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When I First Joined Mumsnet

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DoctorTwo · 07/10/2020 22:41

I was warned by some posters not to visit 4 sections: AIBU, as that was bunfight central, The Doghouse, as they were batshit, Style & Beauty, as it was a bitchfest, and FWR, because I'd get eaten alive. Being a contrary type I immediately clicked on FWR and started reading and nodding along. This would be late 2011 and Dittany was still posting. I thought she was great.

One of the first threads I started was in this section, and a lovely poster recommended I repost it in AIBU. So I did. Oh. My. Giddy. Aunt. The first few posts were supportive, but the following 900 or so handed me my arse. But, a positive: despite me pointing out my sex, most of the posters referred to me as 'she'. Which was weird.

Anyway, my point is I read this section most days, post only occasionally and this is the first thread I've started here in ages, and I just want to say thank you all for helping me learn about what feminism actually is and how I can teach myself how to be a better man. You're not scary, you rock.

Any typos are my own, my laptop doesn't have the auto whatever.

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SophocIestheFox · 08/10/2020 08:15

You’ve not had the full experience until you’ve had your arse handed to you Grin

It’s not scary here, and S&B isn’t either, but I still tend to bodyswerve both AIBU and the doghouse as they are both a bit...full on for me.

brendansbuddy · 08/10/2020 08:04

There's a sustained attempt to paint FWR as right-wing and transphobic when in fact it's a rare place that allows debate and expression of differing views and the airing of uncomfortable truths. It is rarely hateful and heavily-policed but those keen to close down debate and discussion of things like child safeguarding are all over it. It's impressive that it nonetheless prevails.

Merename · 08/10/2020 07:29

I’m interested what it is you’ve learned that helped you be a better man? If that can be summarised after 9 years!

LumpySpacedPrincess · 08/10/2020 07:25

I've been here for years too, learnt so much. I miss Dittany and many other posters. I am in awe of the women on here who are helping steer us through choppy waters.

RufustheSniggeringReindeer · 08/10/2020 07:17

doctortwo didnt say he thought S&B was a bitchfest

He said he had been told by another poster that it was

Im now interested to Know whether he ever went on S&B 😀

risefromyourgrave · 08/10/2020 07:12

FWIW, I have never experienced a ‘bitchfest’ on S&B, I find people on there supportive and willing to go out of their way to offer advice.

CorianderLord · 08/10/2020 03:22

I don't really understand your point? You want other women to agree that women's are bitches?

In 2011 I was in secondary school - and yet you seem more concerned with others opinions

AgnesNaismith · 08/10/2020 01:43

SmileCakeBrew

ginandbearit · 08/10/2020 01:31

Yes me too ..Dittany was around and I learned so much and had to reflect on so many things I took for granted as a man ..better educated now , thanks .

Highwind · 08/10/2020 00:24

There is a wealth of experience, intelligence and passion here that when channeled into a singular goal, is absolutely outstanding to behold.

I am in awe of the women on this board. I can only hope to be able to become as ‘difficult’ as possible too! Work in progress!

FFSFFSFFS · 07/10/2020 23:28
Smile
persistentwoman · 07/10/2020 23:23

What a nice post. Smile

fakenina · 07/10/2020 23:02

Smile always keep learning.