Let myself down

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madderose · 31/08/2020 08:42

I've been GC for a few years now. Follow loads of GC people on Twitter, listen to loads of podcasts about it, have just read the Abigail Shrier book. However I'm not "out" except to 3 close friends.

Yesterday I was at an outdoor event with some family and friends of my in laws. One of them was asking about our recent trip on the steam train over the Glenfinnan viaduct.....known as the Harry Potter train....I was describing the trip and then this friend said "but of course JKR is in the news for all of the the wrong reasons now isn't she?" With a knowing nod.

I'm ashamed to say I just blustered it, made a sort of "errrm" noise and then changed the subject.

But I didn't feel it was
The time or place to get into a debate about it, and my in laws would have been annoyed/bewildered at me for ruining the atmosphere with a GC explanation.

I feel I need to have some stock replies ready if this should happen again! And I feel like I've betrayed JK who is so brave and amazing.

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Wondersense · 31/08/2020 08:54

Contradict*

Wondersense · 31/08/2020 08:53

"but of course JKR is in the news for all of the the wrong reasons now isn't she?" With a knowing nod.

That almost sounds to me like your friend was testing to see if you were actually in agreement with JK. Your friend might not have wanted to admit their real opinions because they were afraid, so they tried to err on the safe side and see if you would be brave enough to contract them. I might be wrong because I don't know them. Sounds like fucking Handmaiden's Tale. What are we in these days? Is this Communist Romania??

Jellyeggs · 31/08/2020 08:51

I’ve been in that conversation with friends and said “I thought she was bang on” with a shrug - and with people who are acquaintances more than friends I’ve completely ignored it and changed the subject as you did. I’ve also done the ambiguous eye roll. They don’t have to know who I’m rolling my eyes at.

There’s a time and a place if you don’t want to become the political ranter that everyone avoids. And if you don’t care then good on you, you’re a better woman than I am.

FemaleAndLearning · 31/08/2020 08:51

What sticking up for women's rights?

midgebabe · 31/08/2020 08:47

Innocent questioning

"Sorry I haven't heard"

"But if 'twaw then you'd sleep with them/let you child play rugby with them?"

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