Gender politics of eating a roast chicken!!

Denying biology has got us into quite a mess, so yes, I’d like to see a bit more recognition of different calorific requirements etc. I’d love to be able to order a small medium or large meal in a resto....

The conclusion to this seems to be that it isn’t a Northern thing but a sexist family thing.

I agree. I always give my husband a bigger portion because he is bigger than me and needs more calories.

I’m a breast lady myself. As is DH. Neither of us like legs or wings, we buy crowns!

Something that has come up in this thread is “penis portions” and how it pisses some posters off because it implies sexism, it used to piss me off too, until I realised that matching my DHs food portions meant I put on 3 stone !! It’s taken my body a long time to re learn the correct portions I need, and i actually think we need to encourage people to me more aware of the physical differences between men and women - women (in general) do need less calories than men. Obviously there will be exceptions to this rule- female athletes in training vs man on diet etc, but it’s really unhelpful to just write off the idea that men need to eat more than women because it’s sexist - technically it is sexist because male and female nutritional needs are different but it’s biology that’s set that up, not society, maybe reframing it as ‘nutritional requirements’ rather than ‘penis portion’ would help ?

Now I'm a grown up I have the legs and DH has the breasts though.

We still talking about chickens?

My husband tried to pretend he was being all chivalrous giving me the breast...no fella, everyone knows the crispy bits are the nicest! We tried to pull that one on our little daughter but she has also copped on now so we all compete for wings and the end of the legs, then dark meat. Everyone gets a share. DH gives me the oysters...we both like them so I appreciate it. Willingly handing the nicest, crispiest piece of anything- the crusty edge of a bit of lasagne, the perfect bit of bacon rind- over in our house ( rather than defending it with a sharp fork) is about the most significant expression of love possible. Makes me feel like those swans that mate for life and die heartbroken across their lover's corpse in the end.

This is how I remember chickens being carved up when I was a kid and I'm also northern.

Now I'm a grown up I have the legs and DH has the breasts though.

I'm Irish and my father is a farmer but he always ate the legs. In fairness, it's probably because none of the rest of us didn't like the brown meat. My mother could match him in terms of amount of food consumed and has been obese all her life. A lady portion might have been better for her. I don't have a huge appetite and would probably eat what most would consider a child's portion.
In my 2 adult, one child household, the child was served first - mainly because she's the most important person to me and I want her to have the nicest and best bits to be sure she'll eat it. Then I'd serve myself and DH would go last.

I've come across this too. It's definitely a thing!

I'm northern and have never heard of this. Or any other food division based on anything but people asking for their own preference.

Oh my god yes! This was totally a thing in my house growing up, I had never really thought about it until now! My dad always got the legs and when we go to my parents my mum always gives DH a leg too and we get the breast.

The males always got served first as well, and still do sometimes when we go to my parents for dinner although we do mention it now and take the piss a bit!

I once knew a guy who said he would refuse to buy a woman a pint if he was getting a round in.

What a twat! I'm nearly 50 and always drank pints, but I'm pretty sure my DM and DGM didn't because it wasn't ladylike. My DF wouldn't have batted an eyelid, but my DGF might have.

Male guests always went first. Even Male guest children went ahead of adult women guests once they hit their teens.

Wow- if anything I've seen more 'ladies first' in that kind of situation (or just guests first and no order according to sex of guests or hosts).

This was also how it was when I grew up in the 80s. It was most obvious when we had visitors. Male guests always went first. Even Male guest children went ahead of adult women guests once they hit their teens. It’s sexist bollocks

That may be where we are different
I needed to thoroughly test every assumption about girls

Well to be fair , I have learnt that the occasional half is better than matching men pint for pint...me being a little smaller!

Like toddlers and Bishop Berkeley.

Old enough to know that reference

*And what about those of us who have?

We don't dismiss your opinion, aren't so belligerently certain that because we have experienced thing that EVRYONE MUST HAVE*

We’re just really old and confused, CuriousaboutSamphire And obviously not members of that group that insists if they believe it to be so, then it is so.
Like toddlers and Bishop Berkeley.

Your age, your culture, yes it was a thing which I successfully challenged in my teens

Not sure if it just wasn't ladylike to knaw the leg? Or to have robust taste buds?

I am NE England and it was definitely a 'thing' where I'm from

The chicken oysters were traditionally a delicacy for ladies, but that's very old-fashioned. I accidentally showed DH where they are... perks for the chef, he cooks most Sunday lunches, I do puddings

This was the norm in our family, but chicken was more of a treat then. The chicken oysters were traditionally a delicacy for ladies, but that's very old-fashioned.

Why thank you for that snappy judgement on me and my family!

Should we wear a badge?