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Wearing a bra

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charlotte2129 · 10/08/2020 14:43

Since having the implant put in my boobs have hurt like CRAZY!!! I'm waiting to hear back from the doctors as all contraceptives do this to me. But wearing a bra hurts so much and is really uncomfortable.

Not wearing a bra is so much more comfortable for me at the minute but I'm worried to leave the house without one on. If I saw another person not wearing a bra it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.. but I know other people aren't so accepting and are judgmental on the topic.

What are people's experiences leaving the house without a bra? Have you been judged and what do you all think?? Sorry if this seems like a ridiculous question, I just need some girly advice lol. Please no hate!!Smile

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Melroses · 10/08/2020 22:06

@charlotte2129

Thank you to everyone who's been kind and helpful with their replies 💕 xxx
So not it's a Feminist Choice whether to let your tits jiggle?

Along with choosing to shave your armpits and wearing heels or flats?

No doubt that will make you Prime Minister! Climb High!

StillWeRise · 10/08/2020 21:50

regardless of the bra issue it seems outrageous to me that we are suffering like this because of contraception and GP's are 'very keen' on implants and reluctant to remove them!
Can I remind everyone that if you are having PIV sex barrier methods of contraception exist and don't mess with your body.

Bra wise I think size is the crucial factor- I'm 34GG and would be uncomfortable without a bra, never mind how it looks/what others think.

Mumsnut · 10/08/2020 21:48

The Sloggi ‘zero feel’ bralette is your friend , OP

cravingthelook · 10/08/2020 21:43

I've got fairly large boobs and for the last couple of years been wearing stretchy crop top things...no one has noticed.
Well my best friend has but he's permanently impressed by the cleavage without wearing a bra.

ChewtonRoad · 10/08/2020 21:12

OP, try a good quality sports bra with good support in the band and across the back.

I never wore a bra when at uni and about your age and now gravity has been very unkind with the results, although that's not the case for every woman. These days I wear a light sports bra even when at home because it's just more comfortable.

Until you sort out the contraceptive implant you may find it more comfortable to wear a bra, but finding one may be the tricky bit.

Utini · 10/08/2020 20:49

I haven't worn one in years. My family think it's odd and I used to get comments from my mum and sisters, so I guess it must be noticeable. No one else has ever mentioned it and I stopped feeling self conscious about it a long time ago.

Monstamio · 10/08/2020 19:57

*They're a happy medium...

Monstamio · 10/08/2020 19:57

You might be better off with a bralette rather than a traditional underwire.They're a happy medium until you can get your implant out and everywhere from M&S to Tu sell them now. Very popular among women who are breastfeeding as they are comfortable but still provide some support.

highame · 10/08/2020 19:42

Saggage I assume that's a technical term 😂

Dorobie · 10/08/2020 19:33

They look like moobs

Dorobie · 10/08/2020 19:33

I’m pretty flat chested... an AA cup and I still wear a bra as I look like I have puppies noses under my top. They’re pointy as there’s no weight to them.

charlotte2129 · 10/08/2020 19:20

Thank you to everyone who's been kind and helpful with their replies 💕 xxx

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charlotte2129 · 10/08/2020 19:18

@Melroses

This OP is just plain weird. Confused
Get off my post then sweetheart xx
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CousinKrispy · 10/08/2020 19:15

I had my implant removed early as I had horrendous mood/mental health side effects. The GP was a bit sour-faced about it but did agree. Definitely keep asking if you are sure you want it out and explain how uncomfortable it is making you. Good luck.

Melroses · 10/08/2020 18:12

This OP is just plain weird. Confused

stumbledin · 10/08/2020 17:43

Still saying your question is valid here, but wonder if a question your reaction to the implant might be worth sharing on the health board. To deal with that aspect, though hope your GP will get back to you soon.

NettleTea · 10/08/2020 17:35

When I was a little B cup I didnt wear one or did. It didnt seem to make much difference. Then children and I went from B to C and then D, so wore one for years.
Now, peri / menopausal and its so damned uncomfortable that the majority of the time I dont.
the only times I do it for something formal or if something I want to wear is just not cut for the saggage. But Im likely to rip the damn thing off as soon as I get home.

charlotte2129 · 10/08/2020 17:14

@EBearhug

I rarely wear one. I have a couple of thin tops I wear one with, and I wear one for yoga. I am just a A-cup though. I guess I might make a different decision if I were larger - probably it would depend on how comfortable I felt.

How long ago did you have the implant? I think a little time for it to settle is one thing, but if it's going on and on and your breaststroke are still really tender, that's another, and I agree you should go back to your GP. They like long term contraception, but if it's too uncomfortable for you, then maybe you should be thinking about other forms; not all GPs will be keen on this idea. But regardless of whether or not women should wear bras or not, it's generally accepted that we do, so they should feel comfortable, and if contraception means bras which were okay no longer are, then you shouldn't be expected just battle on with a stiff upper lip. Nor sore breasts.

I'm only a small B cup so maybe I could get away with it like you.

I've had the nexplanon implant since July last year but still having problems, I'm going to definitely have to put my foot down because I've had enough now. Thankyou for your reply! X

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charlotte2129 · 10/08/2020 17:08

@twoHopes

Just chiming in to say that I agree with the PP, you shouldn't be expected to put up with sore boobs. Keep making a fuss with the GP until you find contraception that works for you. And if you can't then put your foot down and insist on a condom. Life's too short for sore boobs.
I agree!! I've been asking for it to be taken out since Feb😤
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charlotte2129 · 10/08/2020 17:07

@highame

Not me, could put somebodies eye out
Omg😂😂😂😂
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charlotte2129 · 10/08/2020 17:06

@DDemelza

You totes sound just like the kind of female chick I would like to discuss my girly boobs with. LOL.

Xox

Haha yes! Someone who understands😂😂😂xxx
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DDemelza · 10/08/2020 16:43

You totes sound just like the kind of female chick I would like to discuss my girly boobs with. LOL.

Xox

twoHopes · 10/08/2020 16:37

Just chiming in to say that I agree with the PP, you shouldn't be expected to put up with sore boobs. Keep making a fuss with the GP until you find contraception that works for you. And if you can't then put your foot down and insist on a condom. Life's too short for sore boobs.

EBearhug · 10/08/2020 16:17

I rarely wear one. I have a couple of thin tops I wear one with, and I wear one for yoga. I am just a A-cup though. I guess I might make a different decision if I were larger - probably it would depend on how comfortable I felt.

How long ago did you have the implant? I think a little time for it to settle is one thing, but if it's going on and on and your breaststroke are still really tender, that's another, and I agree you should go back to your GP. They like long term contraception, but if it's too uncomfortable for you, then maybe you should be thinking about other forms; not all GPs will be keen on this idea. But regardless of whether or not women should wear bras or not, it's generally accepted that we do, so they should feel comfortable, and if contraception means bras which were okay no longer are, then you shouldn't be expected just battle on with a stiff upper lip. Nor sore breasts.

LookAtTheCahhOlivahhhhh · 10/08/2020 16:15

I don't notice whether other women are wearing a bra or not, just be you.

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