If your partner posted this on Facebook?

I'd be most concerned about Be happy, or I'll kick your cunt in. I would not live with someone who thought threatening violence to women was a joke.

I realise someone else originally posted that picture, but your partner is passing it on. It doesn't matter how much you think he wouldn't do it. It's that he thinks it's funny. Because injuring women is so funny.

My DH belongs to a hobby-related group in which this type of thing is sometimes posted. He commented critically and it has made him quite unpopular.

Not with me though

Sorry OP I bet you’re gutted

It’s not as easy as ltb when you’ve built a life together is it

I feel like I've stumbled into the twilight zone. Am I the only one that wouldn't be that bothered by this? I have seen the equivalent posted by my female friends, pictures of attractive young men next to a horse, with the caption "what horse?" for example.

He posts that and you're concerned about YOUR attractiveness???? The worlds gone mad. He sounds like a twat...ergo unattractive to me.

I can’t believe these men are doing this on a public Facebook group

I don't know much about Facebook but I am a member of several (adult) male dominated forums. Most have a thread devoted to pictures of that ilk. It's normal.

I wouldn't really think anything. Facebook friends of mine have posted a meme/pic of the odd topless man in a kilt with six pack or fireman with just trousers and braces on. Same with that, I don't really think anything of it.

This is embarrassing. It doesn't reflect well on him or you. I'm a bit harder than most, being older and divorced but I would just instantly dump him. What if my friends saw that???

God I would have the ick so badly there would be no return. My partner wouldn't post something like that because he's not an immature, sexist, leery prick. Raise your bar - stop worrying about whether he wants you and think about why on earth you want him!!

And this. The ick! Yep that would give me the ick

Shouldn't the question be 'how can i ever be attracted to him again?'

This .

God just realised it your partner op. Sorry. This is really scummy.

I'd cringe my skin off. Assume that he'd had a body swap with a teenager or was having a breakdown. Unless he need serious psychological help I'd have to leave him I'd be so fucking embarrassed.

So it's a group devoted to putting stuff like this up isn't it? I'm not sure why you didn't leave him when he joined it? And also doesn't research show that guys who get together to show the world how heterosexual they are are far more likely to be gay than those who don't feel the need to? Not a comment on being gay, just enjoying the irony.

You could remind him - on your way out of the door - that the impression he is providing the world with is not so much 'look what a virile chap I am' but 'look how incredibly fragile my masculinity is.'

And by the way you have done nothing wrong at all .Just been taken in by yet another vile misogynist who likes to see women as some kind of fresh Meat on display!

I think I would say to him that if he doesnt remove it ,then you will be thinking about whether you wish to be married to someone that resembles Jay from the Inbetweeners! Honestly the 1st and 3rd pictures are bad enough ,but the second one is absolutely disgusting! I feel sad that after 50 odd years of Feminism we are still subjected to this filthy crap .

Well, it's handy that they all congregate where they can easily be found. We can all see who to avoid!

I am so sorry, OP. Knowing the man who shares your life, sees you naked, touches you, not only finds that sort of crap amusing but feels free to revel in it publicly must make your skin crawl.

we get the idea, no need to keep giving the group publicity

How is your relationship with him otherwise?

Yes I don’t know how I’ll find him attractive either.

You have agency over your life OP! If you don't find him attractive because of his horrible attitude and immature misogynistic sense of humour, you're perfectly entitled to break up with him. While some people will say "it's just a post" the truth is it's a public declaration of who he is - and he's grim! And he hasn't deleted it despite it upsetting you. He's not respectful of your feelings at all.

I’d think that he’s rancid and wouldn’t touch him with a barge pole. Disrespectful. Sad. Yuck.

You are obviously upset and if he knows you at all he would know that it would make you feel like that...