Hello, I’m not really sure if this is the right forum to post this in 
, but out of all the ones on mumsnet, it seems the most relevant.
So my son has a good social life, and since obtaining a bachelors degree took on a role with the Royal Marines, which he is really enjoying as a career. He’s also very into art (drawing, painting etc) which I must admit, he is very skilled at.
Last week he came home for a visit (first time he was on action since the whole lockdown lark was going on), and whilst conversing with him, I dropped into the conversation asking if he was seeing anyone. The response concerned me.
He started talking about how “marriage was a dead institution, and I am not jumping onto that dying trend.” Trying to keep an open mind I then asked why, to which he quoted a bunch of different divorce stats, and talked about other things like child support, biased divorce settlements in court and how he believes it’s outrageous this stuff happens etc.
He’s not particularly the “incel” type you might envision when it comes to this type of stuff, he’s a tall, handsome fella with blond hair and blue eyes, is in great shape and his life is fairly well together too.
However, I think part of this may be him coming from a place of hurt, and that could be how he got sucked into this philosophy the MGTOW type people have surrounding relationships, marriages etc. He had a girlfriend of three years who happened to have two affairs whilst in the relationship he didn’t find out about. She also happened to be very abusive too, and all of this is how I think he may have got sucked into this stuff.
Ever since this he’s refused to get involved in dating/relationships since. When he came back to visit last week, an old friend of his, a pretty blonde girl asked him out on a coffee date to which he declined “no thanks”. He seems hell bent on staying out of relationships and even just going out on dates forever at this point. How can I approach this situation, and perhaps try to get him out of this toxic mindset he might be in? Thanks 