@CarolJenkyns
i think what i'm struggling with is that Rosie has said the criticism she's been getting for her beliefs is misogynistic, but then both people who quit her team are women
Welcome to Mumsnet, OP.
That paper is deemed wholly unreliable by Wikipedia, of all places. So I'd not place your faith in their claims of anonymous feminists, rushing to deny sex is a lived reality, and condemning a woman - a survivor of male patterned violence - for pointing out that women have a stake in our own definition and our own rights.
Any woman who has a problem with that is no feminist. And we have no evidence whatsoever that these women even exist. It's not as if any other more reputable paper has talked to them, as far as I'm aware.