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Fully outed myself as GC at woke workplace

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McDuffy · 17/07/2020 19:36

It might be stupid in this job climate but I'm reasonably senior and I've just commented on someone's intranet post on why they've put pronouns in their bio and why it's a nice thing to do with a (softened, for me) counter argument (three, actually).
I'm feeling a bit trembly but courage calls to courage. I don't add much original thought here but I learn so much (though I'm good for a Times share token Grin) so thanks for making me feel I'm not alone.

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MoreListeningLessChatting · 03/08/2020 19:54

nor worthy enough!

Honesty is so important

MoreListeningLessChatting · 03/08/2020 19:54

@NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace

This......indeed I wouldn't be impressed and would feel conned that I was worthy enough to be told. Each to their own and all but I know what I like and want and wouldn't be impressed to get the opposite.

"Does anybody know a heterosexual male that would seriously see no difference between dating a woman and a transwoman?
Does anyone know a heterosexual woman who would see no difference between dating a man and a transman?
The last time I got lucky after a wild night, it would have ended 'unpleasantly' if we'd got back to this hotel room and I'd discovered that he was anything other than male!"

MoreListeningLessChatting · 03/08/2020 19:50

I am person on my email.

I don't feel the need to specify any further than my name.

S J Brown (who cares really what comes here?)

TheWordWomanIsTaken · 20/07/2020 12:00

@HPFA

If someone wants to resist the trend but isn't in a position to make waves perhaps the following formulation.

"I will respect the pronouns of anyone who chooses to specify them but for myself I am happy for people to use whichever ones they prefer when referring to me. I will not therefore be specifying a preference in my E-Mail signature"

Nothing that anyone could possibly object to but makes the point.

Yes, good call but I would probably replace 'whichever' with 'the obvious' tbh.
miraloma · 20/07/2020 10:58

I'd be really interested to read your points. I've hovered over the keyboard a nimber of times and bottled it for fear I'd rant too far

Ihaventgottimeforthis · 20/07/2020 09:29

Great article FantaOra and McDuffy - thank you.

Siameasy · 20/07/2020 08:09

My work is male dominated and not woke. Diversity chief has put pronouns in his email but I can’t see white van man doing that. I would just simply refuse to do it - sack me if you want because I will be the test case at a tribunal.

DidoLamenting · 20/07/2020 04:20

@NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace

Does anybody know a heterosexual male that would seriously see no difference between dating a woman and a transwoman?

Does anyone know a heterosexual woman who would see no difference between dating a man and a transman?

The last time I got lucky after a wild night, it would have ended 'unpleasantly' if we'd got back to this hotel room and I'd discovered that he was anything other than male!

Yes , me too. The thought of touching female genitals is revolting.
DidoLamenting · 20/07/2020 04:09

Ibelieve somebody actually took a quip about interrogation as literal fact!

I don't believe that given what you posted that you would not quiz and "interrogate" your employees about their beliefs.

I doubt that keeping their views to themselves would satisfy you if anyone failed to actively embrace what you think they should. After all according to the wokerati "Silence is violence"

ScrimpshawTheSecond · 19/07/2020 23:25

Welcome, lurkers. Nice to see you all. Smile

Winederlust · 19/07/2020 21:42

I'm with you moptophairshop, there are so many amazing women on here who articulate how I'm feeling much better than I ever could.
There inevitably comes a time, however, when you need to put your own head above the parapet. I feel like this is a safe place to start, if only to help with formulating the arguments we'll no doubt encounter in real life.

boatyardblues · 19/07/2020 21:40

Welcome lurkers one and all! The importance of you joining in is to remind other lurkers and the monitors that there are more of us than one might assume, ready and willing to pick up the baton when other posters need to step back. We are many and, no, we won’t shut up.

bishopgiggles · 19/07/2020 21:39

Hello to the delurkers!

moptophairshop · 19/07/2020 21:28

Hi *Winderlust, it looks like a good day for delurking! I think dumbfoundedness sums that up quite nicely, I think I'm running out of words to describe how surreal this whole thing seems. Like Dialsquare I've been unsure about what I can add to these discussions. I see so many thoroughly researched, intelligent arguments that resound strongly with me. At the moment the only thing I can add is another voice in support but I guess it's a start.

Winederlust · 19/07/2020 21:04

not even sure dumbfoundedness is even a word, but it expresses my feelings at this point!

Winederlust · 19/07/2020 21:02

DialSquare and moptophairshop i will join the delurker ranks with you, due to my sheer dumbfoundedness at redtrees' nonsensical posts!

In the OPs instance it was merely an employee posting on the intranet that they intended to include pronouns and why it was a nice idea. It’s not as I understand it any requirement of the company so people are free to do as they wish.
Yet you insisted that to express the views the OP did would be worthy of dismissal (without ever answering the question why). Which is it? Why are you now trying to downplay your contribution -or lack of- to this thread?

IHeartSusanDey · 19/07/2020 20:09

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JellyFishSquish · 19/07/2020 20:07

can you not see the uniformity evidenced by posters across these threads? They read like you’re brainwashed

Gaslighting from Redtree there. Really, are we brainwashed if we believe biology is real and women employees should not have compelled speech forced on them or lose their jobs?

McDuffy · 19/07/2020 19:28

Welcome lurkers!
This is well-timed, it was released today legalfeminist.org.uk/2020/07/19/pronouns-compulsion-and-controversy/

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DialSquare · 19/07/2020 19:22

*Moptophairshop
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I've done the ranting too! Makes you wonder how many lurkers are out there taking this in and biding their time to join in. I haven't until now as I didn't think I had much to add but felt it was time to show my support.

ScrimpshawTheSecond · 19/07/2020 18:18

[quote RedtreesRedtrees]@scrimpshawthesecond We use a range of interrogation techniques Hmm From some of the comments on this thread you’d think my company was a Russian gulag. We are a thriving business with a diverse employee base and women in most of the top management roles (including our GC). We are not some kind of repressed subjugated group suffering at the hands of a tyrannical leader! But from that position of strength we don’t feel the need to repress or subjugate others and we strive to be inclusive. It is too apparent reading through some of the threads on here that in many instances GC serves as a cloak for transphobia (by which I mean a hatred and intolerance of trans people (before someone asks Hmm). Sure people are always extremely careful to stay on the ‘right’ side of the line, but it doesn’t take a genius to read between the lines. It saddens me that the most vociferous proponents of this are stoking fears and divisions where none need exist. Every now and then the mask slips.

@Kit19 I’m not familiar with this term. Presumably a play on derailing? 🤷‍♀️[/quote]
Thanks for attempting to answer, Redtrees. But all you've done is tell me that you are happy with your company and what your aims are. They sound great, laudable and fair.

But what are the views that would have you sack someone? Could you please, and I am asking because I sincerely would like to know, spell out for those of us who are perhaps not as bright as the others on the board, what the views are that you would compel employees to 'seek employment elsewhere'? And how do you elicit these views?

Our company has a policy on diversity, etc. But it doesn't include requiring certain beliefs or views from our staff - I frankly don't think that's my business, as an employer. I have no desire to know the politics or opinions of my staff. I am happy to support all staff as best as possible, and ensure the work environment is safe and a comfortable place to work. But the employees' thoughts/views/opinions are their own.

RedOasis · 19/07/2020 17:40

PS hope you have fun with this one DM!

RedOasis · 19/07/2020 17:37

I don’t disagree with you @crumpet. However , everyone on this board chose to use this board and make their comments on it. No, you don’t choose your ‘employer’s’ policies, but that doesn’t mean they don’t need challenging as they are legally incorrect and disallowed.

moptophairshop · 19/07/2020 17:35

@DialSquare

As a lurker in these boards for a number of years, today is the day that I feel I needed to sign up and comment. I will never understand how someone could read the points being made by the brilliant and articulate women here and not see that being fully inclusive in every way of one group of people will actually exclude many many more of another group of people and for a variety of different reasons. It’s clear as day to me what that will create and how awful it will be for so many but some people just do not seem to care about women and children. They are collateral damage. And I genuinely believe that I speak for many of the lurkers on here who are going away like me and doing what they can to try and protect the rights we have. Slowly but surely the world is waking up to this and most people agree with the GC viewpoint. Which isn’t transphobic or bigoted. It’s all about keeping hard fought rights.
Snap! I've been lurking too and decided today is the day to start taking steps to speak up. So far I've only talked to my husband who looks at me with utter bewilderment as I become more and more enraged by what I have read. Today's tipping point is the cancelling of Linda Bellos, but this just seems to be the latest in a rapidly growing line of intelligent, articulate women being silenced for having an opinion which doesn't fit the gender ideology. I've seen so much hate, so many threats, abusive language and it's ALL been from TRAs. Fighting to maintain the rights of women and girls rights is not transphobic and it is appalling that this view is shared so openly as a means of silencing us.
crumpet · 19/07/2020 17:30

@RedtreesRedtrees has missed the point. There is a commonality here because people with similar views have chosen to come to this board. A very different situation to having policies imposed on a person at work where there is little choice.

Sure there are people who don’t agree with GC views. They’ll mostly be on non-GC boards not here.

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