I talked last night with my 13yo DS about JKR and trans issues. It came up because my Dsis is anti-JKR and has previously called me transphobic for not wanting to be called Cis. My Dsis is very dear to me and incredibly supportive, so I’ve no desire to get into arguments with her. My DS assumed wrongly that I believed TWAW. Seemed very upset and horrified that I did not, although he agreed people couldn’t change sex. He said a Transwoman became a woman when they had transitioned and I was denying this. I didn’t manage to get the importance of language over to him. I did say that a huge proportion of TW never have surgery. He shut down on me and I sense that he is upset and shocked by my stance. He has said in the past he would like to be a girl, I’ve certainly wondered if he was trans at times, and he’s certainly a feminine boy. I do not wish him to feel that I’m not supportive of him, but I am at a loss how I should continue. I sent him the link to JKR’s post and said I hoped he might read it. Help!