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Jk Rowling and trans issues... talk to me!

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bunters · 20/10/2020 10:17

Ok mumsnet, please talk to me. I’ve noticed that the feminist section of mumsnet seems disproportionately preoccupied with trans issues and I’d like to understand it. I opened the feminism chat today and topic after topic related to trans this, gender that

It is an indisputable fact that women suffer horrific domestic violence in this country (and worldwide), at the hands of men. Women are regularly beaten, raped, controlled, murdered and otherwise abused by men every single day. It’s so standard that it barely makes news when it happens, unless the crime is truly shocking.

This whole trans hysteria feels to me like if the government were to start a huge campaign to raise awareness of the dangers of choking on peanuts, while ignoring the huge damage caused by alcohol and tobacco.

JK Rowling has started a bizarre war around the language used to refer women, in the name of women’s rights. With her money and popularity she could have done any number of things to help women in a huge way. What has this achieved, other than pitting feminists against each other? Even if you believe she has a point, surely you can see that whatever ‘danger’ trans people pose to women is minuscule compared to the very real danger men openly pose to women every day?

We all know that men have felt entitled to take what they want when they want for centuries, and they don’t need to dress as a woman to do it. The women gang raped to death (can you even imagine the horror) in India weren’t attacked by men in dresses. I’m despairing of the fact that attention has been diverted from these horrors in such an extreme way.

When I look at my beautiful, tiny daughter I don’t worry about some trans person hurting her, I worry about the very likely situation when a man hurts her. In fact, I’d worry more that she’ll be trans and be hurt by someone before I’d worry about a trans person hurting her. When I walk alone at night somewhere, my mind isn’t imagining trans people waiting in dark doorways to rape me, it’s men. Men being bloody men.

If we accept that men don’t need to be trans and gain access to women’s spaces to hurt us, and we accept that trans people are way more likely to attempt suicide than the rest of the population (and so really are in need of help and protection as much as women), why do trans issues continue to cause such anger?

And if you do feel justified, what tangible thing are you doing to help women, besides moaning on mumsnet and signing petitions?

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RedDogsBeg · 20/10/2020 17:13

@Quaagars

Cis has no connotation at all of moving or not. It means objects literally, spatially, being on the same side. That's all

On the same side - so your birth sex aligning with you inside then - hence, not trans. On the same side.

Aligning with you inside???? Aligning with what exactly inside?

Is birth sex on the outside then?

RedDogsBeg · 20/10/2020 17:08

@jellyfrizz

Why is it so hideous to accept transmen as transmen and transwomen as transwomen?

Actual transphobia.

How is it transphobia to accept trans people as trans?
Quaagars · 20/10/2020 17:07

Cis has no connotation at all of moving or not. It means objects literally, spatially, being on the same side. That's all

On the same side - so your birth sex aligning with you inside then - hence, not trans. On the same side.

ColleagueFromMars · 20/10/2020 16:59

"This whole trans hysteria"

Calling women discussing women's rights hysterical, how novel 🙄

"JK Rowling has started a bizarre war"

She neither started anything nor do I believe her intention was war. JKR posted her belief in the importance of biological sex and some of the difficulties around the claim that "trans women are women".

JKR has clearly been aware of and researching the issues for much longer than you have.

JKR didn't start the conversation, not by a long chalk. Women with less power than her have had their meetings to talk about women's rights repeatedly physically attacked. Windows hit with bricks and yobs shouting slurs. So much so that these meetings have to be arranged with great privacy. Meetings that are to discuss women's rights Women who hold the views that people with penises aren't women are regularly and repeatedly doxxed and threatened with graphic threats of rape and violence. Isn't that nice.

ErrolTheDragon · 20/10/2020 16:53

I don't think you can define "cis" or "trans" without first defining "man" and "woman", can you? Otherwise one is "having moved or being in the process of moving from a position to another position, where neither position is known" and the other is "remaining or continuing to be in an unknown position."

You can certainly define 'Cis' without reference to men or women because it's got nowt to do with them. Cis has no connotation at all of moving or not. It means objects literally, spatially, being on the same side. That's all.

AryaStarkWolf · 20/10/2020 16:52

@SaucyHorse

Arf.
yup
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ErrolTheDragon · 20/10/2020 16:49

I'm still waiting for Quaagars (or anyone) to define 'cis' and 'trans'.
Her previous answer (to which I responded.) indicated she didn't understand what Cis actually meant, so maybe unfair to press her for a definition.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 20/10/2020 16:47

I don't think you can define "cis" or "trans" without first defining "man" and "woman", can you? Otherwise one is "having moved or being in the process of moving from a position to another position, where neither position is known" and the other is "remaining or continuing to be in an unknown position."

jellyfrizz · 20/10/2020 16:46

Why is it so hideous to accept transmen as transmen and transwomen as transwomen?

Actual transphobia.

OldCrone · 20/10/2020 16:44

I don't believe we've ever seen a slightly convincing response to the simple question: 'if trans women are women, how do you define 'woman'.

I'm pretty sure definitions are considered transphobic. I'm still waiting for Quaagars (or anyone) to define 'cis' and 'trans'.

findyourbacon · 20/10/2020 16:43

I know a lot of people have said not to engage, but I have found this thread really useful. I have been here since the whole JKR 'thing' earlier this year, and I have learnt so much already - but I find it hard to articulate some of the reasoning a lot of the time. So, thank you to the people who have taken the time to explain things in such a rational and persuasive way - especially in the face of accusations of trans hysteria and transphobia.
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AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 20/10/2020 16:43

Thanks, Errol; I was trying not get even longer and more complicated, And you've nailed it for me.

Winesalot · 20/10/2020 16:42

wish not which

Winesalot · 20/10/2020 16:39

straight is a colloquialism meaning the opposite of a perjorative isn't it? Should we keep using it? Hetero, bi and homo relate specifically to sexual status and are used logically.

Describing someone as 'not trans' is forcing everyone to have a gender identity which only serves to benefit those who which to claim a gender identity. It has no relevance in the discussion of humans. Like clownfish has absolutely no relevance in the discussion of human sex categories but that trope is rolled out forever to indicate that biology is complex.

The term is not fit for purpose and like many of the linguist aspects of 'gender identity' has been repurposed clumsily.

ErrolTheDragon · 20/10/2020 16:37
  • I think that explains why women on the whole don't like it: it classifies each of them as a member of a subset of what they are, while what they are becomes exclusively for others.

It's worse than that; it defines actual women as a subset of a 'women' that has become undefinable. (And don't blame me if that sentence isn't easily comprehensible!). I don't believe we've ever seen a slightly convincing response to the simple question: 'if trans women are women, how do you define 'woman'.

Iheardarumour · 20/10/2020 16:33

I've skimmed the thread. I am amazed that PP have to explain yet again the issues and yet again links have to be posted. The OP is lazy. Interestingly, she hasn't checked in for some hours.

Anyway, I don't know any transpeople but I do know plenty of gay and lesbian people through work. The impression I get from the OP is s/he is a bigot towards my LGB friends...the phrase "gay women" is blatantly bigoted. S/he also sounds like a very privileged person who because she has no experience of something, says it doesn't exist. Her language reveals she claims to be a feminist, but by not defending lesbians and saying womens' experiences are false, she is a blatant misogynist.

LouHotel · 20/10/2020 16:31

The mental gymnastics you must be achieving to go from highlighting India's rape crisis as an area feminist is not concerned about (we are) to your next and last post highlighting that you understand the issue of prisons but as proportionally women are not in prison you dont get why we're concerned.

Do you not see how strange your thought process is?

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 20/10/2020 16:27

By that terminology trans women are women; women who were born with female genitalia and have always been first girls and then women are cis women.

I think that explains why women on the whole don't like it: it classifies each of them as a member of a subset of what they are, while what they are becomes exclusively for others.

Gay and lesbian are subsets of a sex so an analogy of cis with those words falls down at that point. Sort of like the difference between a red-head and a human being: red-heads are a subset of human beings, human beings are not a subset of red-heads.

InspiralCoalescenceRingdown · 20/10/2020 16:26

@Quaagars

Assuming you really want an answer -

What is Cis?

From what I can gather, just means not trans.
Kind of like being straight means not gay/lesbian.

Bisexual people are not gay, but they are not straight, either.
RedDogsBeg · 20/10/2020 16:19

@BovaryX

How can a transwoman be a woman if they cannot change sex?

Because one of the explicit aims is to sever words from their meanings. It is to subvert the relationship between words and the external reality they describe. It is to pretend that words are mere emphemera, used randomly to describe whatever subjective fantasy dominates the speaker's internal landscape. If you don't submit to the Newspeak dictionary? You must be cancelled.

Agree, but I was hoping Quaggers could enlighten me on the subject.
OldCrone · 20/10/2020 16:17

@Quaagars

Assuming you really want an answer -

What is Cis?

From what I can gather, just means not trans.
Kind of like being straight means not gay/lesbian.

Straight means heterosexual/ attracted to members of the opposite sex. Gay/lesbian means homosexual/attracted to members of the same sex.

Can you give similar definitions for trans and 'cis'?

BovaryX · 20/10/2020 16:16

How can a transwoman be a woman if they cannot change sex?

Because one of the explicit aims is to sever words from their meanings. It is to subvert the relationship between words and the external reality they describe. It is to pretend that words are mere emphemera, used randomly to describe whatever subjective fantasy dominates the speaker's internal landscape. If you don't submit to the Newspeak dictionary? You must be cancelled.

ErrolTheDragon · 20/10/2020 16:16

From what I can gather, just means not trans.

No, cis a technical term which relates to spatial arrangements (eg chemical groups, geographical features). 'Trans' is be used as its counterpart in that context, but is also used in other ways (eg 'transplant, transport'). The use of Cis in relation to sex or gender is a false pairing.

KOKOagainandagain · 20/10/2020 16:15

Biology still matters - regardless of identity arguments - in terms of heath issues and in terms of the way that data is collected and analysed.

This is ever more pertinent when dealing with a virus that impacts differentially according to biological sex - not self affirmed gender identity.

How can you analyse sex difference in disease processes if self id is the norm? Aside from women suffering prostate disease/cancer and similar anomalies we need to break from the man as norm in relation to eg heart disease. We can't do this unless sex is recognised as an objective category that is not overwhelmed by subjective priority.

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