Surrogacy gone wrong - Parents split and left the mother pregnant with twins

She seems to reel from pregnancy to pregnancy.

There's something in this, both in relation to Mrs Radford and the 'serial' surrogate mothers. I'm not a therapist but stories I've read from the SMS themselves speak about feeling special, and 'whole' whilst pregnant, 'empty' having given birth, and how everyone says what a generous woman you are, by giving the 'most special gift' (the irony of that sounding commercial is not lost on me).

Susan A Ring, who I mentioned earlier, admits she is a people-pleaser and she said immediately after giving birth to the twins she had adopted she wanted to do it again. I think there's something going on inside you if that is literally your first thought.

I think there might also be something in how you find it's the thing you're good at, that your value is measured by this and that it's sort of your contribution to the world. I think that's very sad if true.

I think for something to be truly altruistic it has to be slightly detrimental, as in, if you get that warm fuzzy glow then that is a personal benefit. It has a sort of twisted, brainwashing element to it for me somehow.

As I don't agree or support surrogacy of any kind then I don't support supposedly 'altruistic' surrogacy. To pay a 'cost' of surrogacy is to pay for the rental of a womb, the lodging of the foetus you want to parent. To rent a womb you have to rent a woman, in doing so you can't see a that woman as a human being.

And of course her children are biologically related to her own children so it's not so cut and dried as just waving them off to a new family, they are integral to her own.

I've seen surrogate mothers in Canada extolling the benefits of the Canadian laws as they are altruistic as its expenses only but they didn't respond when I asked what expenses were covered.

I suspect that women who are vulnerable, in poverty or struggling and with mouths to feed would benefit from having their personal bills being taken care of for almost a year. If one adult's costs were absorbed elsewhere it would have a significant impact on a struggling family. I too am concerned for this young woman and her mental health. The pressure she must have been under with that situation, once you're pregnant in a surrogacy arrangement there's not a lot you can do. I suppose she could have had a late term abortion, though that's also traumatic and I don't know of the laws around this in Canada.

But the parents? They can just vanish with thy no consequences. Despite their infrequent contact it took a private investigator to track down the commissioning father! And there was no word of the commissioning mother.

It remind me of the story from Susan A Ring, though hers was far worse. She wrote a book about it "Unexpected Mother" and also has the surviving twins adopted (one was terminated in the womb against her wishes).