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''lovestruck student who was given a wrong number by a mystery girl''

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Thelnebriati · 22/08/2020 13:56

How is 'persistent pest who won't take no for an answer and scared his victim into giving a false name, address and phone number'' a romantic story?
The only good thing is that many of the comments (even in the Sun) aren't buying it.

He is a third year psychology student. He is going to be working with vulnerable people. Should one of his tutors take him to one side and have a chat?

www.cambridge-news.co.uk/news/uk-world-news/student-hand-writes-100-letters-18794615

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LadyOfTheImprovisedBath · 22/08/2020 15:04

@Soubriquet

I just hope some “well meaning” person doesn’t find this girl on social media and sends him her information
I do wonder if that's why the guy is hoping for with this article.
PumbaasCucumbas · 22/08/2020 15:03

Grim

diddl · 22/08/2020 15:03

It's a shame that she didn't feel safe enough to tell him that no she didn't want to give him any information about herself.

Having to lie & he actually thinks that she mistakenly gave him the wrong number?

Just shows that she was right!

WaxOnFeckOff · 22/08/2020 15:03

Christ "Amy" run, keep on running and don't look back...

Or on 2nd thoughts take out an injuction against him contacting or coming within a mile of you. He looks like a creep, talks like a creep and behaves like a creep. Next we'll find out that Amy is 15.

Soubriquet · 22/08/2020 15:03

I just hope some “well meaning” person doesn’t find this girl on social media and sends him her information

LadyOfTheImprovisedBath · 22/08/2020 15:03

I hope to god “Amy” was smart enough to give him a fake name too.

Hope so she was pretty clued up to give false contact details.

I don't see how it's romatic to anyone though I wonder if some men are thinking why didn't she just say she wasn't interested as it propably wouldn't occur to them women have to factor in men getting nasty and possible threats of violence with that.

PatriciaPerch · 22/08/2020 15:01

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TableFlowerss · 22/08/2020 15:01

Agree with you OP and most PP’s.

They’ve made it sound romantic and like a love story.

The reality is he’s a bludy pest, trying his luck with a poor girl who clearly has no interest whatsoever! #block

iklboo · 22/08/2020 14:58

There's a thread on FB about this and, quelle surprise, some bloke is on there defending him, saying a man wouldn't mind if a woman did this, it's romantic, she should be flattered.

Mate, you're a delusional stalker with serious boundary issues and breaching her confidentiality in the fucking PRESS! And quit the pouty puppy dog look. Leave her alone.

LimitIsUp · 22/08/2020 14:55

Eek - deafened by ringing alarm bells

GlitterDragon · 22/08/2020 14:55

I hope to god “Amy” was smart enough to give him a fake name too.

I hope this girl told enough people about this strange obsessive man to get a warning about how his obsession has developed so she can contact the police.

Jesus Christ.

LillianBland · 22/08/2020 14:54

@DianasLasso

Prefacing this with a "not all psych students" but having been tutor to a range of students across a range of science subjects, I would say a not insignificant minority of psych students are drawn to the subject in a spirit of "physician heal thyself."
As someone who worked with many psychologists over the years, in the health service, I’m inclined to agree.
oakleaffy · 22/08/2020 14:54

This is frightening.
If the 'girl' was genuinely keen, she'd make no mistake- you exchange numbers with contacts you want to keep, phone to phone- one texts or rings the other, so you have their correct number.

I once met someone I felt I had an ''instant'' connection with- but never saw them again {years ago, before mobile phones} It does make one tend to build up a crazy 'fantasy' of what they'd be like-
What this chap is doing is creepy and stalkerish though.. Poor 'Amy'!.

DianasLasso · 22/08/2020 14:53

Prefacing this with a "not all psych students" but having been tutor to a range of students across a range of science subjects, I would say a not insignificant minority of psych students are drawn to the subject in a spirit of "physician heal thyself."

Muser314 · 22/08/2020 14:44

Wow. That is awful. I agree with a PP, scary, the way he has two polarised narratives, one that he graciously gives her the benefit of the doubt; that she is trustworthy. And not that she is a BAD person who gave him an incorrect number. Because he's too good a person to think that.

Wow. The delusion and the ego of him.

JadesRollerDisco · 22/08/2020 14:44

In this day and age, if somebody doesn't add your number, social media or email then and there they are probably not that interested

PhilSwagielka · 22/08/2020 14:41

It's the Scum, I'm not surprised.

If she really liked him, she'd have given him her number. It's not romantic, it's creepy.

RowboatsinDisguise · 22/08/2020 14:39

Bleugh.

Soubriquet · 22/08/2020 14:35

How many time’s have you seen on tv though, that a persistent attempt to get the girl, ends up winning the girl?

No it shouldn’t be happening and the fact he’s a psych student is worse

MsWonderful · 22/08/2020 14:34

Yy was also going to say he will need to do a doctorate before becoming a clinical psychologist and that is not an easy course to get on 🙏

Autumnsloth · 22/08/2020 14:30

Next time the poor girl will no doubt feel forced to give a false street name, as well as false phone number. (Although let's hope she did that already!)

Dervel · 22/08/2020 14:27

@Thelnebriati not necessarily, a lot of psychology graduates go into marketing. Unfortunately a lot of women mistake obsession from a man as meaning he loves them.

KatherineJaneway · 22/08/2020 14:24

The third-year student at the University of Nottingham said he decided to pen the love letters after the pair enjoyed an "instant connection" during their chance meeting.

I think he should rename that his pecker.

awesomeaircraft · 22/08/2020 14:23

@Thelnebriati this is why Freud asked his wannabe psychoanalysts to go through a thorough psychoanalysis themselves before they approached vulnerable people. Unfortunately psychology is less structured and does not require practitioners to find the skeletons in the closets of their minds before treating others.

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Thelnebriati · 22/08/2020 14:23

I doubt she'll feel safe enough to use that park again.

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