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Jk Rowling and trans issues... talk to me!

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bunters · 20/10/2020 10:17

Ok mumsnet, please talk to me. I’ve noticed that the feminist section of mumsnet seems disproportionately preoccupied with trans issues and I’d like to understand it. I opened the feminism chat today and topic after topic related to trans this, gender that

It is an indisputable fact that women suffer horrific domestic violence in this country (and worldwide), at the hands of men. Women are regularly beaten, raped, controlled, murdered and otherwise abused by men every single day. It’s so standard that it barely makes news when it happens, unless the crime is truly shocking.

This whole trans hysteria feels to me like if the government were to start a huge campaign to raise awareness of the dangers of choking on peanuts, while ignoring the huge damage caused by alcohol and tobacco.

JK Rowling has started a bizarre war around the language used to refer women, in the name of women’s rights. With her money and popularity she could have done any number of things to help women in a huge way. What has this achieved, other than pitting feminists against each other? Even if you believe she has a point, surely you can see that whatever ‘danger’ trans people pose to women is minuscule compared to the very real danger men openly pose to women every day?

We all know that men have felt entitled to take what they want when they want for centuries, and they don’t need to dress as a woman to do it. The women gang raped to death (can you even imagine the horror) in India weren’t attacked by men in dresses. I’m despairing of the fact that attention has been diverted from these horrors in such an extreme way.

When I look at my beautiful, tiny daughter I don’t worry about some trans person hurting her, I worry about the very likely situation when a man hurts her. In fact, I’d worry more that she’ll be trans and be hurt by someone before I’d worry about a trans person hurting her. When I walk alone at night somewhere, my mind isn’t imagining trans people waiting in dark doorways to rape me, it’s men. Men being bloody men.

If we accept that men don’t need to be trans and gain access to women’s spaces to hurt us, and we accept that trans people are way more likely to attempt suicide than the rest of the population (and so really are in need of help and protection as much as women), why do trans issues continue to cause such anger?

And if you do feel justified, what tangible thing are you doing to help women, besides moaning on mumsnet and signing petitions?

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Barracker · 23/10/2020 14:49

I'm only speaking for myself!
I assume others use 'trans' as a euphemism rather than literally. Or simply because telling the truth is enough to get you banned or censored.

How would you refer to 'reincarnated people' Quaagars, without feeling as if you were dishonestly implying you think they literally do have the soul of someone else inside a dispossessed body?

Quaagars · 23/10/2020 14:45

@Barracker

That's exactly what I am saying.
Exactly lol! So how can people say that "of course trans people exist" then in the next breath "trans people don't exist, they exist as people but not as trans people as trans people don't exist?!" It's either one or the other, they either do or they don't
Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/10/2020 14:31

Trans ideology depends on a personal belief system as does reincarnation. These beliefs are not universal.

OldCrone · 23/10/2020 14:11

By saying no one is reincarnated though so that just makes them people, as reincarnated people don't exist, if you're saying this in relation to trans people, as in they exist as people but not as trans, as trans doesn't exist, how can you not see that you're denying them being trans?
That you'll accept them as people, but not as trans, as that doesn't exist going by your analogy?

If you want us to accept them as trans, can you define what you mean by 'trans'?

Escapeplanning · 23/10/2020 14:10

I can understand this existing thing.

The persona created by someone becomes false when the person is addressed and not the persona. The constructed identity only works until it's contradicted, all the work that's gone into building it becomes nothing as it's not working, it's "existence" is not the solid thing that it's creator wants it to be.

Barracker · 23/10/2020 14:07

That's exactly what I am saying.

Quaagars · 23/10/2020 14:05

@Barracker

I see it more as: Some people believe they are reincarnated. They are definitely people. They definitely exist. But they are not reincarnated people, even if they call themselves this. Because Noone is reincarnated.

Reincarnated people don't exist.

By saying no one is reincarnated though so that just makes them people, as reincarnated people don't exist, if you're saying this in relation to trans people, as in they exist as people but not as trans, as trans doesn't exist, how can you not see that you're denying them being trans? That you'll accept them as people, but not as trans, as that doesn't exist going by your analogy?
Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/10/2020 14:00

And yes, Barracker has it with that analogy. Perfect.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/10/2020 13:59

I think Julia Long simply doesn't believe "trans" is a particularly meaningful category. Hence the idea that she is denying their existence. She of course knows that this group of people exist, and as she writes about them frequently it's absurd to suggest she doesn't.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 23/10/2020 13:55

Or if they do, it is completely irrelevant since they don't have any recall about their previous incarnations.

Barracker · 23/10/2020 13:29

I see it more as:
Some people believe they are reincarnated.
They are definitely people.
They definitely exist.
But they are not reincarnated people, even if they call themselves this.
Because
Noone is reincarnated.

Reincarnated people don't exist.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 23/10/2020 13:24

NRatched
My post was mainly about the way people jump from
Transwomen are not women
to
Transwomen don't exist.

Saying they are not women, is not saying they don't exist.

The equivalent would be asserting that if I say "cats are not dogs" I am saying that cats do not exist. Or so I see it.

NRatched · 23/10/2020 13:07

@Cocothefirst

Transpeople do exist. But sex is immutable.
Quite.

But some seem to take even saying 'you cannot change your sex' as denial that transpeople exist. Its weird.

Cocothefirst · 23/10/2020 13:06

Transpeople do exist. But sex is immutable.

NRatched · 23/10/2020 12:54

My post was mainly about the way people jump from
Transwomen are not women
to
Transwomen don't exist.

Saying they are not women, is not saying they don't exist.

I should learn though, not to say 'noone' in posts as whatever the opinion, at least one outlier can be found. Hell, some people genuinely believe the moon is a ball of cheese so..

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/10/2020 12:52

Leafy wrote quite an important post. It's a shame it was deleted. I think it was due to the use of the word troll. I think if she reposted without that word and being careful not to generalise it would be ok.

NRatched · 23/10/2020 12:47

@Moonbasealpha

because not one person is denying that transpeople exist. They exist of course. As people who are trans

Oh I don’t know, Julia Long says there’s no such thing as a trans woman.

Does she. I didn't know that.

If she actually said transwomen don't exist, then thats really weird given a lot of her campaigning

Or, was it actually more along the 'noone is born in the wrong body' line? As thats not quite the same thing.

Anyone can look around them and see transpeople. It would be like denying trees exist or something. Whether you agree with their reasoning, or anything like that is not the point, people who think they are trans clearly exist. So yeah, I find it weird if Long flat out denied this.

Cailleach1 · 23/10/2020 11:40

Correction: Jim Jones, not Jack Jones. I do apologise and hope I have not offended anyone by making a mistake and writing Jack instead of Jim.

Cailleach1 · 23/10/2020 11:23

As there isn't an index of words to refer to which will get you deleted and a strike, I thought I'd warn people of one word I was deleted and given a strike for. Possibly (just surmising) after some very kind person, very secure in the credibility of their convictions, reported it. I won't write it out as that is banned, so just to give a clue, so nobody offends anyone with that hateful word again.

Here's the puzzle; c*, *l, u, **t. I haven't written the word again, but it is obviously a pitfall, so I wouldn't want people to remain ignorant of that pitfall.

I thought it had a particular meaning as to the widespread acceptance of a belief, but now know that is needs to be scratched from the dictionary, because it is a verboten word. I now also know it is offensive to those of all religions, beliefs and ideologies. Which are all equally worthy and sacred.

So to Jack Jones and adherents (or all their surviving relatives), on foot of my re-education, I recognise that the religious or ideological practices at Jonestown, are due the exact same respect and value of all world ideologies and religions. I do apologise for using that word. Looking it up, I see that Jack Jones received humanitarian awards and plaudits while he was the charismatic leader of such a lauded religion, so others at the time saw his religious movement was certainly not that c word.

Some naughty people afterwards were obviously just haters, with their revisionism. And use of the c word. No not that one. That one is just fine as it hates exclusively on women. That is not banned.

Auto · 23/10/2020 09:56

A trans person is who they say they are.

If they say they are Joan Collins, Donald Duck or Spartacus, what then? Likewise if they are not physically female with XX chromosomes, they are not women, they are transwomen.

EveEveander · 23/10/2020 09:32

For me this starts with the fact that a woman is a human female and a man is a human male. Truth and language are essential

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/10/2020 09:31

Previously, after punching his wife, he attempted to DARVO agencies by convincing them that the abuse was committed by his wife and was deceptive enough to be admitted to a woman's domestic violence refuge as part of a ploy to gain custody of their children.

FFS Angry

EveEveander · 23/10/2020 09:30

@Cailleach1

I don’t worry about some trans person hurting her, I worry about the very likely situation when a man hurts her.

Interesting, so when someone trans has a 'gender' identity they turn into a fluffy cloud and lose the ability to ever hurt anyone.

Aren't there statistics which show, that proportionately, a higher percentage of Trans people with biologically male bodies in prison are incarcerated for sexual crimes than people in prison with biologically male bodies who don't identify as Trans.

I'm sure you must be right and that the trauma of rape by some cohorts of biological males is significantly lessened when they don't identify as men.

You say that "men don't need to be Trans to gain access to women's spaces to hurt women." Do you think easier access would have no effect? Should access be given for all men then if you think there is no increased safety attached to there being women only spaces. Certainly if you think that "men don't need to be Trans to gain Access to women's spaces to hurt women?"

What about men of a certain age, or impotent men, or men with disabilities? Is there any reason for them to not be allowed in women's spaces. They would be less of a threat to women that fully functional biological males, in their prime. Or as you mention suicide, maybe men with suicidal thoughts? You think men with higher suicidal tendencies are less threatening to women.

This
Leafygreen88 · 23/10/2020 09:00

@Pertella

"Properly transitioned"

How disgustingly transphobic of you. A trans person is who they say they are. Bigot.

Let's not stray too far from the fact that Rowling's blog post was in part written as a response to events which occurred after a woman committed the heinous act of misgendering Gregor Murray on Twitter.. Halloween Shock bigot.
Malahaha · 23/10/2020 08:54

A lot do make medical changes.

Really? What I've learned, mostly from MN, is that only a tiny minority do.

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