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If your partner posted this on Facebook?

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HaventCriedThisMuchForYears · 21/10/2020 13:31

This

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Thisisnotnormal69 · 21/10/2020 14:20

Is that the main thing you’re worried about with this, looking attractive to him?

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HaventCriedThisMuchForYears · 21/10/2020 14:18

But I can never look like that. I’m not 25, I’ve had kids, I don’t have breast implants

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dottiedodah · 21/10/2020 14:16

TBH I like most others here would find this in very bad taste .Some men seem to have a very puerile sense of whats "funny" .I would point these out to him ,and ask that he deletes them ASAP! I am sure he does find you attractive (and that you are!)May also let him know its not 1970 and we are not in an episode of Benny Hill FFS!

Notverybright · 21/10/2020 14:12

I’m sure he finds you attractive. I’d be more worried about the lack of respect to be honest.

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HaventCriedThisMuchForYears · 21/10/2020 14:02

How am I supposed to ever believe I’m attractive to him again?

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ThePankhurstConnection · 21/10/2020 13:53

He hates social media so he wouldn't but if he did I'd assume he was spoiling for a fight because he's know me a very long time and he would be aware of how disrespectful and juvenile I would find it.

LaBellina · 21/10/2020 13:51

@ErrolTheDragon

What I posted was an understatement with a very cynical undertone - my idea of humor IRL. I agree with you that it's sexist hence why it's not my sense of humor. I would wonder if making sexist comments or jokes on me would be next on his list actually.

dudsville · 21/10/2020 13:47

Not all young men or adolescent boys do this, but some that do manage to learn and mature out of this behaviour. For an adult man to do this is an act of hate.

OperationallySound · 21/10/2020 13:46

@LightDrizzle

Bill Tomlinson is a simpleton. I’d be disappointed and tell him to delete it. How old is he? I could see some of our much older wider friendship group posting this. They were raised on Dick Emery and Benny Hill and it sometimes shows through. They aren’t actually hideous creeps though, just very pedestrian older men grasping after laddish banter and getting it wrong. The rest of us would respond with eye roll emojis and well deserved abuse.
Sexism isn't ok but ageism is then presumably?
MiddleClassMother · 21/10/2020 13:44

My DH wouldn't ever post something like that, if he did and showed other misogynistic behaviour i'd be putting our marriage under a serious review. It wouldn't bother me too much though unless there was other red flags (disrespect to women IRL)

LightDrizzle · 21/10/2020 13:44

Bill Tomlinson is a simpleton.
I’d be disappointed and tell him to delete it. How old is he? I could see some of our much older wider friendship group posting this. They were raised on Dick Emery and Benny Hill and it sometimes shows through. They aren’t actually hideous creeps though, just very pedestrian older men grasping after laddish banter and getting it wrong. The rest of us would respond with eye roll emojis and well deserved abuse.

ErrolTheDragon · 21/10/2020 13:42

@LaBellina

I would start to think our sense of humor does not match and it very probably never will.
This is more than having a different sense of humour - it betrays an utter disrespect for women. Not finding this sort of thing funny is evidence of having a good sense of humour - one which can differentiate between things that are genuinely amusing and things that aren't.
DeliciouslyFemale · 21/10/2020 13:42

My late husband blocked a couple of workmates that posted shit like that, but he wasn’t a misogynistic knuckle dragger.

Flaunch · 21/10/2020 13:42

I’d assume mine had been hacked too. So not his style.

VioletSunset · 21/10/2020 13:41

urgh. How lovely 🙄

ColleagueFromMars · 21/10/2020 13:40

No I wouldn't be happy about my partner posting that, nor would I be happy that he has mates who can comment on it like that. But your partner's mysogyny surely isn't news to you is it?

ShowOfHands · 21/10/2020 13:40

I'd assume he'd been hacked.

JemimaTiggywinkle · 21/10/2020 13:40

I would think that he is my soon to be ex-partner.

TobblyBobbly · 21/10/2020 13:40

How about IRL - does he make misogynistic 'jokes' or show a lack of respect for the women in his life?

ColleagueFromMars · 21/10/2020 13:39

Welcome to the internet, a place for all Envy (not envy).

Clymene · 21/10/2020 13:38

I'd think he was 14 or of exceptionally limited intelligence

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HaventCriedThisMuchForYears · 21/10/2020 13:38

He’s always posting stupid stuff on Facebook but this one is totally offensive as are some of the other posts within the group.

TBH I’m quite shocked that groups like this even exist

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LaBellina · 21/10/2020 13:36

I would start to think our sense of humor does not match and it very probably never will.

PlanDeRaccordement · 21/10/2020 13:36

I’d be worried his employer (past, present and future) would see it if public FB. It’s very teenage laddish behaviour not at all mature. Also not even funny....

TobblyBobbly · 21/10/2020 13:35

Well I'd be a bit surprised as it would be completely out of character for him!

I guess what I'm saying is - posting this is fairly harmless in itself, but someone who finds this sort of thing funny probably isn't a person I'd like to be in a relationship with. So it would be ok as a one off but if it's a regular occurrence I might be re thinking things.