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Mermaids and the evolving understanding of gender identity.

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ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 24/09/2020 20:11

Given recent events, I thought it would be interesting to trawl the Wayback Machine and see how the organisation has developed over time with regards to diagnosing children as transgender.

What is Gender Dysphoria?

2009
Gender Identity Disorders in infancy, childhood and adolescence are complex and have varied causes: in the majority of cases the eventual outcome will be homosexuality or bisexuality, but often there will be a heterosexual outcome as some gender issues can be caused by a bereavement, a dysfunctional family life, or (rarely) by abuse. Only a small proportion of cases will result in a transsexual outcome
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2010
Gender dyphoria, also known as Gender Identity Disorder, applies to someone who is unhappy with their biological sex and who wishes to belong to the other one.

Gender Identity is the sense of belief that "I am male" or "I am female". A child becomes aware of its gender identity before or around the age of five years, in many cases as early as 2 or 3 years of age. In most people their gender identity is the same as their sex, i.e. a woman or girl feels she is female and a man or boy feels he is male, but in a few people their gender identity and their sex do not match, and this can cause problems.

Gender Identity Issues vary considerably, some may be transient in nature, and some may not. They may arise when a child exhibits cross-gender behaviour to some degree or other. Some may be boys who prefer to take the female role or vice versa; others may have a compulsion to play with toys mostly used by the other sex (for instance, a boy who predominantly plays with dolls or a girl who always plays with action men and 'army toys'). Some children may only feel comfortable when playing with peers of the other physical sex, or may cross-dress from time to time.

Some children may be unhappy about their own biological sex and either wish to belong to the other one, or feel that they actually do; some adolescents may experience a crisis over a problem of gender identity or sexual orientation, or both. These situations can lead to considerable concern and distress for all those involved.
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2012
For example, your daughter may say that she wants to be a boy, or your son may identify himself as a girl. Or perhaps you are worried about your child's cross gender behaviour, but they won't discuss it with you, and instead are isolated and withdrawn.

Or it may be you, as a young person, and you feel that your body is wrong, and that you should have been a girl if you were born a boy, or a boy if you were born a girl.
(Added to 2010 description)
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They seem to have removed their page about gender dysphoria sometime after 2016. However, we can glean some information about how to diagnose children from their parent testimonials

2019
"Kelly"
“From the age of two we started to notice that Evie didn’t quite fit in. I thought that my son was going to be gay, but it became apparent that there was something more than that.

“Evie always wanted to play with dolls, and never had any interest in traditional boys toys, like cars or dinosaurs. We had an older son and the two could not have been more different.

“Evie loved bracelets and constantly wanted to wear one, and when I bought the children Guess Who? to play she unclipped all the female faces and put them in a handbag to carry around with her.

“Evie would look longingly at other little girls who were wearing dresses or skirts, and every time I picked her up from the childminder she would be have raided the dressing up box for a princess costume. She would come to the door to meet me in a sparkly pink dress and a tiara with a big smile on her face.

“At other children’s houses she would love putting on the princess outfits, and would have a meltdown when she had to take them off as it was time to leave.
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"Denise"
“We didn’t notice Sally having any particular problems or issues as she was growing up, but her primary school was very small and the classes were mixed together in infants, so there was no real distinction between boys and girls or age groups.

“But looking back I can see there were pointers. Sally always wanted to play with the dressing up box, and she always wanted to be a princess. She always wanted long hair too.
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Notyoungbutscrappyandhungry · 26/09/2020 21:00

For the record he is very happy in his body whilst enjoying all things sparkly.

Notyoungbutscrappyandhungry · 26/09/2020 21:00

“Evie” could be my son. I don’t get why any of those things are gender related Confused

But then I don’t believe in gender stereotypes.

Catiopea · 26/09/2020 20:55

I read all of this and keep coming back to the question ‘who benefits from a whole swathe of children/young people being emotionally damaged and divorced from their physicality’ and there is no answer I can think of that is remotely positive.

I sincerely hope the NHS puts enough resources into good mental health services to try and offset the damage already done and try to mitigate how much more vulnerable to exploitation those affected will have been made.

TyroBurningDownTheCloset · 26/09/2020 17:49

nauticant your straightforward arithmetic may be missing something - the fact that there are two strands to dysphoria. It's not necessarily about wanting the body of the opposite sex; certainly the old transsexuals' accounts made it clear their issue was an inability to make peace with their maleness.

What's going on with the explosion of trans identities in girls and young women is their disconnection from their being female. The majority don't want male bodies per se, they want bodies that aren't female.

If it's characterised as "wanting the body of the opposite sex" you leave the door open to the less savoury motivations, while excluding all those women and girls developing dissociative disorders who nevertheless don't wish to be male.

If it's characterised as "not wanting the body of this sex" then we're able to analyse what's going on without the gender-euphorics clouding the issue. Because the gender-euphorics clearly do enjoy the body they have.

ErrolTheDragon · 26/09/2020 17:33

@yourhairiswinterfire

Looks like the Guardian missed the memo (sorry if it's been posted already)

twitter.com/guardian/status/1309866584735875072

Little Girl Review-tender film about a girl born in a boy's body.

Oh dear oh dear oh dear oh
EwwSprouts · 26/09/2020 17:24

deepwatersolo I missed this report first time round and the content is familiar to anyone on here but it's interesting how close the 5 recommendations of 3 months ago (on p88) are to what the gov has announced. Maybe coming from a Think Tank rather than a women's group made it more palatable to some in power?
www.civitas.org.uk/press/transgender-ideology-leaving-a-corrosive-impact-on-society-new-book-finds-optimism-in-scrapping-of-gender-recognition-reforms/

yourhairiswinterfire · 26/09/2020 17:22

Looks like the Guardian missed the memo (sorry if it's been posted already)

twitter.com/guardian/status/1309866584735875072

Little Girl Review-tender film about a girl born in a boy's body.

nauticant · 26/09/2020 17:11

The straightforward arithmetic says that there are perhaps several thousand people with gender dysphoria, in a meaningful sense according to what it was supposed to mean, and several hundred thousand transgender people without it so I'd say the focus is very much on those who also simply identify as trans for whatever reason.

TyroBurningDownTheCloset · 26/09/2020 17:05

So we've gone from:

Gender dysphoria is a crippling MH condition; its sufferers are called "trans"

to

Trans people don't have a crippling MH condition; gender dysphoria is nothing to do with being "trans"

So wtf is "trans" if it's not a person being treated for that particular mental health condition?

Do the TRA actually give a single shiny shite about people with gender dysphoria? Or do they only care about the people with gender dysphoria who also identify as trans?

Siablue · 26/09/2020 16:58

Another thing I have always thought about is that even if you are a woman with a mans brain or vice versa that doesn’t mean that you should have to change your sex or even that that is a good idea.

The neuroscientist Simon Baron Cohen said that there is such a thing as male and female brains and that people with autism have an extreme male brain’. I personally think that is a pile of bollocks. Even if you were to prove to me that I do I fact have a male brain what would be the point of me having a sex change? Why can’t society just accept that someone can be female but have no interest in girly things?

ItalianHat · 26/09/2020 16:42

I wonder if there is a word for the condition of 'feeling like being born in the wrong body.' Surely, that would be helpful for the discourse Mermaids is now engaging in

Well, I’d call it dysphoria. You know, like anorexia or bulimia - other bodily dysphorias.

Oh, but that would mean that transgender would be a mental health issue, and -as I’ve just heard Lisa Nandy say on Any Questions (iPlayer) to suggest that would be demeaning.

Because there’s nothing like a good bit of ableism thrown into this whole debate.

SunsetBeetch · 26/09/2020 16:09

@deepwatersolo

I wonder if there is a word for the condition of 'feeling like being born in the wrong body.' Surely, that would be helpful for the discourse Mermaids is now engaging in...
Like a medical term? Hmmmnnn....
deepwatersolo · 26/09/2020 15:42

I wonder if there is a word for the condition of 'feeling like being born in the wrong body.' Surely, that would be helpful for the discourse Mermaids is now engaging in...

merrymouse · 26/09/2020 15:24

mobile.twitter.com/HJoyceGender/status/1309821243663753221

Tweet quotes Owen Jones:

"Some progressives are debating the legitimacy of trans identity. There is a sense that they are interlopers, infiltrators, sufferers of psychological conditions rather than people trapped in the wrong bodies"

From this

1). You are 'legitimate' not simply because you are human, but because you have a particular identity.
2). If you suffer from a psychological condition, you are not legitimate
3). Your legitimacy is drawn from the idea that people are born with a fixed gender identity that can accidentally be trapped in the wrong body.

Therefore if Mermaids starts to question the 'born in the wrong body' concept and agree that their purpose is to help people who simply feel like they were born in the wrong body, they are questioning everything that people like OJ believe about trans identity and trans rights.

OvaHere · 26/09/2020 15:22

@merrymouse

It sounds as though they are having a bit of a crisis.

Literally 'Born in the wrong body' doesn't stand up to scrutiny, but if you water it down and just say that some people feel as though they were born in the wrong body, then you have to start addressing why they feel that way, and 'TWAW' starts to fall apart.

Hopefully we can stop hearing nonsense about clownfish now.
nauticant · 26/09/2020 15:18

I'd say they've repositioned themselves so there's now a larger gap between what they present externally and what they believe internally. It isn't clear that they're not going to get away with this.

RedToothBrush · 26/09/2020 15:11

@BewaretheIckabog

I’m even more disgusted that Mermaids have capitulated so quickly. It means they didn’t have absolute conviction in their beliefs. To do what they’ve done and the life-changing actions they have advocated on a whim.

If they’d stood by their position and at least pretended they believed their own words it would have been one thing but the speed of the about turn and their inability or unwillingness to fight their corner suggests they knew it was made up nonsense.

Despicable and immoral.

What makes you think they have capitulated?

My suspicion is that with beliefs that strong, even if you change whats on the website thats not going to change the views and attitudes on their forum and of the individuals involved and influencing others.

Therein lies a whole other can of worms that will need to be looked at.

Have they just changed what they say officially so they can still work with various agencies and have access to vulnerable children - and in practice still be pushing views incompatible with safeguarding.

BewaretheIckabog · 26/09/2020 15:05

I’m even more disgusted that Mermaids have capitulated so quickly. It means they didn’t have absolute conviction in their beliefs. To do what they’ve done and the life-changing actions they have advocated on a whim.

If they’d stood by their position and at least pretended they believed their own words it would have been one thing but the speed of the about turn and their inability or unwillingness to fight their corner suggests they knew it was made up nonsense.

Despicable and immoral.

merrymouse · 26/09/2020 15:02

It sounds as though they are having a bit of a crisis.

Literally 'Born in the wrong body' doesn't stand up to scrutiny, but if you water it down and just say that some people feel as though they were born in the wrong body, then you have to start addressing why they feel that way, and 'TWAW' starts to fall apart.

nauticant · 26/09/2020 14:58

Ahh, having had a look I see that when they put up the amended version of the article they used a different URL. The original URL now doesn't go anywhere.

nauticant · 26/09/2020 14:55

It's a coding glitch. You can see the article depending on the route by which you get onto the webpage.

It seems to relate to the fact that last night, when Alan Henness tweeted, they took the article down, amended it, and put up the new version

TyroBurningDownTheCloset · 26/09/2020 14:54

Oh ffs, autocorrect! First sentence was in fact saying "what's been done to vulnerable transsexuals" isn't a distraction. No idea how it mangled that!

TyroBurningDownTheCloset · 26/09/2020 14:52

I'm not convinced we should be characterising what's been done to homosexuals as a distraction here.

We look at the practices of other cultures and see them carving up their kids' genitals, we ask why the everliving fuck are women going along with this, and the answer we get from listening to them is "So the child will fit in with the culture, and not be ostracised, vilified, denied the chance to participate in their society."

This is what we have been doing to homosexuals. Here, in the UK, for decades.

Mermaids were able to take the line they did because the idea of using sharp implements to modify an adult homosexual's genitals, to allow them to better fit in and participate in our violently patriarchal culture, was considered a kind and reasonable accommodation by the general public.

Either mutilating genitals to fit in with sexist cultural norms is acceptable, or it is not. Yet we condemn it there while permitting as a kindness here.

QuestaVecchiaCasa · 26/09/2020 14:38

Alan Henness is reporting that Mermaid's latest spiel about wrong bodies has been taken down. Another damascene conversion on the way?

twitter.com/zeno001/status/1309525078875439105

ItalianHat · 26/09/2020 14:27

For me, the best of the tradition was trying to work out why the material reality (the structure) was still so oppressive despite liberation movements going back a 100 years. And some of that was that power played out through other forces in society - discourse, text, art and culture

@Gwynfluff - yes. Post-structuralism isn't the entire bogeyman in all of this. Watered down, third hand versions of it are. Post-structuralist approaches can actually help feminists to theorise why, as you say, there might be a semblance of equality (equal pay etc), but no real equality, and certainly enduringly oppressive structures.

Other theoretical models about how society, power & knowledge can also help - the cultural materialist approach derived from Marxism, for example.

But the real problem of post-structuralism (or cultural materialism, or Marxism or any ideological or theoretical position and/or analysis) is the people who spout a third-hand version, and hold it to be "truth" and see any disagreement with them, as a moral/ethical failing, rather than what it is - a disagreement.

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