Will it ever come to court? -trigger probably

I remember your original thread.

Just wanted to say it's shocking that they first initially said they weren't interested, then when challenged said ok but are dragging their heels (maybe hoping it will 'go away').

Something needs to be done about the handling of sex offences through the whole system. I don't pretend to know what the answer is.

Good luck.

@DrizzleandDamp have you got legal support? you need support, no one should face this alone

In my experience the Police called when the CPS had made the decision, not an email. But I don't know if that's universal (this was the Met, 6-7 years ago).

I would send an email to whoever is your main contact setting out how long you have waited and asking for a response to confirm when they are going to reach a decision.

He was into BDSM, I never was nor did I consent, it was a second date.

my god.

@DrizzleandDamp sending you all the love and a determined hope that you will get justice and a change in the law. Thank you for sharing something so painful.

@WomanDaresTo how can we help with the rough sex law change?

You poor thing. Unfortunately I know the torture of waiting and getting the 'we know you will be disappointed with our decision but we feel we have insufficient evidence due to ambiguity about consent'.

You obviously want to pursue this, so I'm not going to say what I usually would - which is that it's not worth the effort.
Therefore, yes, I would contact your MP. If he does nothing, try BJ's office.

Have you a police officer contact who you can ask for a progress report from?

It's torture and I'm so sorry that this has happened. Have you had therapy? That is critical - even just coping with the waiting and the police process.

Hello, am so sorry the police and CPS are being so shoddy.

I'd recommend picking up with your lovely women's group - they should have an idea of how long the CPS are taking to respond, and how best to chase.

And definitely reach out for psych support if you feel you need it.

It's Fiona from We Can't Consent to This here - we, Harriet Harman and CWJ have demanded police and cps review all these cases in light of the impending rough sex law change, although we expect to do much more demanding before they actually do anything.

I would write to senior police person, or email as then you have a written reply -a year to pass it to the CPS seems unacceptable imv.

This sounds absolutely awful, have you written to your MP or perhaps Justice Secretary (Robert Buckland)? Its unacceptable your facing this still.