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Jk Rowling and trans issues... talk to me!

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bunters · 20/10/2020 10:17

Ok mumsnet, please talk to me. I’ve noticed that the feminist section of mumsnet seems disproportionately preoccupied with trans issues and I’d like to understand it. I opened the feminism chat today and topic after topic related to trans this, gender that

It is an indisputable fact that women suffer horrific domestic violence in this country (and worldwide), at the hands of men. Women are regularly beaten, raped, controlled, murdered and otherwise abused by men every single day. It’s so standard that it barely makes news when it happens, unless the crime is truly shocking.

This whole trans hysteria feels to me like if the government were to start a huge campaign to raise awareness of the dangers of choking on peanuts, while ignoring the huge damage caused by alcohol and tobacco.

JK Rowling has started a bizarre war around the language used to refer women, in the name of women’s rights. With her money and popularity she could have done any number of things to help women in a huge way. What has this achieved, other than pitting feminists against each other? Even if you believe she has a point, surely you can see that whatever ‘danger’ trans people pose to women is minuscule compared to the very real danger men openly pose to women every day?

We all know that men have felt entitled to take what they want when they want for centuries, and they don’t need to dress as a woman to do it. The women gang raped to death (can you even imagine the horror) in India weren’t attacked by men in dresses. I’m despairing of the fact that attention has been diverted from these horrors in such an extreme way.

When I look at my beautiful, tiny daughter I don’t worry about some trans person hurting her, I worry about the very likely situation when a man hurts her. In fact, I’d worry more that she’ll be trans and be hurt by someone before I’d worry about a trans person hurting her. When I walk alone at night somewhere, my mind isn’t imagining trans people waiting in dark doorways to rape me, it’s men. Men being bloody men.

If we accept that men don’t need to be trans and gain access to women’s spaces to hurt us, and we accept that trans people are way more likely to attempt suicide than the rest of the population (and so really are in need of help and protection as much as women), why do trans issues continue to cause such anger?

And if you do feel justified, what tangible thing are you doing to help women, besides moaning on mumsnet and signing petitions?

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 21/10/2020 15:46

What was that, Joisanofthedales? paraphrasing obviously!

Ereshkigalangcleg · 21/10/2020 15:45

No one is denying that a group of people who believe they are the opposite sex internally exist.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 21/10/2020 15:44

But it's not their existence that's up for debate. That's emotive hyperbole. What's up for debate is whether a male person can be considered a woman.

Joisanofthedales · 21/10/2020 15:43

Wow that was quick.

Quaagars · 21/10/2020 15:33

The acceptance of the mantra TWAW, No debate,

I can't imagine what it must be like to have your very existence as a trans person debated.
When you say debate, what, like debate whether you're really trans?
(With all the how do we know comments etc)
Whether you should get rights as a trans person, whether a trans man or a trans woman?
So I can understand no debate stance a bit there - to constantly have your entire existence up for "discussion" by people who aren't trans must be Hmm

MaudTheInvincible · 21/10/2020 15:22

That's a 'no' then joisaninthedales Halloween Grin

lazylinguist · 21/10/2020 15:20

Well, yes, your birth sex, what's between your legs on the outside, that's your birth sex, right, surely you know that?

Wait, you surely don't believe that there is nothing in your genetic make-up that makes you male or female, and that your sex is only determined by your actual external genitals? Confused

I know I failed to spot someone taking the mickey upthread about livers and spleens etc matching penises (hard to spot a joke these days amongst all the genuinely-believed nonsense), but you're serious here, right?

Joisanofthedales · 21/10/2020 14:51

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MaudTheInvincible · 21/10/2020 12:24

People use cis to offend women. That is all.

Jk Rowling and trans issues... talk to me!
Ereshkigalangcleg · 21/10/2020 12:11

Cis" as well as being a linguisitic sleight of hand which assumes everyone has a and agrees with "gender identity", enables women to be relabelled as the oppressors, which is of course ridiculous. "Cis privilege" my arse (my arse which will be judged and groped against my will).

I therefore wholeheartedly reject "cis".

Plus it implies that I accept the premise that males are just as much women as women. Which I do not. So no thanks, I won't be using it and I don't want it applied to me.

Joisanofthedales · 21/10/2020 11:10

Much easier than grappling with them. Thank you Errol. Mumsnet is always educational. Smile

ErrolTheDragon · 21/10/2020 11:05

@Joisanofthedales

There is tic remover? I wish I'd known that when I lived in the highlands.
OT, but we always carry a tick card in our rucksack. Its the size of a credit card with a small and a larger slot - simple but effective.
Joisanofthedales · 21/10/2020 10:52

There is tic remover? I wish I'd known that when I lived in the highlands.

Joisanofthedales · 21/10/2020 10:51

Some great posts on here. Thank you Flowers

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Datun · 21/10/2020 10:28

So true. No wonder the prevailing ideology is that if you change the things on the outside of your body, or between your legs, you've actually changed your sex. People are just being misled and not able to use their own critical analysis.

Winederlust · 21/10/2020 10:23

@Quaagars

Is birth sex on the outside then? Confused Well, yes, your birth sex, what's between your legs on the outside, that's your birth sex, right, surely you know that?
This just demonstrates just how ridiculous the TWAW argument is. Sex is not just about what's "in between your legs", it's written into every cell of your body. Inside and out.
Cocothefirst · 21/10/2020 10:19

If I can't say when I find a term offensive then free speech is gone. Falsehoods and lies are being protected and promoted. I think I'm just really sick of the lies.

Yes.

Cailleach1 · 21/10/2020 09:54

Oh dear.
I got deleted and a strike for writing about an idea that was voiced in a video posted on mumsnet. You'd think they would have warned that you cannot mention anything about this video because the thoughts therein are banned. I don't think it was about the one where I said we have to lie (or else Stalinist lurkers will report the truth being spoken and any rejection of the new genderist ideology is deleted as 'Pravda" and falsehoods are maintained). But it confirms that post.

It was about the unacceptability of Cis and how offensive it was if you don't subscribe to the new 'genderist' ideology. It is a term which is from chemistry and it means nothing when applied to a person in such a way. That is why it has never been used to apply to people and their 'gender' before this brave new world. I also stated that it only means something to people who have adopted those beliefs.

If people are allowed to say Cis is a thing as applied to people, and use it to refer to people, why am I not allowed to give an example as to what I think it is equivalent? Cis is a term from organic chemistry and indicated the sides/location of functional groups. It does not have a meaning when applied to people to refer to their 'gender'. If you think people are divided into configurational isomers, then give me your scientific proof. That should be easy. Maybe Cis people (sic) have hearts in the place where others have spleens. Maybe Cis people (sic) have teeth in the place where others have the small intestine. Also, you'd have to confirm for each person that they buy into this new 'gender' ideology and agree with this term and how it applies to them.

If I can't say when I find a term offensive then free speech is gone. Falsehoods and lies are being protected and promoted. I think I'm just really sick of the lies. As for people who think their elective cosmetic surgery should trump a womens' life saving cancer surgery.... . You'd think someone would be embarrassed to show what a vile and deplorable person they are. Unfortunately, in society at the moment you are probably celebrated for being vile.

SunsetBeetch · 21/10/2020 09:24

"Cis" as well as being a linguisitic sleight of hand which assumes everyone has a and agrees with "gender identity", enables women to be relabelled as the oppressors, which is of course ridiculous. "Cis privilege" my arse (my arse which will be judged and groped against my will).

I therefore wholeheartedly reject "cis".

Malahaha · 21/10/2020 08:55

@RedDogsBeg

I guess I am never going to get an answer to what outside birth sex doesn't align with inside that determines trans, yet another unanswered question to add to my ever growing list.
I think, but I'm not sure, "inside" here means you "feel" you are Barbie? That's what makes you a woman? amiright?
Cailleach1 · 20/10/2020 22:27

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EarthSight · 20/10/2020 21:54

This whole trans hysteria

  • you shut off a lot of your potential audience with this incredibly patronising description. It's not hysteria. It's a reasonable reaction to our rights being eroded. Interesting that you frame that as 'hysteria'.

what tangible thing are you doing to help women, besides moaning on mumsnet and signing petitions?

  • Silly women eh? Talking about our rights. Venting on a forum for mums as opposed to TRAs who contact people's workplaces to get them sacked, terrorise women online and try to shut down their events when they try to speak about their rights.
Mammatino · 20/10/2020 21:47

Every thread that is put up about surrogacy gets taken down. Call me bipolar Polly. No one gives a shit about that either. Not because we aren’t talking...they just get deleted, a few weeks ago there was a thread about women in mental health units...got deleted. So yes maybe we are being corralled into the trans issue, most of the other, brilliant emotive threads get deleted. I often wonder why.

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