong. Commenting on expectations on girls and why they are stupid. Pointing out female role models and criticism they get. Showing newspaper articles where women are assessed based on what they wear in a professional capacity (Teresa May, Amal Clooney) which men are not. It has to be a constant, natural drip feed though .

It helps for me that DD is better that most boys in maths. She is fed up with being told that girls are bad at maths.