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Transphobic?

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joggingfrog · 30/08/2020 11:50

Ok so I'm pretty sure this is discussed extensively on here, and I apologise if the topic is offensive or triggering for anyone. I am just not sure where to discuss my thoughts.

I have been more and more leaning towards the idea that women (biologically / cis gendered / born female sex) are special in their own right. I am thinking that trans women - while having their own unique issues - cannot really be classed as the same as biological women. To do so takes away from what it is to have been born, raised and continue to live as a biological woman. We face so many issues physical, cultural, political, sexual reproductive, hormonal and work place issues unique to us and we should be proud to be different and unique in that way.

To keep my experience vague, lets just say that I know someone who is detransitioning and this has made me rethink what it means to be a woman. This person tells me their reason for transitioning was what amounts to a sexualisation of women and I find myself a bit shocked. Being a women isnt somethig we get to try on and play at.

I could go on, but I dont want to discuss an individual as I am proably already being disrespectful mentioning them.

Am I missing something? Pretty much all my views err on compassion and I am usually a progressive as far as my ideology. I know that mumsnet has a "TERF" so I suppose it might be said I am looking for reassurance! I am honestly trying to be open minded over all though amd am really interested in all views. If I am being unreasonable please tell me amd apologies if this is offensive to anyone

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Apollo440 · 30/08/2020 12:17

It's interesting that you do martial arts and you think most women have no idea of the advantage males have. I wonder if this is to do with Holywood portraying kick ass female characters? I mean on one level it's nice that women aren't seen as victims but it isn't real.

joggingfrog · 30/08/2020 12:07

Codenamevillainelle, yes thats why I put it in inverted commas, I was being a bit ironic. In general I was dumping all the terms I knew to make myself as clear as possible without knowing the lingo.

Honestly, overall I have not had good experiences so far with the people I have discussed this with in real life. Someone told a friend behind my back that I am a bad parent for believing in biological sex!

I do lots of martial arts and it worries me how many women have no clue how physically vulnerable they are. I think they would be shocked honestly.

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ItalianHat · 30/08/2020 12:03

Welcome! You’re not transphobic and it breaks my heart that young girls are preferring to transition ( to the danger of their health) than deal with being a woman.

Get a cup of coffee and get stuck in to some of the threads here and you’ll learn that you’re not alone!

Cabinfever10 · 30/08/2020 12:00

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EmpressJKRowlingSpartacus · 30/08/2020 11:54

I wouldn’t say you’re missing much. A woman is an adult human female born with XX chromosomes & a vulva & without any Y chromosomes. Better not to use cisgendered here though because it’s considered offensive - gender is a load of misogynist social constructs which all women would be better off without!

Welcome to FWR.

CodenameVillanelle · 30/08/2020 11:53

Well you're quite correct but I don't know what you mean by 'mumsnet has a TERF' and I wouldn't start using that term if I were you - it's a slur against women who stand up for our rights and by your own admission you'd be considered one too.

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