More places asking me to state my prounouns. WWYD?

Oh I'm dreading this.
My pronouns are the general female ones, but being asked what i would prefer would be difficult for me because I dont care but would love to be able to identify out of being female
I find it quite stressful tbh - same with being asked about sexuality, religion, disability. I tick "prefer not to say" whenever it's an option

Yeah. I grew up when it was de rigueur for feminists not to state their sex on forms and to write applications in relatively gender-neutral terms because we knew that outing ourselves as women would likely mean we were passed over - pretending to be a bloke would at least get us in the door to an interview where we'd have to answer questions about our breeding habits. This has changed some for the better, but not wholly. I would still like to keep me sexed identity hidden on many occasions - putting pronouns is like an invite to discriminate on the basis of sex.

I'm not comfortable stating my pronouns, but you can call me
There's a danger that this could lead to further probing (possibly not in the meeting but afterwards) e.g. 'Do you mean you never use pronouns?' etc. I think you need an answer that is sufficient in itself.

truth be told I DO have a preference, my biological sex based pronouns.
I think normally it's better to be as true to yourself as you can so could you base your answer around this? e.g. 'I prefer to use the pronouns for my biological sex, which is...'

Personally I wouldn't bother with the smile. Just be courteous.

It. Haha. I have some family who naturally don’t use pronouns in mother tongue. I’m not unused to being called ‘he’.

God I made a mess of that. I wish there was an edit function. I meant to say 'I don't feel comfortable in being part of compelled speech. It feels like bullying to me. I think people should be free to refer to me in any way they see fit.'

How about saying 'I don't feel comfortable in being part of compelled speech. It feels linne bullying to me. I think like people to be free to refer to me in any way they see fit.' Hear hear to the poster who said that we need to show solidarity to the women who have been brave enough to stand up against this. As that nazi scholar (Dietrich hoffmann??) said 'not to speak is to speak. Not to act is to act. '

I guess your pronouns are the ones you use to refer to yourself.
So 'I', 'me', 'mine', 'myself'?

Ask people to vote? Or demand everyone just uses the same one.

And if they press you for your gender identity, play dumb:

'Gender identity? What's that?'

'Oh, I don't know what mine is. How can you tell?'

'I don't know if I do always feel like a woman - some days I think I feel like a man! What does "feeling like a woman" feel like?'

'Well sometimes I do like watching the rugby and having a beer. What does that mean? Should I consider myself non binary?'

'To be honest, I still don't have a preference about my pronouns. Call me what you want.'

Just act confused and like you hadn't given the matter any thought whatsoever.

I haven’t in person but have on forms. If I’m being kind I ask for the relevance to the form/ questionnaire. No one has ever actually got back to me on that - especially the one sent by a business set up for women asking about how women were managing with lockdown - ie childcare, home tutoring, looking after elders/shielding, managing relationships and homeworking, housework, plus job security, pay cuts, etc.

I even emailed the MD To ask why they didn’t ask my sex but suggested a long list of ‘gender identity’ instead but she didn’t reply...

Yeah, I was going to say that you should say you're not bothered/don't mind/don't have a preference.

I think it undermines the entire concept without being adversarial.

I haven't had to yet but:

I don't have a gender identity.
Or
I am not comfortable sharing my gender identity.
Or
I have no preferred pronouns.

Is what I'm planning to do.

Or ask them to explain what this is and why. Again and again - imagine explaining how the toaster works to your dog. Practice the head tilt confused expression and ‘urrrrghhhhh?’ Noise.

Out-woke them. Privately contact the organiser and point out that forcing people to disclose their pronouns may forcibly “Out” someone against their will; or make them uncomfortable lying to colleagues and friends if they’re not ready to come out yet.

Either that or a firm “I do not feel comfortable disclosing my pronouns”.

Or I don’t have ‘preferred’ pronouns, I just use and expect the people around me to use the pronouns based on my biological sex which is female

So not only do you need to sit and listen through ‘my name is X, I go by Xu/Xe’, remember all the variations and remember to use the right one for the right person whilst also remembering that ‘MaryJane is a He - so are they gay, trans, whatever - mustn’t say anything to offend MaryJane...’

My pronouns are ‘terf, terfx’

I just say I don't care because I don't. No one has misgendered me yet so I assume it shouldn't be too difficult to figure out.

@SatanicDesk

How about a lighthearted “call me whatever you want... just call me ”

"Call me what you like just don't call me late for my dinner!"

One of my Dads favourites.

Just refuse. It’s not relevant. It’s nobody’s business unless you are one of the special ones.

I haven't come across this yet apart from me thank fuck.

I was at a conference about supporting LGBTQI+ young people and were asked to introduce ourselves and give our pronouns.

I just said my name and that I didn’t have preferred pronouns. A couple of people were surprised but no-one can force you to say something about yourself that isn’t true.

How about a lighthearted “call me whatever you want... just call me ”

Oh I'm dreading this.
My pronouns are the general female ones, but being asked what i would prefer would be difficult for me because I dont care but would love to be able to identify out of being female
I find it quite stressful tbh - same with being asked about sexuality, religion, disability. I tick "prefer not to say" whenever it's an option